Show notes
If you caught episode 70, then you know we weren’t sure if we’d be able to make the last five episodes of the year happen because we’ve been through a lot lately, and we wanted a break. Well, we decided to find a way to work smarter instead of giving up. We’ve been blessed to be guests on a number of other podcasts this year, and we’re sharing a few of those episodes and reflections. Up first, is our convo with Natasha and Damian Carrillo of Black and Brown Make Green Podcast. We had an honest money convo, and we can’t wait to share it with you!WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:The story of how we met [6:43] Dating and ghosting… And dating and ghosting Dating pre and post social media and dating apps Our history with money [14:48] Scott’s history with money How our histories with money affected our marriage Discussing gender roles in moneyLearning to partner as a couple and not roommates [17:44] Discussing relationships we saw growing up Learning what each other desired Seeking help from a financial advisorWorking past differing opinions [20:45] Navigating childhood and racial traumas The scarcity mindset Who is the breadwinner/tackling “traditional gender roles” Honoring your husband as head of the householdBeing self aware [24:44] Where is this reaction coming from? Marriage counseling/therapy Addressing past triggers in marriage Boundaries and communication The three things you need to better communicate [31:03] Understand Express Affirm The biggest lessons we learned [33:58] Do not be afraid to seek help, even BEFORE things get hard. Be self aware of your past so that it doesn’t hinder your future. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:Listen to C.R.E.A.M., song by Wu-Tang ClanListen to Get Money, song by Junior M.A.F.I.ATO STAY CONNECTED: Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment. Follow @iamshate on Instagram Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on InstagramIf you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at [email protected].