You've been called too much your whole life. Too loud, too opinionated, too intense, too independent, too picky. You've done the work, sat through the dates, read the books, and still gone home wondering what's wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. You've just been looking in the wrong places.Serena Kerrigan spent six years as the loudest, most confident voice in the dating conversation, the woman millions turned to, and she almost didn't write her book because being single made her feel like a fraud. In this episode, she and Valeria get into the reframe that changed everything, and it's the same one that led Serena to the man she now lives with: she met him on a stranger's podcast, reading out a text from a guy who had ghosted her, and he told her she wasn't too much, she was just looking in the wrong places.They talk about why she invented a whole confident persona at eighteen because she was insecure, the year she went quiet building something no one could see, why the most successful women walk around in masculine energy that quietly keeps love out, and the dating advice she's had to fact-check now that she's actually in love. And the line every woman needs to hear: stop calling yourself picky. You're not picky. You're refusing to settle.You were the prize the whole time.New episodes of Not Alone every Wednesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.Follow Serena:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serenakerriganTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@serenakerriganHer book, Let's F*cking Date: https://letsfuckingdate.com/Follow Valeria:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetskyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetskyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblogFollow Not Alone:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepodTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.podPodcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/5542133Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetskyWhat we talked about:Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices