Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre
Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre
Hilary & Les
The Need For Approval: Part 1
57 minutes Posted May 11, 2026 at 1:00 pm.
A Quiet Morning And A Big Topic
Why Approval Runs Our Lives
The Dinner Table Approval Story
Defining Approval In Plain Terms
When Worth Feels Conditional
The Dopamine Loop Of Pleasing
Dropping Blame And Seeing The Program
The Part That Needs Disapproval
When Approval Becomes Your Identity
Becoming The Voice In Your Head
Confidence Versus Performing Confidence
Writing Battle And Creative Exposure
Why One Comment Can Wreck You
Parenting With Observations Not Praise
Trading Approval For Connection
Final Reminders Without Judgment
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Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about approval as a learned addiction that quietly trains us to trade our self-worth for other people’s reactions. We use family stories, social media examples, and a parenting study to separate appreciation from identity and move toward self-acceptance. • approval as something we try to control through other people’s responses • how childhood emotional gaps create a habit of external validation • the mismatch between how we want...