People pleasing is self sabotage. And you're the one holding yourself back, sis. What decisions and paths have you let pass by to settle for less than what you actually  want? In this episode, I talk about how your people pleasing habits are keeping you struggling and settling, and how the solution starts with you. Mentions:The Mountain Is You by Brianna WiestSister Struggles Coaching ServicesEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

Are you used to saying "I got it. Im good.", even when you're struggling? Maybe it's how you've always handled tough situations and you're on autopilot. Or maybe you've convinced yourself you have no choice. In this episode, I talk how choosing to take on more than you have is a choice you don't have to make. Resources: Can Hyper-Independence Be A Trauma Response?Email me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

This week on the podcast, I talk:Why does being vulnerable feel so damn uncomfortable?What you gain for vulnerabilityHow Scandal's Olivia Pope perpetuated the "strong black woman" narrativeHow opening up in friendships + relationships creates space for honest conversation and intimacy Submit your self care questions for me to answer on the podcast!Email me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

This week on the podcast, I talk:the signs of a good friendshipare you maintaining friendships just to be "nice"?the time my college roommate stole from me!how to know if a friendship is working for youwhen to know when it's not workingEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

This week I break down the concept of "Pet to Threat", a term Dr. Kecia Thomas created to explain how black women are first embraced by employers for our experience and skills, but then held back when we start to show exactly how good we are.  Also hear me go off about my own experiences, finally feeling validated, and ways you can handle yourself at work if this sounds all too familiar. Forbes article: Pet to ThreatEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

This week on the podcast, business owner, writer & blogger Aisha Adams and I talk:Detaching from mainstream society's idea of a woman The "rich auntie" aestheticWhat having a relationship with yourself looks likeThe only self care tip I would EVER take from a manFind Aisha's resources here:Nappy Thoughts BlogNappy Thoughts FacebookLenoir-Rhyne University Equity & Inclusion Institute CoursesEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

Are you a chronic apologizer, even when it's not your fault? Are you quick to absorb blame to keep the peace? Well girl, this episode is for you! This week on the podcast, I talk:Instincts vs people-pleasingCan you really have too many plants?Why you talk yourself out of what you already knowThe steps you can take right now if you're unsureEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

This week on the podcast, it's part 2 of my conversation with Rene Canady, a WOC, Bioengineer, and Wellness Advocate (@jointhighpothesis).  We talk:Intentionally creating spaces that we thrive in, not just tolerateHow taking more risks for the things you want can get you a life you loveFinding our what's important to you = finding your peopleWhy doing nothing about your current situation is only making things worseFollow Rene's podcast: @jointhighpothesisEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

Season 2 is here! And on the first episode, my guest Rene Canady (@jointhighpothesis) and I waste NO time getting into it. We talk:The history of medical experimentation of black women + how modern science still has it wrong.The struggles of being a black woman in the science industry Embracing soft girl season instead of the strong black woman stereotypeHer radical approach against people-pleasing to reclaim her power (it's not what you think!)Follow Rene's podcast: @jointhighpothesisEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com

Feel like you attract people who love your energy but you're the one left drained?Like  you're always giving way more than you're getting and everything is always about them? On this week's episode, I talk about my countless experiences with "energy vampires": How I sus them out, salvage my energy + time, + create boundaries to keep from getting sucked in.Tune in for new episodes every Sunday!Keep yourself accountable to your own needs + sign up for:Zuri Hall's podcast Hot Happy Mess Self Care QuizSister Struggles NewsletterFREE 30 min Coaching Callwww.sisterstruggles.comEmail me your self care questions or problems at: [email protected] the episodes? Subscribe, rate and review with what you think!IG: @SisterStrugglesSelfCareTikTok: @SisterstrugglesSelfCareSister Struggles Facebook Community Newsletter www.sisterstruggles.com