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SummarySPACEMEN!!! GATHER! Join us as we talk about what to say when there's nothing left to say. Most of us have had conversations with people in which we have said everything there is to say, but it doesn't seem to help. Maybe your partner or spouse is really stuck on something and you've offered the obviously perfect solution, but they don't seem to be buying it. How dare they?! Don't they know how smart you think you are? On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down what to say when you've got nothing. We talk about reaching a point of exhaustion, the challenge of finding solutions, seeking a feeling rather than an actual thing, being curious and asking questions, and developing tolerance and patience. Listen in. We've got LOTS of stuff to say. We would never run out of things to say. Not us. TakeawaysHelping others can be challenging when you feel like you have nothing left to say.It is important to be patient and curious when trying to help someone who is struggling.Understanding the underlying feelings and desired outcomes can lead to more effective solutions.Asking questions and being open to different ideas can help overcome stuckness and find new perspectives. Asking questions and going through a process of figuring things out is essential for finding solutions.Patience and curiosity are key in building strong relationships.Effective communication requires both listening and asking the right questions.Tolerance for discomfort is necessary for personal growth and problem-solving.Parents should allow their children to experience failure and learn from their mistakes.Behavior patterns are a result of the dynamics between individuals, and both parties share responsibility.Fear of failure and the irrational fear of ruining a child's life can hinder personal growth and learning.Chapters04:35Favorite Moments and Episode Titles06:15Clip Episodes Done Right08:36Watching Sports and MLB Pass09:10Understanding Soccer Rules10:08Evolution of Sports Rules11:03Basketball Rule Violations11:16March Madness and Basketball12:17Reaching a Point of Exhaustion15:39The Role of Therapists in Facilitating Change20:16The Challenge of Finding Solutions21:35Helping Others When You Have Nothing Left to Say25:30Seeking a Feeling, Not an Actual Thing26:55The Frustration of Feeling Stuck on an Idea27:53Being Curious and Asking Questions29:02The Importance of Patience30:34The Process of Asking Questions31:23The Importance of Figuring Things Out32:14The Need for Patience and Curiosity in Relationships33:39The Challenge of Effective Communication36:06The Need for Tolerance of Discomfort37:22The Dangers of Solving Problems for Others38:37The Fear of Failure in Parenting48:34The Importance of Allowing Failure and Learning50:28The Shared Responsibility in Behavior Patterns50:47The End of the ConversationSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!