Resolving conflict varies in each situation with each person.  Listen for skills to implement into your life to help resolution become the norm. Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “To solve a problem you have to recognize your share of the responsibility.  If you only blame the others, you will never solve it.”  Unknown

Expressing emotions in productive ways can be tricky.  Listen to an easy 4 step process to keep communication in your most important relationships healthy.  Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “Unexpressed emotions will never die.  They are buried alive and will come forth later, in uglier ways.” Sigmund Freud Emotions Charts:  https://www.amazon.com/Laminated-Feeling-Borgman-Emotions-Theraputic/dp/B07C4615TX/ref=asc_df_B07C4615TX/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=652398941517&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2865433397060507114&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9009658&hvtargid=pla-2008465786048&psc=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwqZSlBhBwEiwAfoZUIMTOAXp29FrB-iOyWO2SQ8unhc3qnHgSP2UTJLaZ7jwub0LB7ry83BoCFsQQAvD_BwE https://thechalkboardmag.com/the-feelings-circle-chart-emotional-communication/

This summer we are covering the Top Seven Issues in Relational Communication.  Today we discuss active listening, listening to understand.   Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.  The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” Ralph G Nichols Quotes from Apple TV Ted Lasso

Summer allows more time with family and friends than most other time of the year.  This summer we will cover the Top Seven Issues in Relational Communication.  Each episode will cover one of the seven issues.  Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “You don’t have to cheat to lose someone.  You can lose someone from a lack of communication, attention and disrespect.  It’s not always what you do, sometimes is about what you didn’t do.”  Unknown “Every action you take is a vote for the person you wish to become.”  James Clear

Last episode we learned about Invisible Labor. Today we discuss how and when to communicate areas you want or need help and reasons your conversation may not be met with ease.  Everyone has invisible labor, most of what happens inside the home is taken by the females.  Have the conversations, improve the balance of work inside the home.   https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/

Invisible work, the thinking that goes into managing work, family and households.  This phrase entered my world a few months ago and I’ve been doing some research to bring this to you.  This is part one of a two - maybe three part series.  Today we define and start understand what invisible labor is.  Next episode we will discuss how to communicate invisible labor to those in our house.   Episode Quotes and Links https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “A reminder, in itself, takes tremendous mental effort by you. It requires knowing what needs to be done, remembering what needs to be done, and reminding someone to get it done, whereas the person being reminded gets off easy. He doesn't have to remember a thing, nor does he worry about forgetting. And if you think about it, reminding and praising is the daily work of parenting children, not partnering with husbands.”  ― Eve Rodsky Emotional Labor - Arlie Hochschild

We have spoken words that have cost us. Have you ever considered the cost of silence?  The cost of not sharing the important, necessary words of your heart to those around you?  Listen for phrases you can make your own to open the door to conversation you have held silent.   Episode Links and Quotes Freedom is not free - from The Korean War Veterans Memorial, Washington DC https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/

To show up and be present for others is one of the greatest gifts we can offer.  Showing up for ourself is equally important.  Learn to implement a few easy ways to build a more trusting relationship with yourself.  Episode Links and Quotes: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it.” ~unknown

I am here- a few weeks ago I was listening to a podcast (I cannot recall which one) and the guest was sharing that's the way a friend greets others.  I've lets those words roll around in my mind and spent time practicing that concept since I heard it.  What does it mean and how can we say "I am here" or our own version of it to welcome ourselves and those we are with into present, real conversation.  I also share my brief introduction to my mistress in my former marriage.     Episode Quotes and Links:  https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ “Instead of forcing yourself to feel positive, allow yourself to be present in the now”  Daniel Mangena “Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.”  Eckhart Tolle

Grief is a part of all life, we cannot escape it.  Communicating to people we love in their grief is challenging. We want our words to bring comfort, we need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and show up with love and words that connect or maybe silence is the answer.  Listen for ideas of what to say and what not to in these uncomfortable moments.     Episode Quotes and Links:  https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "Grief is not a medical disorder to be cured. Grief is not spiritual crisis to be resolved. Grief is not a social woe to be addressed. Grief is, simply, a matter of the heart — to be felt.”  “When we love deeply, we mourn deeply; extraordinary grief is an expression of extraordinary love. Grief and love mirror each other; one is not possible without the other.”  “Others may tell us that it’s time to “move on” or that this is “part of some bigger plan” — because our shattering makes them feel uneasy, vulnerable, at risk. Some may avoid us, others pity us. But this grief is ours. We have earned this grief, paying for it with love and steadfast devotion. We own this pain, even on days when we wish it weren’t so. We needn’t give it away or allow anything, or anyone, to pilfer it.”  Joanne Cacciatore, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief   “We need to talk about the hierarchy of grief. You hear it all the time—no grief is worse than any other. I don’t think that’s one bit true. There is a hierarchy of grief. Divorce is not the same as the death of a partner. Death of a grandparent is not the same as the death of a child. Losing your job is not the same as losing a limb. Here’s the thing: every loss is valid. And every loss is not the same. You can’t flatten the landscape of grief and say that everything is equal. It isn’t.” “There are losses that rearrange the world. Deaths that change the way you see everything, grief that tears everything down. Pain that transports you to an entirely different universe, even while everyone else thinks nothing has really changed.”  “The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.”  “There is not a reason for everything. Not every loss can be transformed into something useful. Things happen that do not have a silver lining.”  Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand    “Grief is a heart-wrenchingly painful problem for the brain to solve, and grieving necessitates learning to live in the world with the absence of someone you love deeply, who is ingrained in your understanding of the world. This means that for the brain, your loved one is simultaneously gone and also everlasting, and you are walking through two worlds at the same time. You are navigating your life despite the fact that they have been stolen from you, a premise that makes no sense, and that is both confusing and upsetting.”   Mary-Frances O'Connor, The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss