In the season 1 finale of We're Dating the Same Guy, host Madden sits down with fellow podcaster Alexis to break down the movie "The Materialist" and what it reveals about modern dating patterns, attachment styles, and the choice between financial security and emotional connection.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Season 1 reflection and podcast journey05:30 - The Materialist movie discussion begins12:45 - Dating vs Love - the fundamental difference18:20 - Attachment styles and modern dating25:10 - Red flags and immediate deal-breakers32:40 - The income gap conversation45:15 - Lucy's ultimate choice and what it means52:30 - Personal dating insights and growthIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:The Materialist movie analysis with Dakota Johnson, Pedro Pascal, and Chris EvansDating multiple people ethically and what that teaches youFeminine energy vs masculine energy in relationshipsWhy some people excel at dating but struggle with loveRed flags, green flags, and navigating modern dating appsMarriage as partnership vs business transactionIncome gaps in relationships and how to navigate them successfullyCONNECT WITH ALEXIS:Alexis is a fellow Minneapolis Podcaster and host of Let if Flow PodcastAlexis's Instagram: @destinationalexisLet it Flow PodcastCONNECT WITH MADDEN: Madden is a dating coach and host of "We're Dating the Same Guy" podcast, helping individuals identify and break destructive dating patterns. With expertise in attachment theory, feminine energy, and modern relationship dynamics, she creates a safe space for exploring the deeper psychology behind our romantic choices. Through vulnerable conversations and expert guests, Madden guides listeners toward more secure, authentic relationships.Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Tired of feeling anxious and insecure in your relationships? In today's episode, relationship coach and spiritual guide Kevin Crenshaw reveals why your dating patterns might be rooted in a deeper spiritual search - and how cultivating a relationship with God can transform the way you love.Kevin shares his raw journey from being a chronic people pleaser whose first three relationships ended in betrayal, to finding spiritual security that completely shifted his approach to love. We explore how anxious attachment often masks a search for the divine, why your "ideal partner" list might actually be describing God, and practical ways to build genuine spiritual connection.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction to Kevin Crenshaw and spiritual dating03:45 - Kevin's journey from people pleaser to spiritual security08:30 - The near-death experience that changed everything12:15 - Finding God after hitting rock bottom18:20 - How anxious attachment shows up in relationships24:10 - The difference between seeking completion vs communion in love29:45 - Why your "dream man list" might actually be describing God35:20 - Building a relationship with God: Prayer as conversation42:10 - Overcoming religious hurt and finding authentic faith47:30 - Three ways to start dating differently52:00 - Final thoughts on purpose and spiritual relationshipsIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:How anxious attachment shows up as searching for God in relationshipsThe difference between horizontal change and vertical spiritual evolutionWhy surrender, not willpower, creates lasting transformationBuilding a real relationship with God through prayer and communityHealing from religious hurt while staying open to spiritualityThree practical shifts to start dating from a place of spiritual security"People hurt you, not God. Build your own relationship. Look for people producing spiritual fruit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness. Not just moments of it, but supernatural, consistent fruit that surprises you." - Kevin CrenshawCONNECT WITH KEVIN:Kevin Crenshaw is a relationship coach, spiritual guide, and author who has spent over a decade helping people transform their love lives through healing anxious attachment and building spiritual security. After his own journey from people-pleasing codependency to authentic spiritual connection, Kevin now guides thousands in understanding how their relationship with God directly impacts their human relationships. His upcoming book "Perspectives" (releasing September 2025) is a collection of poetic reflections mapping his decade-long journey toward freedom, healing, and divine connection.Kevin's Instagram: @the.heart.guyJoin the Waitlist for Kevin's new book PerspectivesSTAY CONNECTED WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Are you tired of dating emotionally unavailable men? In this vulnerable conversation, sex and relationship therapist Joe Molinari breaks down why so many men struggle with emotional availability and what you can do about it.Joe shares his personal journey from emotional avoidance to vulnerability, explaining how childhood conditioning creates patterns that pull men away from connection. We explore attachment styles, the dangerous appeal of "twin flame" relationships, and practical steps both men and women can take to create more secure relationships.Whether you're trying to understand the men you're dating or working on your own emotional availability, this episode offers hope and practical tools for creating the secure love you deserve.EPISODE TIMELINE:03:16 - Joe's background and path to therapy04:44 - What "home" really means in relationships 08:24 - How attachment styles develop over time12:38 - Why men are taught not to connect16:24 - Tangible steps to become emotionally available24:43 - Inside Joe's men's therapy group29:59 - How attachment influences sexuality38:29 - The truth about secure people in dating44:43 - Twin flames: Spiritual connection or toxic pattern?IN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:Why traditional masculinity teaches men to avoid connectionHow attachment styles show up in dating and sexualityThe difference between thinking and feeling in relationshipsRed flags in "twin flame" dynamics that keep you stuckPractical steps to become more emotionally availableHow men's therapy groups are changing emotional patterns"The best thing you can do is learn more to be present to yourself. Learn to connect to yourself emotionally, connect to yourself in a very present embodied way. That is a path towards finding your own security within yourself. And that's the best first step for also meeting other people who are an authentic connection for you." - Joe MolinariCONNECT WITH JOE:Joe Molinari is a psychotherapist and coach specializing in sex, trauma, and relationships. Whether working with individuals, couples, or groups, Joe invites his clients to pursue a path toward more presence, authenticity, and a sense of aliveness. Joe brings a deep curiosity about how we connect, overcome, and grow. His approach is collaborative, sex-positive, and full of heart (and usually a bit of humor too). He’s passionate about helping people move from shame and stuckness to connection, pleasure, and a sense of freedom. Whether it’s talking about intimacy, healing old wounds, or finding more ease in everyday life, Joe creates space for the whole messy, beautiful human experience.Joe's Instagram: @sextherapyjoeJoe's WebsiteSTAY CONNECTED WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Would you go on a first date without alcohol? 39% of singles now say yes—and it's changing everything about modern dating. In this raw conversation, Alex Zauner (founder of Lucille's alcohol-free experiences and 11 years sober) reveals why removing liquid courage creates deeper connections and better relationships.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Opening: The first date question that changes everything05:12 - Alex's story: From college binge drinking to 11 years sober12:45 - The breaking point: Hospital wake-up call and commitment to change18:30 - Dating sober: Navigating apps, anxiety, and authenticity25:15 - Meeting her husband while sober and what that taught her32:00 - Mixed relationships: When your partner drinks and you don't39:20 - Why Gen Z is choosing alcohol-free lifestyles45:10 - Practical sober date ideas that create real connection50:00 - Final advice: Leading with authenticity in datingIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:Why alcohol-free dating creates deeper, more authentic connectionsPractical tools for managing first-date anxiety without drinkingCreative sober date ideas that build genuine chemistryHow to communicate your sober lifestyle in datingNavigating mixed relationships (sober + drinking partners)Why younger generations are choosing alcohol-free lifestylesBuilding confidence and social skills through sober dating"Sober dating is not just going to help you in that relationship—it's going to genuinely help you to build your social skills and confidence in every aspect of your life. You're going to remember all the details, the jokes, your personality is going to shine through, and their personality is going to shine through." - Alex ZaunerCONNECT WITH ALEX:Alex's Instagram: @alexandrazaunerLucille's BottleshopLucille's Instagram: @lucillesbottleshopCONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Dave from Love is Blind Minneapolis gets real about what happens when the cameras stop rolling. In this raw conversation, we dive into vulnerability in dating, trusting your intuition, and how reality TV changed his approach to relationships forever. If you've ever wondered what it's like to fall in love on national television and then learn even more about yourself in the process, this episode gives you a window into all of it.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction: Reality TV obsession & Dave's controversial Love is Blind journey04:15 - What Dave wishes everyone knew about his Love is Blind experience09:30 - The bold pod question that went viral: "What's wrong with you?"14:20 - Most challenging parts of the Love is Blind experiment19:45 - Why vulnerability is easier when you can't see someone24:30 - Trusting your intuition vs. listening to family opinions29:15 - Dave's dating patterns: superficial attraction & dating in reverse34:45 - What being ready for love actually looks like now39:30 - Final advice: Know yourself to date differentlyIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:What really happened behind the scenes in Season 8 Love is Blind AFTER the cameras stopped recordingThe dating backwards pattern that's keeping you singleVulnerability depth in datingFamily opinions vs. trusting your own intuition in relationshipsWhat being truly ready for love actually looks like (vs. societal pressure)"You can't really be yourself if you don't know who you are. You shouldn't date anyone with the intention of getting married or having a long-term future if you don't fully know yourself well enough." - David BettenburgCONNECT WITH DAVE:David Bettenburg is a 33-year-old Minneapolis native who appeared on Love is Blind Season 8. Originally working in medical device sales (specifically aesthetic procedures), he now works as an Account Executive for legal solutions. Dave's journey on Love is Blind became controversial due to family interference and outside gossip affecting his relationship with Lauren O'Brien. Post-show, he's focused on self-reflection, therapy, and understanding his dating patterns to build healthier relationships.David's Instagram: @davidbettenburgSTAY CONNECTED WITH MADDEN: Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person? Brazilian brain health coach Fabiana breaks down the neuroscience behind dating patterns and reveals how your brain creates the relationship cycles you find yourself stuck in.EPISODE TIMELINE:3:18 - Meet Fabiana: From Ipanema Beach to brain coaching8:45 - Your brain on patterns: The survival machine explained15:20 - Breaking down the amygdala hijack in relationships22:10 - The cortisol-disease connection you need to know28:30 - Reframing protective thoughts (not negative ones)35:45 - Why people behave badly (spoiler: they feel threatened)42:00 - The stories we tell ourselves about dating48:15 - Values alignment: The non-negotiable foundation55:30 - Expectations vs. reality in relationships62:45 - The 4-step communication framework for conflictIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:How your amygdala and hippocampus control your dating choicesWhy 80% of your thoughts are protective (not negative)The 4-question method to reframe toxic thought patternsHow to break the cycle of choosing familiar but unhealthy partnersWhy authenticity is non-negotiable in lasting relationshipsCommunication strategies that actually work (backed by brain science)"There is no way you will find a partner who loves you if you're not being 100% your authentic self. Because they're going to fall for what you're showing, not for who you are. If you are acting to gain someone's love, you're not gaining their love—your character is gaining their love." - FabianaCONNECT WITH FABIANABrazilian-born brain health coach and viral Instagram creator (@fashionbyfabiana, 150K+ followers) who transforms women's relationship with aging and self-acceptance. Former corporate executive turned certified neuroscience coach, Fabiana combines 30 years of business experience with brain-based coaching to help women break limiting patterns and embrace authentic living. Her content on aging gracefully has reached over 20 million views, sparking global conversations about beauty standards and self-worth.Fabiana's Instagram: @fashionbyfabianaBrain Health Coaching WebsiteSTAY CONNECTED WITH MADDENMadden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

What happens when a man realizes he's the guy women don't want to date and completely transforms himself? In this raw conversation, dating and embodiment coach Tyler shares his journey from being disconnected and sabotaging intimacy to helping high-value women date differently.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction: When men realize they're the problem04:15 - Tyler's transformation story: From feminine to masculine energy09:30 - Macro vs micro perspective in dating14:20 - The three pillars: Mindset, energetics, strategy19:45 - Common limiting beliefs that keep women stuck26:15 - Masculine vs feminine energy: What it really means32:40 - Strategic dating: Red flags and verification methods38:20 - The ultimate relationship question: Would I want my child to be like them?41:35 - Reflection on personal growth over 5 years44:15 - Final advice: Changing thoughts, feelings, and actionsIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:The macro vs micro approach to dating patternsHow to date from a regulated nervous systemThe difference between masculine and feminine energy in datingStrategic tools for identifying red flags earlyWhy "if it's meant to happen, it will" keeps you stuckThe three pillars: mindset, energetics, and strategy"The version of you that you are today has created the life that you live right now. And so if you realize that, you also realize that by becoming more of who you are, you can change the reality that you're living right now." - TylerCONNECT WITH TYLER:Tyler is a dating and embodiment coach specializing in helping high-value women over 30 create aligned relationships. After struggling with his own relationship patterns and being the kind of man women didn't want to date, Tyler transformed himself through masculine work, men's groups, and deep personal development. He now combines strategic dating methods with energetic and mindset work, helping clients break cycles and attract conscious partnerships. Tyler's Instagram: @tylerduddingSTAY CONNECTED WITH MADDENMadden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Are you calling everything a red flag in dating? Dating coach and therapist Michelle O'Connell joins host Madden to decode the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in modern dating. Learn why your nervous system might confuse healthy partners for boring ones, how past trauma affects your ability to recognize good partners, and the subtle patterns that show up months into dating - not on date three. This episode reveals why we're quick to label behaviors as red flags when they might actually be signs of a healthy partner, plus actionable strategies for dating with curiosity instead of fear.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction: The red flag epidemic in dating culture03:15 - Meet Michelle O'Connell: From therapist to dating coach08:42 - Defining red flags, yellow flags, and green flags12:30 - Why we overuse the term "red flag" in dating16:45 - How fear drives our flag labeling21:20 - When green flags feel like red flags: The nervous system connection28:15 - Red flags that don't show up until months later35:40 - How long should you really give someone a chance?38:25 - Avoiding projection from past dating experiences42:10 - Final advice: Dating with curiosity over validationIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:What actually constitutes a red flag versus normal human behaviorHow our nervous system confuses calm and safety for boredom in datingWhy people with trauma histories might push away healthy partnersThe sneaky patterns that don't show up until months 3-6 of datingHow past experiences shape our ability to "read the room" accuratelyThe difference between empowerment and being too rigid in dating standardsWhy taking things slow is crucial for spotting long-term compatibilityHow to avoid projecting past relationship wounds onto new partnersWhen to give someone more time versus trusting your gut to walk away"If you want a partner, you have to date. And when you date with a space and a mindset of curiosity and being open to all the different outcomes, you're going to have a better experience with dating. Don't date to validate your worth - date from curiosity." - MichelleCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Michelle O'Connell is a licensed mental health therapist and dating coach based in Minneapolis, Minnesota. With over a decade of experience in trauma therapy, Michelle launched her dating coaching practice "Unstuck by Michelle" four years ago. She supports clients in building confidence, creating authentic dating profiles, identifying healthier partners, and developing mindful, intentional approaches to dating. Michelle brings a unique trauma-informed perspective that's both grounded and refreshingly real to the dating world. Michelle's Instagram: @unstuckbymichelle Michelle's Website*NEW* Michelle's TikTok: @unstuckbymichelleMichelle offers monthly dating support, beginning August 6, 2025. Please visit Michelle's website to find out more!STAY CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

Transform your dating life through the ancient art of Tantra. In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Julie shares how tantric principles can help you break toxic dating patterns and create deeper, more authentic connections.EPISODE TIMELINE:04:22 - Welcome & Julie's Introduction07:34 - Julie's Unique Journey: From Yoga Pioneer to Sex Therapist13:07 - Working with Gopher Football & The Marsh Wellness Center16:52 - The Energy Healing School That Changed Everything19:42 - What is Tantra Really? (It's Not What You Think)23:07 - The Three Stages of Sexual Relationships26:32 - Energy Field Exercises for Couples30:52 - Push, Pull, Stop & Allow: Modulating Sexual Energy33:37 - Solo Tantric Practices for Singles37:02 - Creating Your Personal Tantric Mantra39:42 - The Lens of Love Self-Practice42:32 - Dating Tantrically: Holding the Paradox49:37 - Modern Dating Trends & Screen Addiction52:42 - Moving from Performance to Presence56:32 - The Four-Dimensional Wheel: Body, Mind, Spirit, Emotion59:52 - Why Ghosting is Energetic Violence63:07 - Final Advice: Honesty & Holding ParadoxIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:The true meaning of Tantra beyond sexual misconceptionsHow to practice energy awareness with potential partnersPractical tantric exercises you can do solo or with a partnerWhy vulnerability is actually a superpower in datingThe paradox of being open while staying unattachedSolo tantric practices for single peopleHow to move from performance to presence in intimacy"Healthy intimate relationships are your birthright. When people get aligned in their sexuality, when their sexual life force energy is fully activated and connected to their hearts and spirits, they become the most thriving, unstoppable versions of themselves." - JulieCONNECT WITH JULIE:With over 30 years of experience in the healing arts, Julie Schmit began her journey as a yoga instructor and energy healer, helping to pioneer the yoga scene in the Twin Cities in the early 1990s. She is now a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and a certified couple’s therapist.Julie specializes in helping individuals and couples strengthen relationships, heal from trauma, reclaim pleasure, and build confidence—so they can experience more joy, passion, and intimacy in their lives. She brings a grounded, trauma-informed approach to her work, integrating somatic practices, energy awareness, and a deep respect for sexual diversity and inclusivity.At the heart of Julie’s philosophy is the belief that being truly seen, understood, and accepted is a powerful catalyst for healing. It’s her privilege to walk alongside her clients on their journey toward greater sexual fulfillment and relational aliveness.JULIE'S WEBSITE STAY CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa

In this raw and intimate conversation, real couple Allison and Anthony share their 7-year journey from a casual Tinder meetup in a Costco parking lot to building a conscious, choice-based relationship. They open up about the difference between falling in love and choosing love daily, how they've navigated living in 5 different states together, and what it really takes to grow individually while building a partnership rooted in friendship and mutual respect.This isn't your typical relationship advice episode - it's an honest look at what happens when two people commit to choosing each other over and over again, even when it's hard. From their unique approach to conflict resolution to their perspective on marriage and external pressures, Allison and Anthony offer practical wisdom for anyone ready to date differently.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction & Their Tinder Love Story08:15 - Six Months to Moving States Together 12:30 - Falling vs Choosing Love: The Real Difference18:45 - Building Friendship as Your Foundation24:20 - Growing Together Without Growing Apart30:10 - How They Handle Conflict & Communication35:40 - External Pressures: Marriage & Family Opinions41:25 - One Piece of Advice to Date DifferentlyIN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:The difference between falling in love vs choosing to love every single day Building friendship as your relationship foundation (even while dating) How to fight constructively without damaging the relationship Setting non-negotiables vs being flexible in your standards Growing individually while growing together as a couple Why your relationship should be about giving, not getting How to handle external pressures about marriage and timelines"A relationship is not a place where you go to get. It's a place that you go to give." - AnthonyCONNECT WITH ANTHONY AND ALLISON:Allison and Anthony are a real couple who've been together for almost 7 years, having met when Allison was 18 and Anthony was 24. Through their journey across 5 different states, they've built a relationship foundation based on conscious choice, deep friendship, and mutual growth. Anthony brings insights from his Tony Robbins background and entrepreneurial mindset, while Allison shares her perspective on maintaining femininity and authenticity while building partnership.Anthony's Instagram: @anthonyjrigsbyAllison's Instagram: @allisonrosee7STAY CONNECTED WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappa