Time to reclaim desire, permission, and personal authority. Press play and listen to me I explore why so many of us have been conditioned to seek external permission. I call out how culture teaches us to rationalize and soften our desires. Let's name the connection between desire, self-trust, and embodied choice. Cause there's a reason your longings are not random. They are 100% legitimate This Hot Flash episode is an invitation to stop filtering your desires through other people’s expectatio...
May 21
8 min
This episode is a real-time, behind-the-scenes look at what it actually means to live the what I teach. Recently I had a moment where, in the past, that’s exactly where I would have disappeared. But this time I didn’t. Listen to l what's changed How desire can meet internal “scaffolding” and create frictionWhy that friction is often the moment we abandon ourselvesThe nervous system experience of anxiety, shutdown, and self-doubtHow external permission quietly shapes our sense of what we...
May 7
21 min
This episode started as a check-in. A reflection on where I've been spending my energy. Why the podcast slowed down a little. What’s been shifting behind the scenes. But very quickly it became something else. Underneath everything I’m building right now, the podcast, my new publication on Substack, and the work I’m doing with my clients. There is one question that continues to sit at the center of it all. Do you love yourself? I'm not asking about the surface-level, “treat yourself” kind of w...
May 1
20 min
Woo hoo! Episode 50. Be the Fly-on-the-Wall while my friend and fellow coach, Janellea Macbeth, talk about coaching, growth, and support Fifty marks something quietly significant for me. Less waiting for perfection. Less negotiating with myself over the place of my voice in the world. More willingness to let what IS alive, be heard So for this milestone, I chose something different. A real conversation. Together we explore: what coaching actually iswhy coaching and therapy are not the s...
Apr 21
38 min
The emotion wheel is a useful tool. It expands emotional vocabulary. Helps people move beyond broad labels like anger, sadness, fear, or happiness into greater nuance. But emotional language is only part of the story because emotions don't begin with language. They begin as sensation in the body. Before applying language, there is a physical experience. Tightness, heat, heaviness, fluttering, pressure, a lump in the throat, a sinking in the stomach. In this Hot Flash, I explore why the emotio...
Apr 2
7 min
Pleasing often looks beautiful from the outside. Attentive. Devoted. Which is exactly why so many women mistake it for love. It's often painfully to come to the realization that what was once believed to be love was also shaped by something else... Fear. Fear of conflict. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of losing connection. Fear of being experienced as difficult. In this episode, I explore why people pleasing can look deeply loving from the outside, and why it often develops as a brillian...
Apr 1
15 min
Why do so many of us struggle to simply receive a good moment? In this Hot Flash, I explore a subtle pattern I’ve noticed recently: Someone does something supportive of themselves Something healthy. Something they’ve been meaning to do. And almost immediately… instead of staying with the goodness… they say: “I should have done this sooner.” It sounds harmless. But underneath that sentence is often a quiet form of self-shaming that interrupts growth. In this episode I talk about: Why “shouldin...
Mar 26
7 min
What happens when outward attention comes from love… instead of fear? In this episode, I respond to a recent social media trend: Mom...What were you like in the 90s? With reflects on a video, from that period, with sitting on the floor with my three young children. What the video reveals to me about presence, motherhood, and the difference between attunement and self-abandonment. Because not all outward attention is people-pleasing. Sometimes presence is love in action. Sometimes ...
Mar 24
11 min
In this week’s Hot Flash, I wanted to pause on one word, because it sits at the center of how I think, how I strive to live, how I show up in coaching containers, and how I understand the dynamics of relationships: Love. Because most of us were taught to think of love primarily as a feeling. As closeness, warmth, attraction, emotional connection. What if love is something more than feeling? Drawing from a definition that deeply influences my understanding of love. The work of M. Scott Peck an...
Mar 19
4 min
What happens when the world feels unstable, frightening, and increasingly difficult to trust? When headlines pull at your nervous system. Fear can quietly become the organizing principle of life, shaping attention, narrowing possibility, and pulling us away from what is deeply ours to tend. In this episode, I explore the tension so many of us are living inside right now. How to remain awake to suffering in the world without abandoning your own life, your desires, your work, your beauty,...
Mar 18
19 min
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