Dr. Money's mental moment outlines a plan to E.N.J.O.Y. your mental health day off... because you know you need one! I celebrate Valerie Boyd as QueerWOC of the week and ask where do all the queers who dont club hang out? Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Support is a verb!: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:04:50 Narrative nonfiction writer and famed biographer Valerie Boyd https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/18/books/valerie-boyd-dead.html Mental Moment with Money 00:13:33 Take a Mental Health Day What to do on a mental health day to rejuvenate and not vegetate E.N.J.O.Y it! Emotional to do list - what are all the things keeping you from a good nights rest? List them out Nap! - naps are empirically supported when it comes to reducing stress. Take a short sleep break to rest and recharge. If you’re not a napper, take this time to knock out something on that emotional to do list. Joy activity - get outside and do one thing that brings you joy. Outline what you need to not burn out - how can i tell when i am not functioning at my best? How can i tell when work is taking over my life? How can i notice stress before it gets critical? What am I unmotivated to do? (Do I have to do it?) Your favorite thing - end your day with one of your favorite things. Whatever it is, make space to end your mental health day with a dopamine boost! Link to APA Poll: https://www.today.com/health/stress-pandemic-has-made-even-basic-decision-making-difficult-poll-t235963 Topic 00:33:26 Where do the non club queers meet? Asking for me! Curved Chronicles 00:39:40 Why are there no Black owned sex toy shops in Philly!?!?! Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Missy, Meghan, and Sandy who became new patrons and Reggie who hit up the cashapp This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Berlin, Germany; Mount Horeb, WI; and Daphne, AL

Money is back this week talking a tea to help calm your nerves, which was much needed after hearing that WNBA star (and lesbian heartthrob) and 2x Olympic Gold Medalist Brittney Griner has been detained in Russia for over 3 weeks. I talk my understandings of what's going on, what scares me about the timing of her detainment, and hopes for her safe return home (timestamp in the description for this discussion). Gloria Anzaldua is QueerWOC of the week this week and her words were a much needed and timely reminder of what we face as QWOC. #FreeBG #FreeBrittney #FreeBrittneyGriner Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:05:13 Theorist, Writer and Chicana lesbian feminist Gloria E. Anzaldúa Her book Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza (1987) and her essay “La Prieta” are considered groundbreaking works in cultural, feminist, and queer theories. With Cherríe Moraga, Anzaldúa co-edited the landmark anthology This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color (1981). lit review episode here: https://soundcloud.com/thelitreviewchi/episode-53-borderlands-with-trina-reyolds-tyler Book here: Teaching Gloria E. Anzaldúa: Pedagogy and Practice for Our Classrooms and Communities Margaret Cantú-Sánchez (Editor), Candace de León-Zepeda (Editor), Norma Elia Cantú Mental Moment with Money 00:24:33 Dandelion Root Tea Use to treat skin problems and digestion issues dates back to 16th century, but it is becoming increasingly popular now as a coffee substitute New Research shows dandelion root might be a natural Wellbutrin! Gao, C., Kong, S., Guo, B., Liang, X., Duan, H., & Li, D. (2019). Antidepressive Effects of Taraxacum Officinale in a Mouse Model of Depression Are Due to Inhibition of Corticosterone Levels and Modulation of Mitogen-Activated Protein Kinase Phosphatase-1 (Mkp-1) and Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor (Bdnf) Expression. Medical science monitor : international medical journal of experimental and clinical research, 25, 389–394. https://doi.org/10.12659/MSM.912922 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6340315/ Topic 00:38:38 #FreeBrittneyGriner Why isnt this story bigger? Brittney as a worker, but the WNBA is silent! WFT is happening in Russia?!? Listen to “The Dig” Russia Invades and “Red Nation Podcast” No War no NATO in Ukraine episodes https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2022/03/why-isnt-brittney-griner-the-biggest-sports-story.html https://www.cnn.com/2022/03/10/world/brittney-griner-arrest-russia-thursday/index.html To better understand what's happening in Russia: The Red Nation Pod https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/therednation/id/22352348 The Dig Pod: https://www.thedigradio.com/podcast-episodes/ Curved Chronicles 01:11:40 That time i curved myself - park date Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Luna and Marina, who became new patrons and Tiff V. who upped their pledge This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Franklin, NC; North Adams, MA; and Humble, TX

In this episode of #QueerWOC, Dr. Money talks 7 types of love, celebrates Ayana Flewellen as QueerWOC of the week, and parallels a 1970s discrimination lawsuit with a current day one in a way that only her queer Black feminist ass could! Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:04:33 https://www.pe.com/2022/02/04/uc-riverside-professor-one-of-few-black-archeologists-searching-for-sunken-slave-ships-and-hidden-history/ Archeologist and incredible wall hanging creator Ayana Omilade Flewellen @illegible_musings Ep 2 of Into The Depths podcast Ep 2 Season 4 of Sapiens Podcsst Mental Moment with Money 00:11:04 Stermberg’s Triangular Theory of Love https://www.verywellmind.com/types-of-love-we-experience-2303200 In Dr. Sternberg's theory, the concept of love is a triangle that is made up of three components. Intimacy, which involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness Passion, which involves feelings and desires that lead to physical attraction, romance, and sexual consummation Decision/commitment, which involves feelings that lead a person to remain with someone and move toward shared goals1 Topic 00:30:38 Kaylen Barker's Tesla Discrimination Lawsuit https://www.mercurynews.com/2022/01/28/tesla-sued-by-black-worker-claiming-racism-months-after-137-million-racial-abuse-damages-award/ Kimberle Crenshaw (1989) https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf Curved Chronicles 00:59:33 Thank yall for confirming that Taimi is garbage! I recommend Lex or Hinge CC from Calendula @IamKimDaily @Candycornball (twitter/IG) - Black, lesbian/queer, Baptist minister w/ an anti-capitalist analysis (she also has a pod called FishSandwichHeaven) @natalielaurensims (Black, Christian, queer woman poet/musician) @solaurenadams (Black, faithful, queer woman creative) @coachyeamah (she charges for her workshops) @empowermentcathedral in DC (Black queer affirming church) (Book) The Rebuttal - Pastor Romell D Weekly (I haven’t read it yet) Also, The Reformation Project, a nonprofit in ATL focused on helping Christians/churches be affirming to queer and trans people through Bible teachings (not the usual “love the sinner hate the sin” gaslighting), although their staff is very white. Community Contributors Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Dennisia, Zakiya, and Christi W. who became new patrons and Steph Loera who hit up the cashapp This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Hernando, MS; Southampton, PA; and Folsom, CA

Dr. Money is back with another episode, highlighting Athletes Unlimited Softball Champion Aleshia Ocasio as #QueerWOC of the week, adding some nuance and language to the conversations on narcissists, and responding to a Curved Chronicle that asks if it is possible to date a homophobic Christian. Spoiler: my answer is no!! Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/lotus-tape-vol-1 https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/drift-wood Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod What do yall wanna see on the patreon? Love us out loud by doing The R’s: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:04:00 Athletes Unlimited 2021 Softball Champion Aleshia Ocasio Mental Moment with Money 00:09:16 The Dark Triad of Personality Traits Narcissism is one of the 3 personality traits that make up the dark triad of personality traits, it shares the ability to manipulate and convince with Machiavellianism, the 2nd dark triad trait. Machiavellianism is the highly manipulative and amoral dark trait. “High machs” are calculating and strategic in their relationships with people and are usually solely future focused on self serving goals. Its defined by a particular callousness it shares with the 3rd dark trait The 3rd dark trait is Psychopathy which shares selfishness with narcissism. Psychopaths lack empathy and remorse for others D'Souza (2016) Topic 00:26:23 Send me one! Curved Chronicles 00:29:31 Thank yall for confirming that Taimi is garbage! I recommend Lex or Hinge CC from Calendula Community Contributors This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Callie, Katrina, Erika, and Nicolette who became new patrons This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Clapham, UK; Williamstown, MA; and Hackensack, NJ

Kicking off 2022 with a discussion on happy hormones, Taimi horror stories, and Nobody's Darling - a new Black lesbian bar in Chicago! Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/lotus-tape-vol-1 https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/drift-wood Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod What do yall wanna see on the patreon? Love us out loud by doing The R’s: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:04:50 Angela Barnes, 52, and her friend, Renauda Riddle, 41, opened Nobody’s Darling in May of 2021, selecting its name from two opening lines in “Be Nobody’s Darling,” a poem by Alice Walker, in which she urges: “Be nobody’s darling; Be an outcast.” Andersonville neighborhood of Chicago Owners, Nobody’s Darling https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/12/29/nobodys-darling-lesbian-queer-bar/ https://thegrio.com/2022/01/03/chicago-black-women-lesbian-bar-nobodys-darling/ Mental Moment with Money 00:14:26 Happy Hormones! Money talks the four major hormones that boost our mood and how to release them. Serotonin - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TknaM6okZM8 Endorphins Oxytocin Dopamine https://www.healthline.com/health/happy-hormone?c=331075527228#stress-reduction Topic 00:35:36 Send me one! Curved Chronicles 00:40:28 Colors on Taimi Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Sarah M., Charlene S., and Callie S. who became a new patrons, This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Harbor City, CA; Beaverton, OR; and Saint George, Grenada

Dr. Money is back for the final QueerWOC episode of 2021! Money talks things that happened this year that she appreciates, how to share with a friend without overwhelming them, and queer femme fashion. Khadija Mbowe is QueerPOC of the week. Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/lotus-tape-vol-1 https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/drift-wood Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:08:50 Khadija Mbowe YouTube video essayist and cultural critic link here: https://youtu.be/Rf3zj1qVbco Mental Moment with Money 00:16:00 That's not what trauma bonding means! A trauma bond - also known as a bond of trauma, abusive bonding,, traumatic love, traumatic bonding, or Stockholm syndrome is a dynamic that occurs in the context of abusive relationships. It happens when the person inflicting exploitation, violence, or another type of trauma becomes an essential part of the persons life who is experiencing this trauma. So what are people trying to get at by misusing the term? How to share without "dumping" on someone: ACTION Ask consent - I would like to share something hard with you, do you have the capacity to hear it? Check in as you share - I know this is hard to hear, are you okay? Tell them what you need or how you are healing- Inquire about them - so I just shared a lot but I would love to hear about you Open up about other things- I also love pottery Notice how you feel sharing - were you ready to share? https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/trauma/what-abusers-hope-we-never-learn-about-traumatic-bonding/ Topic 00:35:44 Things I’m thankful happened this year Curved Chronicles 00:47:38 Queer femmes jus different! Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Maya W who became a new patron, REVIEWS BY CAMERAQT, YVACREE, and zeeezeee This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Luton, UK; Moscow, Russia; and Douglasville, GA

Dr. Money is back from a grief break with a breakdown of different ways to move through grief and yet another curved chronicle. Spoiler alert: it includes business cards! 5 time WNBA champ Rebekkah Brunson is QueerWOC of the week and the pod has some new sounds thanks to @Abundanc3Beats. Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/lotus-tape-vol-1 https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/drift-wood Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Love us out loud by doing The R’s: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:05:50 Rebekkah Brunson She is the only WNBA player to win 5 championships https://lavendermagazine.com/our-lives/lavender-community-pride-award-for-lgbtq-individual-rebekkah-brunson/ Mental Moment with Money 00:17:38 Stages of grief is a lie! The 5 stages of grief model, also known as the Kubler-Ross Model of grief, was developed by Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Meaning Reconstruction and the Experience of Loss (American Psychological Association, 2001) Other models of grief Before and After Loss: A Neurologist's Perspective on Loss, Grief, and Our Brain by Lisa M. Shulman “Grief brain” model Dr. Tracey Marks High Low model Shock Trajectory model Disenfranchised grief & Stolen Grief https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL2QpphEeZFYwk6-WXD6hpA https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.2190/T9GT-QJCU-ADJP-37ER https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12416919/ https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/health-history/its-time-let-five-stages-grief-die https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/five-fallacies-of-grief/ Topic 00:50:44 Moving to a Black city! What up Philly Curved Chronicles 00:56:30 Business cards at the club Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Tiff V; Alyssa Gable; Lei Crowe; and Joan B. who became new patrons This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Saint George, Grenada; Walled Lake, Michigan; and Anchorage, Alaska

In this episode, I close out this chapter of QueerWOC with a compilation of highlights from the nonpareil I had the luck of calling my sister, Nikeeta Slade. Yall got to know Nikeeta as the womanist worker wordsmith wizard or the Leftist luminary labor lecturer, but I wanted to compile this mixtape to highlight Nikeeta, one of the greatest organizers and Proletariat Black Feminist theorists of our time. I hope yall enjoy this collection of her speeches, laughs, and insight and will see yall in December (her birth month) for the new chapter of QueerWOC. Forever love ya, Nikeeta! The Mixtape starts around 15 minute mark Ep 26: Burger King Breakups https://soundcloud.com/queerwoc/burgerkingbreakups Ep 40: L Words https://soundcloud.com/queerwoc/lwords Ep 70: Thats Not What We Asked For https://soundcloud.com/queerwoc/ep70 ISO Socialism 2013 Speech https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7q5EsbfJLk&t=2445s Ask Howie and Angela: Towards a Strong Green Party # 5 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUJ6b7gO83I&t=3236s Spotify Playlist I made for Nikeeta: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2y1IrDfGMTXwivUfSxycpe?si=285374fe8cbf4431

Taking a pause to recalibrate and process life without Nikeeta. The episode starts at 00:15:47. Thank you all so deeply for caring me through. Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Spotify, Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Love us out loud by doing The R’s: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:25:50 Lydia X.Z. Brown Community Contributors 00:36:08 New patrons: Kristina, Jasmine, and Sami and Eva upped Cashapp: M. Martinez Borders are fake shoutouts: Inman, SC / Oklahoma City, OK / Smolec, Poland Mental Moment with Money 00:41:08 Music for Melancholoy SZNS by Mother Nature Illustrations by Jai’Len Josey Black Pumas (self titled) For The Birds/Lost in America by Lo Village Part 1: The Entrance by Beautiful Chorus Word 01:02:45 https://www.theroot.com/the-acting-white-theory-doesn-t-add-up-1790895058 https://www.vox.com/identities/2017/1/5/14175116/acting-white-myth-black-kids-academics-school-achievement-gap-debunked Acting White Spoken Soul Topic 01:35:30 Changing careers Curved Chronicles 02:07:30 Is there any coming back after accidental ghosting? O_O

Money and Nikeeta are back with another packed episode. Money gives some suggestions on how to build vicarious resilience. Nikeeta reorients the conversation on Patrisse Cullors to a more helpful one on organizational democracy. We celebrate writer, educator, and banger-maker Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor as QueerWOC of the week and talk through our thoughts on being parents. And what is up with Black Queer cashiers??? Yall okay? Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: [email protected] QueerWOC of the Week 00:10:50 Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor http://www.keeangataylor.com/bio.html Community Contributors 00:24:24 New patrons: Iris came back! , Jay became a new patron, and Jordany upped their pledge Cashapp: M. Martinez Twitter Support: Dr. Sami TDOV: @VanityOnTheRoxx Borders are fake shoutouts: McDonough, GA / Valley, AL / Berwyn, IL Review from RainzzSC Mental Moment with Money 00:32:38 How to build Vicarious Resilience? YES! The same way we are able to mirror the negative impacts of Trauma, we are also able to mirror and experience resilience - the ability to adaptively respond to adversity Seeing other as equal/community as you rather than you as “savior” Recognize strength in others Develop your potential Witness other people’s joy Ask folks how they do it Get involved in social causes and social change Word 00:53:04 Patrisse Cullors owns houses… but what are the actual questions we should be exploring about the organizational structure of the largest liberation movement of our time? Topic 01:33:00 Could we see ourselves being parents? We sort of kind of both land on yes… for now. Curved Chronicles 01:56:07 Is there a Black Queer service worker crisis we dont know about O_O