The Kink Consultant
The Kink Consultant
Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.
Psychedelics, Kink, and Coming Home to Your Body with Allana Pratt
Emotional intimacy coach Allana Pratt joins the podcast to discuss psychedelics, kink, and coming home to your body through healing trauma and somatic integration work.Join the Self-Dom Challenge: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/9fk5ewdh/checkoutThis week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Allana Pratt, emotional intimacy coach, author, and host of the Intimate Conversations podcast. They explore the difference between the ego and the soul, why healing trauma leads to better kink and more authentic desire, and how to stop sabotaging relationships by coming home to your body. Allana also discusses her work with clients using low-dose psilocybin and cannabis to access the subconscious, integrate wounds, and create lasting change.If you have ever felt stuck in patterns, disconnected from your body, or wondered how trauma affects your kink and relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening conversation on healing and embodiment.Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Allana Pratthttps://allanapratt.com/https://allanapratt.com/patreon/https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt/https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPrattConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Aug 27
55 min
Why Dismantling the Patriarchy Will Give You Better Sex with Samia Mounts
Samia Mounts returns for a deep conversation on dismantling the patriarchy, polyamory, and how we can all break free from the systems that hold us back. Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest Samia Mounts, voice actor and host of the Happy Slut podcast. They explore how patriarchy harms everyone, including men, and why dismantling it leads to better sex and deeper connection. They discuss the male loneliness epidemic, why women are not experiencing the same level of loneliness, and how men are cut off from their emotions from a young age.They also explore the connection between polyamory, sexual autonomy, and feminism, why women are reclaiming their desire, and how competitive versus caretaker dynamics play out in society. If you have ever wondered how patriarchy affects your sex life and relationships, this episode offers a compelling and thought-provoking conversation.Somatica Episode: I’m Moving For A Man?!? https://youtu.be/kkAWOiQ4UnM?si=ST0H1gxx6NV3UEyzHead to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Samia Mountshttps://www.samiamounts.com/https://www.instagram.com/samia.mountshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkJT8ttJYCyIS8ig6gZ7pAhttps://www.tiktok.com/@samia.mountshttps://www.samiamounts.com/podcastConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Aug 20
59 min
on Female Desire, Mental Load, and Mismatched Libido with Caroline Hood
Licensed clinician and author Caroline Hood joins the podcast to discuss the truth about female desire, the impact of mental load, and how to navigate mismatched libido in relationships. Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Caroline Hood, a licensed clinician and author of the upcoming book Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment. Caroline shares practical advice on how to start conversations about intimacy without blame, why scheduled sex can actually be helpful, and how couples can rebuild connection after years of drifting apart. They also discuss the double standards women face around pleasure, the importance of deconditioning shame, and why oral sex should never have been categorized as foreplay.If you have ever felt disconnected from your desire, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or wanted to reclaim your sexual identity, this episode offers compassionate, actionable guidance.Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Caroline Hoodhttps://www.desireinreallife.com/https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/https://substack.com/@desireinreallifeConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Aug 13
59 min
ADHD, Kink, and Neurodivergent Relationships with Catieosaurus
Cate Osborn aka Catieosaurus returns to discuss ADHD, kink, neurodivergent relationships, and how to build sustainable dynamics that work with your brain.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Cate Osborn, award-winning educator and author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults. They discuss how ADHD impacts kink dynamics, why structure is so important for neurodivergent doms, and how burnout and overcommitment can derail even the best-intentioned relationships.Cate shares what she has learned from touring her live show, the questions she gets from audiences, and why people just want to be seen. They also explore the intersection of ADHD, sex, and intimacy, and why validation and positive reinforcement are so important for doms too. If you are neurodivergent, kinky, or both, this episode offers practical advice and real talk about making your relationships work with your brain, not against it.Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Catieosaurushttps://catieosaurus.com/https://www.instagram.com/catieosaurus/Connect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Aug 6
44 min
A Guide to Setting Boundaries in Kink with Melancholy Ghost
Melancholy Ghost, Missouri title holder and boundaries educator, joins the podcast to discuss how to set, communicate, and protect boundaries in kink.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Melancholy Ghost where they discuss the difference why boundaries are essential for safe play, and what to do when someone crosses a line. Melancholy shares her framework for successful negotiations, including the CATS MEOW method she created to help people remember the key elements of communication, attentiveness, time, safety, and observing warning signs. They also explore the history of the leather community, what it means to be an asexual kinkster, and why trust must be earned and not freely given.If you have ever struggled with setting boundaries, knowing how to enforce them, or navigating negotiations in kink, this episode offers practical tools and real talk about protecting yourself and your relationships.Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Melancholy Ghost:https://www.instagram.com/missmelancholyghost/Connect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jul 30
1 hr 8 min
How to Navigate a 24/7 Dynamic: A Conversation on Boundaries and Communication with My Dom
Amanda and her dom sit down for an honest conversation about how they navigate boundaries, fear, and communication in their 24/7 dynamic.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda shares a conversation she had with her dom a few months ago where they talk about how they navigate boundaries day to day, the fears that come up for both of them, and how they communicate through the hard stuff. Her dom shares how he models the behavior he wants to see, why consistency is everything, and how he handles bratting, resistance, and mid-scene check-ins. They also explore the role of fear in a BDSM dynamic, the difference between alpha subs and brats, and why communication is the foundation of everything. If you have ever wondered what a 24/7 dynamic actually looks like behind closed doors, this episode offers an unfiltered look at the real work that goes into making it sustainable.Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 offConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jul 23
34 min
Hot Girl Energy: How to Date Without Losing Yourself with Kristen Aut
Kristen Aut returns to discuss how to date without losing yourself, break free from obsessive patterns, and step into your Hot Girl Energy this summer.Sign-up for the Hot Girl Energy Workshop here: http://www.amandadames.com/hotgirlenergyThis week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and obsession coach, Kristen Aut. They discuss the patterns that keep women stuck in obsessive dating cycles, why women lose themselves so quickly when they feel chemistry, how to hold excitement without projecting it onto someone else, and why "pick me energy" is out. They also talk about their two-day Hot Girl Energy workshop designed to help women choose themselves, hold their own energy, and stop settling for situationships.If you have ever lost yourself in a relationship or found yourself obsessing over someone who was not right for you, this episode offers practical tools and real talk about breaking the cycle.Connect with Kristen Authttps://www.instagram.com/thekristenaut/https://www.newbadassyou.com/1to1supportConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jul 13
41 min
How to Tell Your Partner About Your Fetish with Miz Darling
Miz Darling returns to discuss how to tell your partner about your fetish, navigate shame and fear, and build healthy relationships around kink.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and good friend Miz Darling for a conversation about one of the most common questions in the fetish community: how do you tell your partner about your fetish? They explore why shame stops so many people from having the conversation at all, including the story of a client who was considering divorce and an affair before ever speaking to his wife about his desires.Amanda and Miz Darling also discuss their upcoming book, Complicated Pleasures, which explores how fetishists navigate long-term relationships and whether it is possible to make things work with a vanilla partner. If you have ever struggled with telling your partner about your fetish, this episode offers practical advice, reassurance, and real talk about shame, fear, and connection.Know More About The Book Here:https://complicatedpleasures.ca/Connect with Miz Darling https://mizdarling.ca/Connect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jul 9
51 min
Kinky Cruises, Chastity Cages, and Social Media Bans with Larah Sky
Book A Consult Call with Amanda⁠ ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠Larah Sky is back for another unfiltered conversation covering social media frustrations, kink cruise experiences, and chastity culture.This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and real-life friend Larah Sky. They dive into their experience on the kink cruise that they went to together, including the difference between kinksters and swingers and why many swingers are curious about kink but hesitant to ask. They discuss chastity culture and why Larah believes every man should own a cage, even if he does not wear it every day. They also explore the frustrations of being a sex worker on mainstream platforms, including bot attacks, account bans, and the challenges of maintaining an online presence.Tune in to hear about what happens on a kink cruise, why chastity is about focus and not denial, and what it is really like to be a sex worker navigating social media.Connect with Larah Skyhttps://www.larahsky.co.ukConnect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jul 2
1 hr 19 min
Relationship Advice for Kinky Couples with Simone Milasas
Kinky relationships and vanilla relationships might have more in common than you think.This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda speaks with Simone Milasas, global facilitator, author, and creator of Access Consciousness, to talk about how the relationship advice she gives to vanilla couples applies just as powerfully to kinky relationships and BDSM dynamics. They cover the five elements of intimacy you need to build with yourself before you can offer them to a partner, the concept of a "creationship" and how it differs from a traditional relationship, and the one question that can either deepen your connection or finally give you both the clarity to move on. Tune in, get brutally honest with yourself, and find out what becomes possible in your kinky relationships when you stop telling yourself the story that's been keeping you stuck.Connect with Simone Milasashttps://www.simonemilasas.com/https://www.instagram.com/simonemilasas/https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMNJfnEjT/Connect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store
Jun 25
41 min
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