When Depression is in Your Bed℠
When Depression is in Your Bed℠
Trish Sanders, LCSW
#65 The Empathy Trap: When Feeling Understood Doesn’t Create Change
23 minutes Posted Apr 22, 2026 at 4:00 am.
Empathy That Keeps You Stuck
What Empathy Really Means
The Limits Of Story Empathy
A Therapy Moment Of Frustration
Empathy For Your Nervous System
How To Practice Self-Empathy
Take One Small Step
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What if empathy may help you feel seen, but may also be keeping you stuck? In this episode, I explore what I call The Empathy Trap, a subtle but powerful dynamic where empathy focused only on the story can create connection, but not change. We’re often taught that empathy is always helpful. And it is. Feeling understood reduces shame, softens defensiveness, and helps us feel less alone. But through both my personal therapy experience and my work with clients, I’ve come to see that empathy can...