Changing our perspectives and seeing our experiences from a different point of view can help us make different shifts in our lives that can help us overcome making the same mistakes or choices in the future. 

Often times not only do we ignore the red flags we see in others, but we also take responsibility for them. We use them as an excuse to tear ourselves down for not recognizing them and excusing them. Understanding that while we need to be watching for them while also understanding that we don't make them behave the way they do. We can't take responsibility for how others choose to treat us.

When we are in an abusive relationship we can quickly lose who we are. When we are out of that relationship, and the fog lifts, we have the opportunity to find out who we are and what is important to us. 

If we are in an abusive situation and we finally get out it can be all to easy to fall into another situation that is less than ideal. How can we protect ourselves to ensure we don't do this and repeat the cycle all over again? In this weeks episode I discuss some things I wish I could tell my younger self about avoiding the pitfalls of ending up in another bad situation. 

When we meet someone there are sometimes red flags that we overlook, but why? How do we forgive ourselves for overlooking the things we should be looking at more fully? What do we do with the things we don't want to see in others but that aren't healthy for us? Finding peace with those troublesome things can be a challenge, and in this weeks episode I discuss these things.  

At the young age of 16 I was married and had a baby. Sometimes life puts us in situations where the best option isn't a good option. Finding the meaning behind these things can be a challenge, but it is usually there under the surface. 

When I was 16 I was pregnant and alone. Where do we go when we feel we are at our lowest point and no way to know where to go from there? Finding our own strength can be incredibly hard to do when we don't know how to do that.

How do we reconcile others misjudgement of us? Sometimes others may think they know the truth of a situation, but that may not be true. Dealing with the fallout of other misjudging us and thinking we did something we didn't do can be hard to deal with. In this weeks episode I discuss such an incident that happened to me. 

When is it okay for us to create boundaries with people, even if they are family? In this weeks episode I share a story about when boundaries should have been established and what I wish I could tell my younger self about setting them sooner to preserve my own well being.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses  self harmWhen we have to face traumatic things it can be difficult to reconcile how feeling with how overwhelming the situation is for us. Learning how to show ourselves grace and compassion can help us heal from traumatic experiences. In this weeks episode I discuss how my moms attempt of self-harm affected me and what I wish I could go back and tell my younger self.