In this episode we are diving deeper into people-pleasing. We talk about why people-pleasing isn’t a personality trait you’re stuck with, but a survival mechanism a nervous system can learn in childhood. If it felt safer to be agreeable, accommodating, and low maintenance, that pattern makes sense. And for queer folks, the wound can run even deeper when your most basic desire to love who you love was treated as wrong. That’s where the “yes” you didn’t mean, the opinion you swallowed, and the ...