Need help? Shoot me a text!People Pleasing is f**king you up way more than you think.In this episode, John Oakes explores the concept of people pleasing, revealing that it is often not about making others happy but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood. He discusses how this behavior can significantly affect mental health, weight loss goals, and overall wellbeing. Through the example of a character named Cindy, John illustrates the consequences of prioritizing others over oneself and offer...
Jun 6, 2024
42 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this episode, John tackles one of the greatest tragedies of unhealed trauma: the fact that it causes us to vehemently reject good things in life. Why, every day, millions of people actively reject opportunity, money, and caring relationships.How childhood trauma creates a false frame of reference that warps adult judgment.How this warped judgment causes good people to reject good things.Why people get scared when they near a genuine opportunity for change.Wh...
May 31, 2024
1 hr 2 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!Long term weight loss is a campaign, not a single battle. We'd love for the journey to be all success and rainbows, but it usually isn't. If your mental health issues have caused your weight problem, then chances are, they will flare up at some point, putting your progress in serious jeopardy. Today, I'm going to share with you a way of living that helps me avoid weight regain even when I am doing poorly and going off the rails. Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultima...
May 25, 2024
37 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!We all have dark thoughts sometimes, but if you have trauma or severe mental health issues, these thoughts can be WAY darker and stronger. Usually, you are taught to just white-knuckle through it, but there is an approach to dealing with dark thoughts that will not only help you stay safe and unharmed but help you move toward deeper healing.You can learn to see these difficult thoughts and emotions as a doorway into healing rather than merely as a liability or threa...
May 23, 2024
40 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this episode, coach John recounts a story of Cindy and her weight loss journey from 350 lbs to where she is today.This offers a picture of what successful and sustainable weight loss looks like while begging the question, "How did she become this version of herself?"John discusses the five non-negotiable steps that every person has to go through it they want to heal and lose weight for good. Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growthAm...
Apr 18, 2024
40 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!That's right! My first book in the the fitness or personal development space is available for purchase now.In this episode I explain what my book is about, why I wrote it and what you can get from it. Get your copy now and please leave me a review!75 EASY - Amazon USAmazon UKAmazon CanadaAmazon Australia Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge for personal growthAmazon USUKCAAUWeight loss coaching - Join the Weight Loss Freedom Academy todayJoin the free "Lose ...
Feb 14, 2024
19 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this episode, John embarks on a discussion of three key principles to easier, more successful and more sustainable weight loss. Topics include:Common fears about weight loss coaching or programs in generalWhy people shy away from getting the help they needThe power of observing life before changing anythingThe way to play "jenga" with your dietHow to enter calorie deficits in the easiest way possibleHow to figure out the optimal calorie deficit for your best...
Jan 23, 2024
26 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this episode, John discusses the popular fitness and mental toughness challenge, 75 Hard.Topics include:why 75 Hard is emblematic of our self-improvement culturewhere our fitness and self-improvement culture routinely lets us down and keeps us stuckwhy challenges usually serve as litmus tests rather than something that produces growththe problem with pursuing "toughness" in service of successthe problem of seeking out adversitywhy compliance and consistency are n...
Jan 10, 2024
49 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this episode, John recounts the blessings of 2023. In particular, he draws attention to the foods and possessions that made the year great. He covers everything from fitness wearables to powdered peanut butter.Topics include:The benefits of polyamorous garagesPoor flower bed soil (I mean absolute trash)An ode to dairy productsJohn's sick home gym set upBuying rubber mats from a tweakerJohn's Costco go-to itemsand more! Buy my book! 75 EASY: the ultimate challenge...
Dec 19, 2023
36 min
Need help? Shoot me a text!In this podcast episode, John explains how a noble emotion like obligation has come to wreak so much havoc in our behavior. To understand this, he explores the evolution of human societies, the evolutionary context of obligation, and the role of authority. Topics include:How and why human society originated in the form of autonomous, self-sustaining clansWhy increasing social complexity became crucial for survivalWhy social complexity gave birth to authority as...
Dec 14, 2023
58 min
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