In today's video I'm talking about something I see every single week in my counseling practice which is how unhealed trauma silently destroys relationships. I cover: why you attract the same people, how triggers hijack your reactions, why intimacy feels dangerous, the cycle that keeps repeating, and what healing actually looks like.My new e-book 'The Wounds We Carry' goes even deeper. You can find the link on my Instagram bio.Subscribe for weekly content on emotional health, relationships and healing. @heartdropswithsuess

Why do so many Christian women keep choosing the wrong men?In this video, I break down the real reasons godly women enter unhealthy relationships, from emotional wounds and loneliness to spiritual confusion and lack of discernment.If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong man?” or “Why do my relationships fail?” this conversation is for you.We’ll talk about dating mistakes Christian women make, red flags, emotional readiness, and how to choose wisely moving forward.Watch till the end and share with a woman who needs clarity before commitment. 🩷

Conflict are inevitable in relationships. I think of them as a necessary evil. We may not like them, but they provide a better understanding of each other as well as ourselves. Conflicts can reveal hidden trauma and pain that trigger us.The Bible says in Amos 3:3 that two people cannot walk together without agreeing on a direction. Some times, we need to disagree to agree on a destination, and how we intend to arrive there safely. It’s not so much about the disagreements, but how they are resolved and how both parties proceed moving forward. It’s not always about trouble free journeys, but safe landing.For questions and counseling, send a DM to @heartdropswithsuess

Are you constantly saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries? In this episode, I dive deep into the heart of people-pleasing—where it comes from, why it’s exhausting, and how to break free while still being kind and Christlike. It’s time to stop living for approval and start living in your purpose. Tune in, take notes, and let’s grow together!

Building a sustainable marriage isn’t just about finding love, it’s also about nurturing it every day. In this episode, I talk about the key elements that will help your relationships last, from communication and trust to the little things that keep the spark alive. I also share valuable tips from a perspective of the love of God on how to centre love in purpose and growth. The best time to prepare for marriage is BEFORE you get married. The second best time is now. So whether you're married or single, this episode is packed with insights to help you build something meaningful and lasting. Tune in for practical advice, spiritual wisdom, and more! ✨Cheers to kingdom relationships and marriages 🥂😌

Valentine's Day often focuses on roses, chocolates, and grand gestures, but as Christians, we know that true love goes far beyond that. Secular love can be fleeting, selfish, and conditional, focused on feelings and temporary moments. But God's love is something deeper, unwavering, and eternal. It’s unconditional, sacrificial, and rooted in Christ. It’s the love that calls us to serve, forgive, and cherish one another through all seasons of life.This Valentine’s, let’s remember the ultimate expression of love which is Jesus’ sacrifice for us. Let’s celebrate not just romantic love, but the love we are called to share with everyone, reflecting His love in all we do.

It’s my birthday in a few days, and I wanted to share some things about myself. In this episode, I answer 25 personal questions about myself, my marriage, and my podcast.Whether you're a longtime listener or a new one, this episode will give you the inside gist into who I am and what I do as a relationship counsellor.

Are you truly ready for a relationship, or are there signs you are overlooking? In this video, I discuss key signs that you might not yet be prepared for a relationship. From emotional baggage to personal growth, I explore the important factors determining whether you are ready for a relationship.Whether you're recovering from a past relationship or still focusing on yourself, recognising these signs can help you make more meaningful choices when it comes to love. Watch now and find out if it's time or pause and work on yourself before getting into a new romantic relationship.

Are you stepping into a new relationship this year or looking to strengthen the bond in your existing one? In this episode, we dive into the heart of godly connections, sharing practical steps for embracing new beginnings with purpose, faith, and love. Whether you’re seeking a fresh start in your love life or refining your approach to a current relationship, this conversation will inspire you to build on a foundation rooted in Christ. Start your journey toward healthier, stronger relationships today! 💕✨”

Christmas is here! But amidst the lights, gifts, and festivities, have you ever paused to ask yourself, What is the real essence of Christmas?In this heartwarming episode, Suess dives deep into the true meaning of the season—a celebration that goes far beyond the decorations and holiday traditions. Christmas is about Christ, the Savior born to bring hope, love, and redemption to a broken world.Join me as we reflect on:🌟 Why Christ is central to the Christmas story🌟 How to embrace the season with gratitude and faith🌟 Practical ways to shift the focus from materialism to the gospel of God's LoveWhether you’re gathered with loved ones or spending the holidays quietly, this episode will encourage you to find peace and joy in the greatest gift of all—Jesus. Let’s remember the incredible love that came down at Christmas and allow that love to guide our hearts, actions, and relationships this season.Take a moment to reflect, refocus, and celebrate Christmas with fresh eyes!Watch the episode, SUBSCRIBE for more uplifting content, and share this message of hope and joy with someone who needs it.