How do you actually know if your relationship is working?

In this episode of Shrinks on Tap, therapists Deborah Grodzicki,and Amy Begnal, LPC unpack the real signs of success in relationships — the ones most couples completely overlook because they’re so focused on what’s wrong.

They explore:

• Why your relationship is probably not doomed, even if it feels stuck

• How negativity bias and Gottman’s “negative sentiment override” keep you from seeing what’s going well

• The 3 C’s of trust — care, consistency, and capacity — and why all three matter

• The difference between emotional trust and just trusting someone not to be unfaithful

• Rituals of connection, touch, and the small moments that quietly hold relationships together

• A simple one-word “before and after” check-in that often shifts couples from anxious and resentful to hopeful and understood in just one session

• Why assuming good intent can change how you show up with your partner

This is a hopeful, grounding conversation for anyone who’s wondering, “Are we okay?” or “Is this worth the work?”

🎧 Listen in, then ask yourself:
What’s going well in my relationship this week — with myself, my partner, and my people?