Ross and I each share 3 songs that have impacted our recovery. I am calling this one a palate cleanser after some fairly of heavy episodes recently. We plan to do this at least quarterly - maybe more.    Artists referenced in this episode include: Patty Griffin (of course, I am involved) Neil YoungNathaniel RateliffNina Simone The HighwomenTrigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

They say challenging things come in threes.  Well,  I have another heavy one this week, but it is worth it.  If you connect with sobriety or attachment or pet grief in any way, this episode should hopefully resonate with you. Panic Attack/Movie Theater/Marley and Me Attachment and Pet Loss Disenfranchised Grief Honoring pets and ourselves Showing up for the beings we love References:  Packman, W., Carmack, B. J., Katz, R., Carlos, F., Field, N. P., & Landers, C. (2014). Online survey as empathic bridging for the disenfranchised grief of pet loss. Omega, 69(4), 333–356. https://doi.org/10.2190/OM.69.4.aPark HJ, Jeong GC. Relationship between Attachment to Pet and Post-Traumatic Growth after Pet Loss: Mediated Moderating Effect of Cognitive Emotion Regulation Strategy through Separation Pain. Behav Sci (Basel). 2022 Aug 18;12(8):291. doi: 10.3390/bs12080291. PMID: 36004862; PMCID: PMC9405030.Field, N. P., Orsini, L., Gavish, R., & Packman, W. (2009). Role of attachment in response to pet loss. Death studies, 33(4), 334–355. https://doi.org/10.1080/07481180802705783Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

Today we talk about depression. Who says I don't know how to party.  "The Blues Run the Game" and the story or Jackson C. FrankA brief history of "the blues" Depression and the DSMAccepting Depression and Self Observation Depression hid from me and here is whySigns I am Depressed Shared experience heals (Elizabeth Gilbert Quote on Depression) The relationship between addiction and depressionMental Health, Recovery and Relationships References:American Psychological Association. (2010, July 1). Depression and how psychotherapy and other treatments can help people recover.https://www.apa.org/topics/depression/recoverFoster, B. Brian, PH.D.   Not Studying the Blues: A consideration of blues tourism in the Mississippi Delta. Oxford Magazinehttps://oxfordmag.com/not-studying-blues/Doyle, G. (2020).  Untamed   (pp. 273.)  The Dial Press Gilbert, E. (2006). Eat, Pray, Love. Viking Press.Keitner, G. I., Ryan, C. E., Miller, I. W., & Norman, W. H. (1992). Recovery and major depression: factors associated with twelve-month outcome. The American journal of psychiatry, 149(1), 93–99.https://doi.org/10.1176/ajp.149.1.93Stanley, Bob The tragic tale of Jackson C Frank, forgotten legend of the 60s tragic tale  The Guardianhttps://www.theguardian.com/music/2014/jan/09/jackson-c-frank-tragic-tale-forgotten-60s-legend  Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

Today we are talking about the very useful healing tool of self reparenting and  discuss examples of what it looks like day to day. Guest Bio -Cybele Botran, M.Ed, CPC, CPRC, SRCDCybele’s coaching practice empowers women to look inside and connect with their most tender, truest selves. She works with sober and sober curious women who want to overcome codependency, enmeshment, perfectionism, people-pleasing, build better boundaries, work through shame and guilt from past behaviors, and rediscover their inner children (inner child and inner teen). She is a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic Coach with a Master's Degree in Education and over 40 years of teaching experience. She coaches women individually, offers online classes and workshops, and leads REPARENT, a unique group coaching experience. She is training with Kelly McDaniel to become a Mother Hunger Facilitator. She stopped drinking alcohol in 2011, is the mother of three adult children, and lives in Miami, Florida, with her husband of 30+ years. Check out her website to grab some freebies, sign up for a class, or get on her REPARENT waitlist.https://www.wideawakerecovery.comhttps://www.wideawakerecovery.com/innerchildworkforbeginnersResources https://cptsdfoundation.org/2020/07/27/reparenting-to-heal-the-wounded-inner-child/https://www.wideawakerecovery.com/reparentTrigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

We regret to inform you.......today DeAnn learns some bummer news and uses some help from Pema Chodron to get her through ResourcesChodron, Pema "The Places that Scare You" Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

Weirdness of being ACTUALLY sick when you are sober Learning to trust yourself and acknowledge that you don't feel good Cathy comics+benadryl=a road to self trust in recovery. For me it did. Retro Narrative from 10/25/2020 the time I, sort of, accidentally mainlined Benadryl working through setbacks in recovery when you are isolatedaccepting, loving and integrating the old you into the newly recovery you  References: Doyle, G. (2020). ghosts. In Untamed  (pp. 93–93). Ebury Publishing. Cathy Comics clip:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYXhFRyJm10 - @OhSo80sTrigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

This episode is like my version of Adele's "21" except that I am not 21, I am almost 43. But we do pay a little visit to 21 year old DeAnn and reframe a few things based on the BioPsychoSocial model.  Yes - Psycho is in there.  Reference List: Ashford José B., LeCroy, C. W., & Williams, L. (2018). Introduction to Human Behavior in the Social Environment . In Human behavior in the social environment: A multidimensional perspective (6th ed.) Cengage Learning.Sheff, D. (2014). Treating Dual Diagnosis. In Clean: Overcoming addiction and ending America's greatest tragedy (pp. 238–241).  Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

A few years before I got sober I went to a Psych PA about the potential of starting antidepressants. After just a brief conversation with me she assessed that I had a value problem and needed to read "The Four Agreements".  She was VERY confident. She wasn't necessarily wrong, but......In today's episode, Nate and I chat about one of our favorite accessible recovery reads, the Four Agreements.Be impeccable with your word Don't take anything personally Don't make assumptions Do your best There are a  few problematic things that I speak to at that end, but overall this is an action oriented way of living that has some easily adoptable concepts.  Easy in theory,  not as easy in practice! References: Ruiz, D. M. (2001). The four agreements. Amber-Allen Publishing.Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

In today's episode, we talk about the specific power of grounding to assist healing both as individuals and in community.   DeAnn is joined by Kelly Parmley, an important member of her personal recovery community.  Lot's of wisdom from Kelly and some amazing insight to one of her tools, lovingly referred to as "The Scooby Doo".  The episode ends with Kelly taking the Show Up and Stay community through a community grounding of our own.  This will feel good. Like you just put your feet in the grass outside an a warm, breezy spring day. References: A., V. (2015). The Timekeeper Collapses. In The body keeps the score: Mind, brain and body in the transformation of trauma (pp. 70–70). essay, Penguin Books. Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/

In this week's episode DeAnn reads her original goodbye letter to alcohol and cries a little.  We hear some great cello from Katie.  If you're feeling raw today, you may want to sit this one out.  It is meant to be a meditation of sorts. Something you listen to when you are sitting down and present in your body. Trigger Warning: All episodes discuss addiction, depression, anxiety, mental health and the recovery process in depth. If there is any additional triggering material that needs noting there will be mention at the beginning of the episode. Music Created and Produced by Katie Hare. https://www.hare.works/If you have questions, comments or would like to be a guest on the show send email to: [email protected] More information about our project is available at:https://www.showupandstay.org/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/showupandstayorg/