Show notes
Here’s another one of the dope Black podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months. In this episode, we’re sharing our conversation with Dom L’Amour on The Black Man Talking Emotions Podcast, where we talked about how the messages we received as kids that may have kept us stuck, communication, and a number of the other unspoken hazes of life.WHAT TO LISTEN FORThe privilege of open communication [6:13] Creating a safe space for your partner to communicate freely Unlearning negative communication styles from childhood Being able to show up in the world the way you want Understanding our parents were also in survival mode and possibly didn’t have this privilege How our mindset shapes our lives Healing origin story and the need for change [14:29] Learning to express our wants and desires early Growing as a person separately while in a relationship What real, mature relationship looks like Learning communication as an adult Breaking your own heartWhy communication is crucial to make relationships work [22:12] Love language as a means to communicate We can’t always assume that the other person knows what we want and need—it is our responsibility to tell them Lack of awareness could sometimes hurt us Open communication with children [29:05] The dangers of shielding children from “adult” situations Safe spaces for children to communicate Exposure to real life/world situations and conversations Being a “woke” adult with “soft, unaware” childrenBreakthrough and reflection [37:42] Stuck places from childhood Familial dynamics Having the desire to be in tune with yourself Conversations surrounding sex [38:57] The birds and bees with your parents Who talked to your about sex for the first time Church purity culture Everything about our behavior is based on our ‘why’ [50:52] The importance of seeing people for who they really are The why behind The Love Haze Podcast + our mission RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:The Five Love Languages, book by Gary ChapmanListen to Issues/Hold On, song by Teyana TaylorTO STAY CONNECTED: Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment. Follow @iamshate on Instagram Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on InstagramIf you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at [email protected].