You're Making It Worse
You're Making It Worse
Starburns Audio
Although ​performing ​stand-up comedy ​was what initially united ​Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago​, it’s their ​openness ​(​and ​sense of humor) about feeling ​totally ​lost ​and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. ​On YMIW, ​Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the ​good, bad, and ugly ​tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially ​​​straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. ​They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features ​a special guest ​-​- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white​, urban-dwelling ​gay ​dudes in their ​thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan​ check their own privilege at the door, eager to ​instead explore what life looks ​for those not afforded the same concessions.
Reid Pope
The brilliant comedian Reid Pope comes on to discuss their viral "thirst trap recreations," and how unamused many of those self-serious influencers were. But first, will you invest in the NEW Fire Island that's gonna be in Greece, I guess? And finally, learn how gays paved the way for all those straight DINKs out there. No, that's not a sex term, you'll just have to listen to find out what it means!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Feb 22
56 min
Jenny Yang
Comedian and action star (!!) Jenny Yang joins the guys to talk about her self-care rituals and fight scene prep. But first, find out what happened after Indiana opened up a hotline to report "transgressive" public school curriculum like...civil rights 😬. And finally, the guys debate post-wedding name changes but ONE host reveals he's inexplicably anti-all-last-names!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Feb 15
53 min
Hot Topics: Oscars, Nipple Inspections and Straight Dudes Going Gay-ish
The Oscars season is upon us! The guys pepper Alan, resident movie aficionado, with questions about this year's Oscar nods and glaring omissions. But first up, why the hell are there nipple inspections happening at gay bars in Seattle? And finally, speaking of movies like Saltburn [rolls eyes], Alan wants to know what the guys think of modern gay-baiting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Feb 8
53 min
Matt McConkey
Matt McConkey joins us AGAIN (hate to brag) to chat about why Sex in the City resonates with gays and to dish on its infamous reboot...fingers crossed Che Diaz doesn't listen. But first, we explore a new poll that reveals how LGBTs are more inclined to adopt and foster kids but fear of stigma stands in their way. And finally, would any of us visit a psychic? Find out AND hear our favorite psychic fail stories.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Feb 7
56 min
Kim David Smith
TWO GUESTS THIS WEEK! First, cabaret legend Kim David Smith comes on to talk Marlene Dietrich and a million other campy things that went over Brent's head. Plus, "Nate", a full service masseur (yes, Happy Endings included) joined us this week to have a frank, free-wheeling, and de-stigmatizing conversation about working in the sex industry. But first, the guys chat about Rep. Robert Garcia, the gay Congressman who quoted...the Housewives in Congress? 😬 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Jan 25
1 hr 5 min
Maggie Winters
The internet's funniest content creator Maggie Winters dazzles the guys with a convo that ranges from stew to her Disney World employee experience. But first, what do the guys think of the newest most powerful gay politician, France's Gabriel Attal? (Eat your heart out Latvia). And finally, we wade in on the 5000 word [sigh] editorial in the NYTimes about Taylor Swift's sexuality. Yikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Jan 18
49 min
Darby & Alexis (IMHO: The Show)
Drag duo/icons Darby & Alexis (IMHO: The Show) basically come on and make the guys laugh for 25 minutes straight. But first, the guys discuss a Reddit thread about ways to garner 'gay attention' at the gym and why Brent qualifies as "skid row chic." And finally, hear the most precocious, adorable clip of Young Eliot, long before he was unhinged, on Public Radio! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Jan 11
53 min
Carson Garrett from 'Survivor' 44
Survivor FINALIST Carson Garrett joins the guys to be extremely cute but also explore why he's become such a huge gay thirst trap. But first, find out what state is the gayest...percentage wise. And finally, a rare second guest! Alan brings on his good friend, Jonathan Edelman, to explore the DC gay scene and why we should all move there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Dec 21, 2023
1 hr 5 min
Jeff Hiller
The amazing Jeff Hiller, of Somebody Somewhere fame, joins the guys to chat about church, cliche gay characters, and bad improv! But first, the guys had no choice but to argue over the problematic nature of George Santos' Cameo page. And finally, learn what anxieties keep these three up at night. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Dec 14, 2023
58 min
Bryan Safi
The incomparable Bryan Safi joins us (AGAIN!!) to gab about his myriad podcasts and new solo show. But first, the guys discuss a shockingly spiteful anti-trans measure to come from a small community in California of all places! And finally, find out which of the three loves the global phenom Taylor Swift and which are neutral!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Dec 7, 2023
49 min
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