Something I always try and remind myself is that the only difference between me and someone doing what I want to be doing is not that they are more talented or capable than I am — it’s that they decided to do it.  They believed in their intention, the why behind what they do and didn't let the how stop them. When I started Studio Cadiz (the architecture & design studio I ran for 3 years), I didn't have more experience, knowledge, money, connections or credibility than anyone else. In fact, I had very little of those things compared to other designers my age, but what I lacked in ability, I made up for in conviction and intention. To this day, I attribute it's success so much more to that than to being a good designer. The paradox of confidence is that we so often  feel like we need to be the best in order to truly believe in ourselves, but we can't reach that level if we don't have confidence to begin with. So realizing that your confidence comes from your intention and not your ability is a huge unlock because it gives you permission to believe in yourself now, not wait until you're some perfect version of yourself because that doesn't really exist. This episode is for anyone who finds themselves getting in their own way and sabotaging the thing that's really on their heart because they keep questioning their ability. It's for all my design babes, the freelance creatives and small business owners out there, or anyone trying to pursue something meaningful to them but keeps getting knocked down by self doubt. You will walk away from this episode feeling charged up and ready to just fcking go for it, I promise.  References in the episode - Lewis Howes Podcast The Venice Project PhotosFollow me to stay up to date on new episodes -@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

Not gonna lie, the past few weeks have been brutal for me and I'm at the point in burn out where I don't even feel like a person. From the 1% of what I share of my life on social media, or the limited time I see people in social settings I might seem like I'm chillin' and have it all together, while on the inside I've low key been a mess. And you know what, that's just the season I'm in right now. When you reach a certain level of success, or finally achieve the thing you've been wanting, sometimes it comes with unexpected stressors. In order to move through them you just gotta do what you gotta do. There is no shame in prioritizing your goals, your self and your pile of work if it's getting you closer to more sustainable freedom, comfort, joy, or whatever you really want and value in life. Follow me to stay up to date on new episodes -@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

Trying to find the words to speak about the heartbreaking and future-altering news we received on Friday June 24th that Roe vs. Wade was overturned and abortion will become illegal in many states across America. Finding an Abortion clinicabortionfinder.orgineedana.comFinding Abortion Pillsplancpills.orgheyjane.coFinding Financial Assistanceabortionfunds.orgNAF Hotline 800-772-9100Finding Legal Assistancereprolegalhelpline.orgaidaccess.orgGlennon Doyle's Podcast: We can do hard thingsFollow me to stay up to date on new episodes - @alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

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This past weekend I turned 29 and had a karaoke rager to celebrate. Going into the last year of my twenties has brought up all types of feelings for me so in this episode I discuss my thoughts on birthdays, getting older, then I dive deep into self love babyyyy. I recently had an experience where I was intensely fixating on a situation and just couldn't get past it. I talked about it with my therapist and my close friends, but it wasn't until one of my best friends told me "I know you're going to hate to hear this, but it all comes back to self love." In that moment I had the biggest unlock - I was fixating on things outside of myself in order to get a feeling that I can actually get all on my own. I just wasn't prioritizing myself enough to create the space for me to do the things that fill up my cup. Instead I was looking to other people and situations to give me that feeling, then blaming them when it wasn't available to me. But in the end, it's not about anyone else, it's always about ourselves.   Stay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

In a continuation from last weeks episode, I dive deeper into overwhelm and break down 7 things to remember when you're feeling overwhelmed: 1. Stop gaslighting yourself 2. You can only do one thing at a time 3. Most things are not the end of the world 4. Everyone feels the same way 5. Don't let it live in your head, talk it out 6. Use the "and then what" strategy 7. Control is an illusion Listen to the whole episode for in depth details and examples for each point. While my last episode was more of a riff on the general topic over overwhelm, this one is meant to give you tangible things you can walk away with and apply to your own life. Stay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

Overwhelm is something that plagues me on the daily. I am constantly trying to keep up with a crazy schedule, scaling a business, so many different projects, friends, family, staying connected to myself and filling up my own cup, etc etc the list goes on. I know I'm not the only one and a lot of us deal with this constantly. Overwhelm comes at us from different directions - from the concrete things we need to do, to things happening in our relationships, to the emotions and feelings we have about those things,  and then the feelings we have ABOUT our feelings. It's a real fcking snowball effect. So in this episode I discuss ways to combat that and just riff on overwhelm in general.  Stay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

Growing up, your identity can be heavily shaped by your environment and the roles you play - things like your ethnicity, where you live, what you like and who you hang out with. That then translates into your adult life in the form of what you do for work, what  obligations you have, what car you drive, etc.  But none of those things are actually who you are. Your identity isn't anything external that you do, its more so about how you feel , your core character underneath all those labels - your essence. When I first heard that idea in therapy I was like, wtf, my essence??? Like, how I smell?? lol But now I really really get it, and I know that it doesn't matter if I'm an architect, an artist, a musician, a  podcaster, a third culture kid, mixed race, or whatever else. Those things don't make me me, what makes me me is who I am without all that stuff, and the same goes for all of us.  The song I mentioned that I just released...Eden Stay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

Recently a spur of existential questions & doubt led me to thinking about expectations - the internal ones we place on ourselves and the external ones that others place on us. In this episode I unpack and discuss how a) expectations can get a bad rep but they're not inherently bad,  b) the theory of The Four Tendencies which is about how we all respond to expectations differently,  and c) that the internal and external expectations we have of ourselves and other people change and shift as we grow and evolve, but sometimes not at the same time. None of us operate in a vacuum, we exist in relationship with other people. So expectations can be messy and are far from black & white. Hopefully this episode gives you some insight into how you respond to expectations and filter through what's pushing you forward and what's holding you back.  Episode references: The Four Tendencies Quiz & InfoStay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast

In a continuation of last weeks episode I deep dive into why tuning into your unique energy and rest cycle is super important and can help you do the following:  1. Stop comparing yourself to other people and their levels of productivity 2. Work with your energy instead of against it 3. Unravel your worth from your productivity 4. Stop putting so much pressure on yourselfI break down each of the points and use tangible examples to explain how to do this for yourself. Doing less does not mean you are less, and doing more does not mean you are more, so honor your energy cycle and trust that everything you want to do and achieve will happen the way it's supposed to the more attuned you are to yourself. xxStay up to date on new episodes at...@alexandrascadiz@attunedpodcast