Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre
Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre
Hilary & Les
An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community. Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.Send us your questions: [email protected]
The Need For Approval: Part 3
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! SELF LOVE Meditation: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tjt3DfmhVmNyfIQzU68dnIfQKKk78Riv/view?usp=sharing We follow a near-death experience story to a surprising takeaway: being your authentic self matters more than chasing love or applause. We unpack how approval seeking shapes what we think, say, and do, then map practical ways to build self worth from the inside out. • noticing how rules and checklists train people pleasing • seeing ...
May 13
41 min
The Need For Approval: Part 2
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple nature observation and end up at a big human problem: approval-seeking turns self-worth into an outside verdict and reshapes our relationships into bargains. We unpack why belonging and survival fears make validation feel necessary, then point back to a steadier truth that lets us grow without judgment. • birds and trees as a mirror for self-acceptance • approval-seeking as a deeply learned habit that drives behavior&nbs...
May 12
40 min
The Need For Approval: Part 1
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about approval as a learned addiction that quietly trains us to trade our self-worth for other people’s reactions. We use family stories, social media examples, and a parenting study to separate appreciation from identity and move toward self-acceptance. • approval as something we try to control through other people’s responses • how childhood emotional gaps create a habit of external validation • the mismatch between how we want...
May 11
57 min
How To Stop Doomscrolling And Find Calm Again
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about how fear shifts from a normal emotion into a constant default setting, and why many of us wake up already bracing for bad news. We share simple ways to interrupt the loop, then go deeper into meditation, connection, and how hypnosis helps us unwind the mental programming underneath anxiety. • the overcast sky as a metaphor for fear and truth • removing distractions like news and doomscrolling to regain peace • fear as a tra...
May 6
34 min
How To Calm Anxiety By Listening To Emotions
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about why fear grows when we resist it and how to find calm by treating emotions as messages instead of threats. We share simple ways to shift your nervous system, question the “truth” of anxious thoughts, and use imagination to move toward what you prefer. • fear as a normal response that can freeze action • the subconscious mind as a safety system that looks for reaction • emotions as messages seeking a response rather than a s...
May 4
32 min
Your Desires Point Toward The Stars - When You Get Quiet
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! Desire stops being a guilty want and starts looking like a navigation tool, the inner “stars” we search for when life feels cloudy. We work out how to separate fear-based programming from inspired curiosity so the next step becomes clear even when the big plan is not. • the origin of desire as “asking for stars” to find direction • desire reframed as guidance rather than selfishness • ego as the story of being a body and being alone&nbs...
Apr 29
49 min
Desire Or Programming?
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We follow one question all the way down: what do we truly want when we strip away fear, approval-seeking, and the quiet pressure to fit in. We unpack how culture turns ordinary things into status symbols, then show a simple way to spot when “desire” is really just programming. • the gap between authentic desires and socially constructed desires • body mind dominance through survival needs fear and exhaustion • belonging and fitting in as...
Apr 27
43 min
How To Tell The Difference Between Real Desire And Social Programming
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We take on a listener question that sounds simple but changes everything: do we choose our desires, or are our desires shaped by need, fear, and social conditioning. We sort needs from wants, use quick tests to spot programming, and point back to self-knowledge as the clearest path to real motivation. • defining needs vs wants vs desires so we can communicate clearly • noticing how comfort seeking hides inside “small” cravings • separating higher mind des...
Apr 23
38 min
Put Down The Red Pen & Pick Up The Crayons
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We sit with the link between creativity and the inner critic, then trace how judgment and criticism get installed and become a habit that shuts down trying. We reframe resilience as the skill of dropping harsh self-evaluation so learning, agency, and encouragement can lead the way again. • childhood roots of self-sabotage and the inner critic • criticism as a learned habit that spreads to self-talk • interpretation as the source of meaning and distress • ...
Apr 17
47 min
You Were Born Worthy! Stepping Out Of Self Judgement
Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We pull apart the quiet rules that make us tie our self-worth to likes, reactions, and being seen as “normal.” We share a real moment of posting something vulnerable, panicking, and deleting it, then use that story to rebuild a healthier sense of value that does not depend on the internet. • noticing the gap between curated online life and real life chaos • sharing the deleted channeled message story and the fear of being judged • unpacking ho...
Apr 13
39 min
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