Stop Over-drinking and Start Living

Friends, I have news, my sweet Edie girl dog has passed.  This episode is an exploration of how I'm processing her passing and concepts that I use to make the grief and loss more bearable.  I also discuss that the pain from loss is not linear and we need to let go of timelines.  The most painful thing we can do is judge ourselves that 'we should be over' something when the grief pops through.  Thank you for listening week after week and getting to hear her snores, her collar shake and chime and even an occasional bark. She has been a part of this podcast for 6 straight years, there for me through all the changes, expansions, coaching calls with you and more.  She will be missed. Ep 79 Processing Grief:https://www.angelamascenik.com/podcasts/stop-over-drinking-and-start-living/episodes/2147641498 Enrolling for Seattle and Cancun Sober retreats: www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingPrivate coaching with Angela application:https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lmJoin the Alive AF! waitlist-https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveaf Tags:Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use, mental health awareness month, how to stop over-drinking, how to stop drinking so much wine, life coach for women who drink too much, grief, loss, pet loss, processing grief, pain from loss

My amazing client Rhiannon, generously offered to come on the podcast in exchange for a coaching session!  She posted in our Alive AF! private Facebook group about needing coaching around summertime and how to make her self a priority while her kids are home and they have a lot going on.  You MUST listen to this podcast immediately if summer time has you feeling like you can't possibly find time for yourself and your goals, you have any resentments towards family members, or you need a dose of inspiration.  This was the question that she posted in the group, tune in and hear the coaching I gave her:  '#coaching I have been wanting to post but have just been so overwhelmed and busy. School has been out for almost 3 weeks and that always throws me into a tailspin. That and the fact that I have been traveling solo with my kids 8 out of the last 14 days. All my choice of course but I find it hard to find time for myself when this happens. Same old song and dance about putting everyone else’s needs above my own.I was wanting to set a goal for myself for June that I would find time to just do the basics daily; journal, plan, read, listen to a workshop, drink my water and walk. With my kids out of school and being around me so much I have a hard time finding privacy and time to be alone to do these things and I have learned that I really need that. I have been getting up early and somedays it’s great but somedays they get up early too and I get annoyed by that bc I feel like that’s my only time to be alone. I realize I’m judging myself for that last fact. Edit to add that I do see an improvement from last year, I had already started back to very regular drinking by now from the same issue. So I am proud that part is sticking for me finally.'  I hope you enjoy this episode, and you take the coaching I gave Rhiannon and apply it to your own life! Join me in 6-months to Transformation:www.angelamascenik.com/transformationprogram - Enrolling for Seattle and Cancun Sober retreats: www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingPrivate coaching with Angela application:https://admin.typeform.com/form/x8tcz6lm/shareJoin the Alive AF! waitlist-https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveaf Tags:Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use, mental health awareness month, how to stop over-drinking, how to stop drinking so much wine, life coach for women who drink too much

Ep 282, How to Protect Yourself From Over-drinking in the FutureThis episode I discuss the importance of doing what you can to protect yourself from over-drinking in the future. You might be someone who has made great progress in stopping the over-drinking. Now, you might be lacking on 'doing the work' that you did in the beginning to get where you are now. This episode encourages you to invest in your self-care even when things are going well. Stress and taking on too many things takes a toll on our well-being and if you aren't investing into yourself you can feel on the edge and if this goes on too long it can lead you to over-drink. Over-drinking doesn't usually happen because of one event in one given day, it builds over time and this episode helps you understand how you can protect yourself from over-drinking in the future by taking care of yourself today. Tune in and hear a recent example of how I worked through this in my own life and choose to say no to something that was going to be too much of a stretch for me. Links referenced in the podcast:Ep 273 How to Prioritize Yourself  Accepting applications NOW: 6-month Transformation Program www.angelamascenik.com/transformationprogram - start date June 30th Enrolling for Seattle and Cancun Sober retreats:  www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoaching Private coaching with Angela application:https://admin.typeform.com/form/x8tcz6lm/share Tags:Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use, mental health awareness month, how to stop over-drinking, how to stop drinking so much wine, life coach for women who drink too much

Please join me in welcoming Dr. Noell L. Rowan to the podcast. Noell Rowan, Ph.D., LCSW, LCAS, CCS, ACSW is a clinician with more than three decades of experience in the field of social work. She has practiced in hospital, community, and private practice settings in Georgia, Kentucky, Indiana, and provides clinical supervision for MSW students in North Carolina. After practicing for more than a decade, she returned to further her education and earned a Ph.D. in social work and has since authored more than 40 publications and participated on many teams of grants to expand her ability to focus on wellness in the areas of mental health, addictions, and spirituality. She has served in several university leadership roles building social work degree programs, was recruited to UNCW School of Social Work to join their leadership team and has resided on the beautiful coast of North Carolina since 2013. She teaches graduate students about practice skills, oversees the graduate addictions certification program, and enjoys making meaningful connections with people and fostering growth toward the highest potential. Noell considers it a high honor to work with people on their life journey, and seeks to collaborate and honor each person's path and way of viewing the world to navigate their concerns, process thoughts and feelings and recognize their strengths and solutions along the way. Dr. Rowan and I discuss mental health and the importance of asking for help if you notice specific signs of struggling, including over-drinking. She also discusses her research around alcohol addiction in the LGBTQ population, specifically what works for people to remain alcohol free for the long term. She gives easy, practical tips on how to improve your mental health that anyone can try on their own. We also discuss the importance of developing a relationship with nature and that there is no shame in seeking help. I hope you enjoy this special episode as much as I did recording it! Thank you Dr. Rowan for coming on.You can connect with Dr. Rowan in her private practice at: https://www.therapycharlotte.com/about/#noellPandemic and Women Drinking Summarywww.angelamascenik.com/blog/women-aged-40-64-experienced-significant-increases-in-alcohol-related-complications-during-pandemic North Carolina Alcohol Resourceswww.morepowerfulnc.org/get-help/finding-treatment/ MY LINKS: Retreat/coaching packages-https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingJoin the Alive AF! waitlist-https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveafApply to work with me privately-https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use, noell rowan, mental health awareness month, addiction recovery clinician, addiction social work, addiction research, lgbtq addiction, lgbtq alcohol addiction recovery, lgbtq addiction support

This is a special conversation I had with Kim Jeffs, Founder, Executive & Somatic Coach of Soma and Soul and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counseling Supervisor. From Kim: ‘I'm licensed as a mental health counseling supervisor in the State of NC. Additionally, I'm a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, focused on high-stress physiology. Over two decades, I've explored the connection between the mind and body, obtaining various certifications that enrich my practice. This continuous learning has allowed me to help individuals tap into their potential, both professionally and personally. Despite my professional journey, it's essential to remember that, like everyone, I am human. I understand life's challenges and the importance of connection. I believe that we navigate life more effectively when we're connected and supportive of one another. This philosophy drives me, ensuring that Soma & Soul isn't just a business but a place of genuine support and transformation.’ Kim and I dive into mental health and bring awareness in how to identify if you are struggling with mental health. She also discusses Somatics, which is our bodies, and how our bodies can let us know if we need help processing our feelings/emotions. We also discuss the symptom of over-doing anything that isn’t good for us like over-drinking, over-working, over-eating etc. We highlight the need to get mental health support and that everyone struggles at some point or even regularly in their lives. There is no shame in getting help and just because you think you ‘should be happy’ because of your life circumstances, doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to find out why you aren’t feeling or living the way you want or think you could. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and it helps you recognize if you need additional support. Join Kim’s S&S Community by following them on their social media platforms:Rise Women's Leadership Summit in Chapel Hill: www.thesomaandsoul.com/rise/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/somaandsoulllc Instagram https://www.instagram.com/soma_and_soul_coaching/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCddc75kx5meLjmsvMXehVvQ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlyjeffs/ www.thesomandsoul.com Work with Angela:Get on the waitlist for Alive AF! www.angelamascenik.com/aliveaf Private Coaching with Angela application: https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm?typeform-source=angela-mascenik.mykajabi.com 2024 Retreats and Coaching Packages:https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoaching Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, masked desires, covert wants, disguised desires, self serving acts, say yes to drinking less, do I have a problem, allowing discomfort, getting uncomfortable, how to drink less, stop over-drinking, how to drink less wine, I drink too much, why do I drink too much, how to drink less not quit, addiction recovery, life coach for women who want to drink less or quit, somatics, mental health awareness month podcast, benefit of somatics and mental health, Kim Jeffs, Soma and Soul, Soma & Soul, Kim Jeffs and Angela Mascenik

My husband and I went to NYC for the weekend and a theme emerged, ASSUMPTIONS. So many assumptions happened for both of us and one involving a complete stranger. Our mind likes to make assumptions to save us energy and time. An assumption is a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. Tune in and hear 3 completely different stories on assumptions, from brunch to a phone charger to a stranger yelling at us in Central Park. What assumptions are you making about other people that are HURTING YOU? Like, 'they are excluding me.' What assumptions are you making about alcohol that isn't serving you? Like 'if I don't drink, it will be boring.' Assumptions can help you or hurt you. If you find out you were wrong for assuming something, can you learn from this, let it go, or laugh instead of getting angry or blaming your assumption on someone else? I'd love to hear what assumptions you make that you have found out aren't true. Hire me as your private coach: https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm Grab one of the last two spots in the Seattle retreat. Put your deposit down now: https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoaching Get on the Alive AF! waitlist: https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveaf Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, masked desires, covert wants, disguised desires, self serving acts, say yes to drinking less, do I have a problem, allowing discomfort, getting uncomfortable, how to drink less, stop over-drinking, how to drink less wine, I drink too much, why do I drink too much, how to drink less not quit, addiction recovery, life coach for women who want to drink less or quit

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being.  It affects how we think, feel, and act.  It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make healthy choices.  Over-drinking is usually a sign that our mental health is in need of some help.  Over-drinking is a symptom. For a lot of my clients, it's a symptom of stress, high levels of anxiety, overwhelm, loneliness, grief, big painful life changes or traumatic events like a high conflict divorce or a major medical diagnoses.  Using alcohol as a way to cope is a sign that your mental health could use some support.  It's not something to be ashamed of or to keep a secret.  If you've been struggling with alcohol use and you identify as someone who is using alcohol as a way to cope (or another sign is, finding it very hard to stop automatic behavior and can't identify the cause of your over-drinking) it's time to get help.  Tune into this podcast episode and hear the intersections of mental health and over consumption of alcohol.Here's a resource I used in creating this episode:https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/sites/default/files/2022-06/MHF-Alcohol-and-mental-health-guide.pdfAnother resource:SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.In North Carolina:https://trosainc.org/finding-free-programs/MY LINKS: Retreat/coaching packages-https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingJoin the Alive AF! waitlist-https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveafApply to work with me privately-https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, mental health, mental health and alcohol use

What does this even mean? Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you get when you perceive other people feeling some sort of discomfort or negative feelings? If you have noticed this and then tried to 'make everyone feel better' or 'try to diffuse' a situation so the peace gets kept or whatever it is, how does this work out for you? Does it exhaust you, make you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or edgy? And then what do you do? Drink, eat, scroll, avoid, fight...or cause a bigger issue than what actually existed? Well, I happen to have been aware of myself being really uncomfortable and tight and edgy and grippy when I perceive some else's discomfort in a whole bunch of situations. And that sucks because when I feel that way, I immediately want to 'make it better' for them and that feels graspy and honestly it's a big energy suck AND it doesn't work. DANG IT. So that's my work this month. And I invite you to come along with me and choose something that is a big discomfort for you. Is it urges for alcohol, snacking at night or something else? What do you have a big discomfort over? The key to being more comfortable in this area is to ALLOW the initial discomfort you feel right now.You have to be willing to go through it for it to feel better. That's the process. This episode dives into how to do that and I share a little bit of what I am working on as an example. Let's get uncomfortable together, friends!Join Say YES for Drinking Less:https://www.angelamascenik.com/say-yesHire me as your private coach: https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lmGrab one of the last two spots in the Seattle retreat. Put your deposit down now: https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingGet on the Alive AF! waitlist: https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveaf Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol, help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, masked desires, covert wants, disguised desires, self serving acts, say yes to drinking less, do I have a problem, allowing discomfort, getting uncomfortable

This episode helps you discover if YOU have a problem with alcohol. Most people have an image in their minds about what someone with an alcohol problem looks like. And for most of my clients they don't match that description. Often people who want to cut back get pushback from their loved ones who don't understand why they are focusing on cutting back when 'they don't understand, you don't do anything bad, or nothing bad is happening from your drinking.' Sometimes these external messages confuse our desire to cut back or quit. You might then tell yourself, 'I work full-time, take care of the kids, take care of everything, surely I can have a couple glasses of wine at the end of the day!' And then you dismiss your own truth. This episode dives into this and helps you understand YOUR situation with alcohol better so you can remain clear on what you want and then can clearly communicate to others if you need to. If you are struggling and haven't been able to make the changes you want on your own, please get help. Join Say YES for Drinking Less taking place April 29-May 1st, 2024 register HERE: https://www.angelamascenik.com/say-yesHire me as your private coach: https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lmGrab one of the last spots in the Seattle retreat: https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingGet on the Alive AF! waitlist: https://www.angelamascenik.com/aliveafYou deserve to move past whatever issue you are having with alcohol.The people who get help are more successful, don't wait any longer!Ep 275 Navigating Skepticism: What to Do When Loved Ones Dismiss Your Desire to Cut Back:https://www.angelamascenik.com/podcasts/stop-over-drinking-and-start-living/episodes/2148585758 Tags: Stop Over-drinking,  Angela Mascenik,  stop drinking podcast,  how to feel,  how to overcome addiction,  how to drink less wine,  change your relationship with alcohol,  coach for women who want to drink less alcohol,  help to stop over-drinking,  stop over-drinking,  life coach to help stop over-drinking,  self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, masked desires, covert wants, disguised desires, self serving acts, say yes to drinking less, do I have a problem

This episode dives into what to do when someone you care about shares that they don’t think you need to cut back or wishes you wouldn’t cut back or dismisses your desire to quit or cut back. Mostly, when people dismiss your desire to cut back it’s just because they don’t want to cut back. They don’t want anything to change. So when you say you are going to do something differently, it often will make them look at their own habits around alcohol. And they might unconsciously feel a bit threatened about their own attachment to alcohol. What really matters is that YOU acknowledge you want to cut back and that you do something about it. And that it’s not black and white. Just because you don’t present like a down and out alcoholic doesn’t mean that your alcohol consumption isn’t a concern to you.  If you think you drink too much and it’s been hard to cut back, it needs to be addressed.  Don’t let someone else’s opinion deter your desire to cut back. You know if it’s too much and that is what matters. Click here to join us in Say YES to Drinking Less:https://www.angelamascenik.com/say-yesCheck out my retreat/private coaching packages:https://www.angelamascenik.com/2024retreatsandcoachingApply for private coaching with me:https://form.typeform.com/to/x8tcz6lm Tags: Stop Over-drinking, Angela Mascenik, stop drinking podcast, how to feel, how to overcome addiction, how to drink less wine, change your relationship with alcohol, coach for women who want to drink less alcohol,  help to stop over-drinking, stop over-drinking, life coach to help stop over-drinking, self-love, importance of self-love, online membership to stop over-drinking, program to help quit alcohol, how to quit drinking, spouses, partners, food, overeating, moderation, sober retreat, how to prioritize yourself, make yourself a priority to drink less, masked desires, covert wants, disguised desires, self serving acts, say yes to drinking less, negative skepticism, dismissed