Everyone's talking about the midterm results like somebody won. In this episode I zoom out and ask who actually did. Red flipped to blue, the pendulum swung again, and the same problems are still waiting: the cost of living, a medical system that profits when we're sick, a Congress stuck in deadlock. I share why I vote independent, the easy math a friend showed me about four Senate seats, and why most of us want far more of the same things than the two parties let us see. If this episode opens something up, share it with someone you've been afraid to talk politics with. United Independent Movement: https://unitedindependents.us/

Stuck in situationships while saying you're ready for a relationship? For years I said I wanted one. Fifteen years of journals told a different story: I loved the highs of single life, and I was waiting for someone who would make them higher. In this episode I talk about the two wants hiding inside "I want a relationship," why fireworks are the wrong test for love, the difference between an activated love and a settled one, and what happened two weeks after I finally committed on the inside. If you keep saying you're ready and nothing changes, this one is for you. Go deeper with the Modern Dating Is Broken masterclass: https://www.adamroa.com/modern-dating-is-broken

Why do so many of our attempts to change our lives fade after a few weeks? In this episode I walk through the three stages I've come to trust for actually becoming a different person. Awareness, where we build mirrors so we can see our blind spots. Integration, where we make new choices, which takes far more safety and support than willpower alone. And embodiment, where those choices become so natural they stop costing us energy. Simple, not easy. And only once we become that person does a new life become available to us. Start with the free Soul Scavenger Hunt: https://create.adamroa.com/soul-scavenger-hunt Get your copy of my new book (or audiobook experience): www.AdamRoa.com/crazylove

After a breakup, almost all of us wonder about getting back with an ex. Maybe we just need some time. Maybe we love each other enough to find our way back. In this episode, I talk about what happens energetically between two people when a relationship ends, and the three paths open to you from here. Only one gives getting back together a real chance of lasting. If you're in the middle of a breakup right now, I hope this brings you a little clarity and a little tenderness toward yourself. My book Crazy Love is out now: https://www.adamroa.com/crazylove

Last night my girlfriend offered me a massage after a long travel day, and a part of me wanted to say no. To be left alone. It's an old pattern I've watched myself repeat for years, one that pushes love away in the name of self-preservation. In this episode I walk through that moment as it happened, why we so often turn away from the very love we say we want, and what becomes possible when we can finally see the pattern clearly enough to choose differently. Join me this Sunday for Crazy Love & Mature Relationships, a free live event: https://www.adamroa.com/crazy-love-mature-relationships

If you keep having the same fight, it may not be about what you think. It may be about a word. In this episode, I share a simple 10-second experiment that reveals why so much conflict begins before anyone raises their voice. Each of us carries our own private definitions of words like love and respect. When two people don't share them, they aren't arguing with each other. They're arguing from two different realities. We also look at how this is playing out publicly right now in the Macklemore and Ed Sheeran story. Join me live on September 27 for Crazy Love and Mature Relationships, free: https://www.adamroa.com/crazy-love-mature-relationships

Most of what we're told about what men need is about output. Protect. Provide. Procreate. The order is everything. Alison Armstrong corrected this for me and it unlocked so much understanding. You create something you value first. Then you protect it. And only once it feels protected can you provide to it, and provide through it. This episode is about what that reordering changes, and how understanding it can make all the difference between a relationship that lasts or breaks apart. My new book, Crazy Love, is out now and an Amazon Bestseller. Get yours here: www.AdamRoa.com/crazylove

Seven years ago I slept with someone when my body was telling me no. The next morning I wrote about it in my journal, crying, and in this episode I read you that entry word for word. It's about integrity, and what it costs to override yourself. Your intuition doesn't come from your head. It comes through the body, and every time you ignore the quiet no, it gets quieter. This one gets into what that does to your ability to trust yourself, and to build anything real. The entry is on page 57 of Crazy Love, out now. https://www.adamroa.com/crazylove

For the last month, I've had resistance to fully promoting my own book. Crazy Love is ten years of raw journal entries, and part of me has been embarrassed to let people meet who I used to be. In this episode I break down the actual difference between guilt, shame, and just being embarrassed, why forgiving your past self isn't about self love, it's about gratitude, and I walk through the two relationships that taught me this the hard way, including one boundary I had to cross before I ever knew it existed. Crazy Love is available now. Grab your copy at www.AdamRoa.com/crazylove If you'd like to watch the videos for these episodes, check out the youtube channel.

Three uncomfortable truths about relationships that most of us are no longer allowed to say out loud, and the science that backs each one. Adam unpacks hypergamy and the provider question, the fear of being alone that quietly makes us settle, and why the intense high we call love is often just anxiety wearing a costume. Drawn from the real journal entries behind his new book, Crazy Love. Not a lecture. A confession, and a map. Preorder Crazy Love at adamroa.com/crazylove.