Gaslighting is one of the most overused words in the therapy lexicon right now — and that overuse is doing real damage. In this episode I break down what gaslighting actually means, why lumping it in with lying, defensiveness, and other bad behavior is costing you more than you think, and why getting the language right isn't about letting anyone off the hook. It's about making sure you're solving for the right problem.

We've spent decades trying to build self-esteem. Turns out it might be the exhaust, not the engine. Today I make the case for accurate self-assessment over positive thinking — and why the goal isn't to feel better about yourself, it's to be someone you can respect.

Airports are a stress test for who you actually are when the veneer comes off. In this episode, three men fail that test — including me. A look at public meltdowns, emotional labor, and what it actually takes to change behavior that's been running on autopilot for decades.

What is it like to be fully seen, and why should we put ourselves through that?

Today we will talk about how to critically evaluate the therapy that you were getting, and what to do about it if it's falling short.

Being seen means true and authentic vulnerability, it's not easy, but it is essential!

Basically, we suck at apologizing in our culture. Let's change that.

Let's talk about the way we keep ourselves confined, and how to break out.

Let's check in about the narratives we have about ourselves.

Let's talk about those unspoken agreements that seem to run our lives from the shadows.