You're Making It Worse

Starburns Audio

Although performing stand-up comedy was what initially united Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago, it’s their openness (and sense of humor) about feeling totally lost and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. On YMIW, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the good, bad, and ugly tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features a special guest -- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white, urban-dwelling gay dudes in their thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan check their own privilege at the door, eager to instead explore what life looks for those not afforded the same concessions.

Episodes

Nicole Speizio & Jenny Donheiser

The delightful Nicole Speizio & Jenny Donheiser, cohosts of the podcast How Were U Brainwashed?, join us to discuss the myriad ways we're all brainwashed as kids AND adults, from religion to blue balls! But first, is Elon Musk REALLY moving SpaceX and Twitter to Texas because of...trans kids? And finally, we muse over the recent NYTimes op-ed about the Medium Friend, that person who's just above an acquaintance but below a bestie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 25

56 min

Peter Kim

The hilarious Peter Kim comes onto the podcast to talk about his innumerable credits and why in God's name gays have to dance so much. But first, a new documentary explores whether Abe Lincoln was gay and for ONCE, we have universal agreement about something on this podcast! And finally, we discuss the new air travel trend called "rawdogging" and it AIN'T what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 18

55 min

Vincint

Recording artist Vincint joins us to talk about performing for queer audiences. But first, we explore why young men worldwide are increasingly looking to Cialis and Viagra to enhance their sex lives. And finally, Eliot shares the lore of his favorite TikToker, a straight OnlyFans creator who thinks all gay men enjoy...colonoscopies?! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 11

50 min

Ramin Setoodah

Ramin Setoodah joins us again (repeat guest!!) to discuss his new book, Apprentice in Wonderland, about how The Apprentice prepared Donald Trump for the White House...[sigh] what a world we live in. But first, Dan Savage coined a new term about polyamory and we're curious if you fall into this sliver of the population. And finally, we dive into why millennials are aging so damn gracefully. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 27

51 min

Solarpunk Farms (Nick Schwanz & Spencer Scott)

Nick and Spencer, the queer forces behind the ecological civilization Solarpunk Farms, joins us to chat about sustainability and what kinds of delicious veggies they grow on their farm! But first, the guys discuss Supreme Court Justice Sam Alito's wife, Martha-Ann Alito, and her wild, unfettered contempt for the Pride flag (Brent has a VERY surprising solution by the end). And finally, we gab about the summer of "hot rodent boyfriends," and at least one of us couldn't be happier! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 20

49 min

Dylan Carlino

The endlessly endearing and hilarious comedian Dylan Carlino joins us to chat about getting strep from blowjobs and being trolled by his family. But first, we were GOING to talk about the Pope's use of the word "faggotry," but we got sidelined by lore of Brent's new Nigerian "boyfriend"...er, well, the guy selling him nude videos. And finally, Eliot wants to know what we'd have on our pride floats. That is, if someone put a gun to our heads and made us go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 13

55 min

John Arthur Hill

Beloved producer of innumerable gay canon TV shows, John Arthur Hill joins us to discern between P-Town and Fire Island and YES, if you must know, Andy Cohen comes up, too. But first, ALAN AIN'T HAPPY to learn about GLAAD's 2024 Social Media Index Report about how Big Tech is failing miserably to protect LGBTQ+ users from hate. And finally, Brent reads the "statistically perfect" way to date in the era of dating apps -- and the guys aren't having it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 30

1 hr

Jon Klaft

Wildly popular Los Angeles DJ Jon Klaft joins us to discuss the unique craft of choosing songs for drunk people to dance to. But first, a New Jersey bakery turned lemons into lemonade after they received a hateful note for flying a rainbow flag. And finally, Brent finds TaskRabbit very sexual in nature...but the straight guy he hires to help assemble some furniture does not! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 23

50 min

Par Parekh & Ali Hart

Ali Hart and Par Parekh join us to discuss their amazing new documentary, Sister Una Lived A Good Death, about how a very unconventional nun spent her final year on earth. But first, Alan vents about a recent movie PR campaign that played coy with their straight leads sexualities. And finally, we update our list of dating app red flags including one particular trope that's really weirding Brent out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 16

56 min

Ian Lockwood

Amazingly talented comedian and pop musician Ian Lockwood joins us to talk about his unique twist on pop music. But first, some straight Glee actor named Darren Criss says he's "culturally queer," is that weird?! Are we offended? Or no? And finally, the guys unpack the whole Barbra Streisand/Melissa McCarthy Ozempic debacle during which Brent takes a hard anti-Barbra stand and Alan ain't having it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 9

57 min