The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

Dr. John Schinnerer -The Evolved Caveman
The goal is success AND happiness at work AND at home. Short of that, you have neither success nor happiness. Dr. John focuses on the evolution of men in areas such as leadership, health, relationships, purpose, work, sex and self-mastery. He has been a Ph.D. and coach for over 20 years, working with Army Rangers, Navy SEALs, CEOs, elite athletes and high net worth individuals. His passion is the intersection of high performance, success and happiness. So, if you're looking for how to get the most from your relationships, your work and your life, you're in the perfect place. Please remember to rate, review, share and subscribe! Join the movement to change the world! TheEvolvedCaveman.com GuideToSelf.com TheUltimateRelationship.com 
Episode 18: Create an Extraordinary Relationship, with Linda & Charlie Bloom
Join Joree and I in our new monthly Master Class series on Relationships: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/And join us in Costa Rica Sept 28-Oct. 5, 2024: https://joreerose.com/retreats/costa-rica/In this joint episode with my partner Joree Rose, LMFT,, we talk with esteemed therapists, Charlie and Linda Bloom, who were an integral part of our healing after our breakup. Married for over 54 years, they have been doing joint couples work for over 40 years, leading workshops and courses all over the world, and are the authors of 5 books; the most recent is An End To Arguing, which we talk about in this episode. Charlie and Linda share valuable, insightful and practical tools for how couples can work towards and maintain a strong relationship, despite hardships, of which they have survived many. Beginning with a shared value of being lifelong learners, they have always taken the time for personal growth which has served as the foundation for their relationship, as they’ve always been inspired to aim higher. In this episode we talk about the 3 words you should never say to your partner in an argument, how you can have a breakdown become a breakthrough instead of a breakup, and how relationships are spiritual practices. When you can self-reflect and take responsibility for your emotions and experience, reveal with vulnerability what you are feeling rather than conceal it, and continue to communicate until you are feeling complete after an argument, then you can truly reside in the safety of a secure relationship. If you are someone who is interested in building an extraordinary relationship, then this episode is for you.Find out more about two upcoming relationship classes taught by Charlie and Linda!Esalen workshop from May 24-26.   Esalen.org/workshops/secrets-of-great-relationships-for-individuals-and-couples-052424Kripalu workshops from Feb 9-11 Kripalu.org/presenters-programs/secrets-great-relationshipsAbout Linda & Charlie: Linda Bloom, LCSW and Charlie Bloom, MSW:Charlie and Linda have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups, and organizations since 1975 and have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA and internationally, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and The Northern California Mindfulness Institute. They have authored five books, including the best seller, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 sold), Secrets of Great Marriages, Happily Ever After... and 39 Other Myths about Love, That which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places, and An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships. They are founders and co-directors of Bloomwork, based in Santa Cruz, California. Their website is www.bloomwork.comIf you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.
Jan 15
1 hr 10 min
Episode 17: Creating Deep Connection In Romantic Relationships
At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and physical. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many know how to actually achieve it in a sustainable way. In this episode, Joree and I share some far out stories about our plunge into spirituality, owl familiars, psychedelics and healing our relationship following our break up. To assist you in deepening your own soul connections, Joree and I are excited to offer the latest ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen your partnership. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ It is being offered right now at a silly low cost!
Jan 8
1 hr 10 min
Episode 16: Laugh Your Way Into 2024 w/ Alli  Goldberg, A Top 10 Comedian
2023 was a rough year for me. And I suspect it may have been rough for you too. In hopes of lightening things up as we head into a more peaceful and productive 2024, I interview Alli Goldberg, an up and coming comedian who, among other things, hosts a live dating show, Love Isn’t Blind, in which the men cannot speak. Alli and I talk about what she has found out about dating given her unique perspective as one who is currently dating and who MCs a dating show. She is funny, insightful and illuminating. It is truly an enjoyable conversation. Listen now, as I ask a question I’ve never uttered before, “If you were a sex toy, which one would you be?” Allison Goldberg is a creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to a well-known podcasting platform (releasing in Feb 2024). In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts and then an expert joins as we break down your break up. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. Alli was recently named one of the top 10 funniest women in NYC. Alli is a graduate of Yale University.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer
Dec 29, 2023
51 min
Episode 16: Authentic Masculinity: Taking Off The Mask
Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men’s hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Depression has risen to unprecedented highs in men. Loneliness among men is an epidemic. How do we reconcile these disparate truths?Based on more than fifteen years of research, Keith E. Edwards, PhD, illuminates men’s masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. He also shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be. The men in his study thought they had a unique secret, but they all shared the same secret. They each wore masks to hide their insecurities and portray an image that would be seen as “man enough” according to the external expectations of them as men. These external expectations oppress women and transgender people, place some men above other men, and limit all men. Men struggle with their unmasking. Too often, as soon as their insecurities reemerge, the mask snaps back into place as though attached with an elastic cord. With mask consciousness, men can engage in their own process of becoming by exploring their identity and practicing aligning their actions with integrity. About Keith Edwards:Keith helps transformational leaders make the complex uncomplicated for leadership, learning, and equity. His research, writing, and speaking have received national awards and recognition. Keith is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity, which based on more than fifteen years of research. Keith illuminates men’s masking, unmasking, and becoming to help men develop their own authentic masculinity. Even though men as a group have power, individual men often feel powerless. These contradictory experiences contribute to men’s hurting—hurting others and being hurt. Keith shares strategies to help us all better engage the men in our lives with empathy, reach them with compassion, effectively hold them accountable, and help them to become the men they aspire to be.Keith co-edited the book Addressing Sexual Violence in Higher Education and co-authored the chapter on Comprehensive Sexual Violence Prevention in this book. His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world.He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs.Find out more about Keith:KeithEdwards.com  If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer
Dec 18, 2023
54 min
Episode 15: Happiness Is All About Connection & Relatiionship
At the root of all happy and fulfilled relationships are deep connections - emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual. Connection is something we all say we want and yet not many of us know how to actually achieve it in a way that is truly sustainable. In this episode, Joree and I share some stories from our recent trip to Africa that highlight the importance and value of human connection. We also share personal anecdotes from our own relationship, in our journey to develop deeper connection with one another, as well as some patterns and experiences that we see with clients, in which connection is not achieved, compromised, or simply nonexistent. The good news is that the tools to achieve deeply connected relationships are all learnable. And, to this end, Joree and I are really excited to be offering new ways to learn more about yourself, the barriers to your own ability to connect vulnerably and authentically with others, as well as relational tools to strengthen any partnership that has the desire to grow. Reserve your space in our new monthly Master Class to learn new ways to cultivate more connection & intimacy with your loved one!To join our new monthly Master Class Series: https://joreerose.com/theawaremethodmasterclass/ If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 
Dec 11, 2023
49 min
Episode 14: Best Ways To Deal With A Romantic Breakup
Earlier this year, I went through a breakup with my partner, Joree. It was bruuuuutal. Fortunately, we reconciled after two months and now are stronger than ever. Yet, it raises a critical question: How do you BEST deal with the painful breakup from a loved one? We know that love is addictive. So breakups are a lot like kicking a substance abuse problem. But why do some people get addicted to their ex while others don’t? And how can we best manage the painful emotions involved in a breakup?Join Dr. John for an amazing conversation with Dr. Cortney Warren, a psychologist and professor specializing in how to let go of your ex (among other things!). Topics covered:How to survive a tough breakup?What are the differences when you break it off vs. being on the receiving end of the break up?How is love addictive?Why do some lovers get addicted to their ex while others don’t ? How does this relate to obsessive or stalking behavior?What can family and friends do to help a loved one who is addicted to an ex? About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest:Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, among other things. Her newest work is a self-help book that explores breakups through an addictive framework called Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023) Her earlier book is Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception (2014).If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 
Dec 4, 2023
1 hr 4 min
Episode 13: Release Your Inner Passion & Level Up Your Sex Life
 To what extent are you sexually repressed? Do you have a hard time talking about sex? Body parts? Can you ask for what you want in bed? Do you even know what you want? Great sex is an important part of a satisfying relationship. Find out more about how to level up the sexual part of your relationship in this episode of The Evolved Caveman. Topics covered:How to bring playfulness into your sex life.Sex Outside the Lines: How we can explore all that is possible in the bedroom.The blocks that prevent us from exploring sexually.How to turn shame into the erotic.The importance of consent in sex and how to do so.The difference between erotic energy and sexual energy. Why sex is such a taboo topic and how to overcome the discomfort in speaking about it.How to develop greater intimacy with your partner.About Dr. John’s Guest:Are you looking to unleash your inner passion and take your relationships to the next level? Look no further than Court Vox, a certified sex and intimacy coach and surrogate partner intern. His work as a Sacred Intimate is based in Los Angeles and he is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. As a founder of The Body Vox and co-founder of SQUIRM, Court is dedicated to helping individuals discover and explore their sexuality in a safe and healthy manner. He is also part of a team of sex educators who have created the renowned program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats worldwide.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!  
Nov 27, 2023
58 min
Episode 12: Looking Backwards: Life Hacks From The Wisdom of Elders
The Wisdom of Elders. What can we learn from the wisdom of men who have suffered trauma, made mistakes & risen above it all? As it turns out, we can learn an incredible amount.  Don St John’s life has been nothing short of miraculous. He suffered abuse in childhood—violent beatings & constant verbal abuse. In his early twenties, he was incapable of feeling human connection, had poor impulse control, drank excessively & had poor physical health. By age 35, he had gone through 3 marriages & 3 divorces. He had very little, if any, sense of connection to his body or to his emotions. His life trajectory looked bleak indeed.Today, psychologist & author of the award winning book, Healing the Wounds of Childhood: A Psychologist’s Journey And Discoveries From Wretched Beginnings To A Thriving Life, shares & teaches about the work he has done and how he transformed his life from the inside out. He offers ways for others to do the same, no matter what the age or what their beginnings.Topics covered:Trauma is a vague & overused word. How do we define trauma?How does trauma impact us?Trauma largely operates outside of conscious awareness. How do we begin to become aware of our own trauma?How can we begin to heal from our various traumas?How are vibrant health, high quality intimate relationships & a good relationship with your body all inter-related?What are some key insights and practices to build extraordinary relationships?The Loneliness Epidemic and it’s consequencesWhere to reach Dr. Donwww.pathsofconnection.com [email protected] you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 
Nov 20, 2023
57 min
Episode 11: Archetypes, Heroic Journeys and Anti-heroes In Men
Star Wars. Lord Of The Rings. Call Of Duty.  Homer’s Odyssey. Spiderman. All are examples of the Hero’s Journey. Popularized by the famed mythologist Joseph Campbell, this story arc is etched into our minds and hearts as what we are to do if we are to succeed as men. Yet, what happens if our lives are merely ordinary? What if we never get the chance to be a hero? Do we matter any less? Find out more in this week’s episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast. Topics covered: What are archetypes and why should you care?What is the Hero’s Journey? What is the Anti-hero’s Journey?How can the Hero’s Journey be damaging to boys?The archetypes we normally hear about in men’s work are the king, the magician, the warrior and lover. What are some of the other archetypes that have something important to teach us?Why is it so important to create space between clients’ selves and their culture?How has the trope of the bromance damaged men?About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest:Dr. Jason Frishman is a psychologist who has been working for over 20 years to support individuals, groups, families, organizations and businesses. He holds degrees in adventure therapy and narrative psychology. Jason is excited to bring over two decades of work in offices, institutions, kitchens, farmers’ markets, woodlots and boardrooms to wild new environments. Whether as a psychotherapist, the creator and founder of JourneyMen, public speaker, thought leader or narrative consultant, Jason believes that our lives are adventurous, and we can and should be an active, engaged author of our own adventure stories.Resources:Email Jason at [email protected] Visit his site at JourneyMenFoundation.com If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 
Nov 13, 2023
55 min
Episode 10: My Grief Over Losing My Son 2 Weeks Ago
Slightly over two weeks ago, Joree and I came home from an epic Africa trip. The following day, the police came to my door to tell me my 23-year-old son, Brett, was dead. As always, I try to use experiences in my life to authentically and honestly teach others - how to feel, how to cope, how to make meaning, and how to rejuvenate and re-open the heart after loss. Trigger warning: This one is raw, emotional, and contains discussion about death and grieving. What emotions show up in the emotional turmoil that is grief?How does grief show up in the body?How do you make sense of a tragic death afterwards?What are some of the best things you can say to someone in grief?What are some best practices to re-engage with life and routine after a death?Thank you for your support during this difficult time. Thank you for listening. Thank you for the love. Thank you for being you. You matter to me. You are important to me. You are why I do what I do. Please share with others if you feel they might benefit from this episode on loss, death and grief. 
Nov 6, 2023
56 min
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