111 - Five Things to Focus on When Your Child Leaves the LDS ChurchWhen your child leaves the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, it is easy to get caught up in the emotions of fear, worry, sadness, or even anger. None of these emotions will be helpful for you to build and nurture your relationship with your child. Listen to this episode to know where to put your focus instead. Listen to the podcast: Processing EmotionsUpcoming Breathing Workshop:If you are very reactive to the situations and people in your world, if you’re feeling a lot of stress, overwhelm, anxiety, fear, then this workshop will be very helpful for you. We’ll be working on how to have more control over your emotional responses to life, how to establish a breathing routine every day in just 10 minutes, how to manage stress and anxiety.One of the reasons we think the way that we do is because we aren’t managing our emotional responses to our lives, and then our brain is going crazy with those thought tornados, which then leads us to feel more stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and then that affects our thoughts, and the cycle continues. A few minutes of breathing every day can really help. There are very few body functions we can directly control in order to change how we are feeling. Changing the way we are breathing is one of those. It’s huge. Don’t miss out on this workshop!CLICK HERE TO REGISTER The Five Things to Focus on When Your Child Leaves the LDS Church:5. Be a safe place4. Move in closer3. Stay at the tree2. Focus on the good fruit1. Deal with yourself first  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#110 Focus on Planting Relationship Seeds the Give You Good FruitThis is the 4th episode in the series for parents who have a child that has left The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Every single day you are planting relationship seeds that you will some day harvest. You’re planting these relationship seeds with what you are thinking, feeling, and doing, even when you’re not aware of it. In this episode, I’ll show you how to tell the difference between a seed that will give you the fruit you want to have vs a seed that will give you a fruit you don’t want to have. It all starts with how you are making meaning of the circumstances in your life, especially what you are making it mean that your child has left the church. Take aways:1.       The story you tell yourself is optional, and you are the storyteller. Choose a story that brings you into alignment with the greatest commandments to love God, others, and yourself. “Others” includes your child who has left the church. Get help with this through coaching or therapy if you need to. Most people need to. 2.       This experience you are having is for YOUR benefit. Romans 8:28: “And we know that all things work together for good to them what love God…” Find out what that means for you. This might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, but there is a reason you are having this experience, and it is your gift to find out what that is. Again, seek out help if you need to through coaching or therapy.Challenge:Keep a gratitude journal for the next 7 days. Each day, write down 3 things you are grateful for and don’t repeat anything during the 7 days. You get 1 freebie each day to write down something you are grateful for right now. The other 2 things you write need to come from the circumstance of your child leaving the church. Find the blessing, the gratitude, or the lesson you're learning from this circumstance. Even in our most difficult circumstances, there are gifts and things to be grateful for. This will stretch you mind and your heart, but by the end of the 7 days, your perspective will shift.  Upcoming Breathing Workshop:October 24, 25, 26 - 2:30-3:00pm MDT(replay available)If you are very reactive to the situations and people in your world, if you’re feeling a lot of stress, overwhelm, anxiety, fear, then this workshop will be very helpful for you. We’ll be working on how to have more control over your emotional responses to life, how to establish a breathing routine every day in just 10 minutes that will help you to manage stress and anxiety.One of the reasons we think the way that we do is because we aren’t managing our emotional responses to our lives, and then our brain is going crazy with those thought tornados, which then leads us to feel more stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and then that affects our thoughts, and the cycle continues. A few minutes of intentional, structured breathing every day can really help. There are very few body functions we can directly control in order to change how we are feeling. Changing the way we are breathing is one of those. It’s huge. Don’t miss out on this workshop!CLICK HERE TO REGISTER  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 109 - Fear of Your Child Leaving the LDS ChurchWhen you see your child leaving the church, feeling fear is normal, but not helpful. This is the third in a series of what happens for parents when their child leaves the church. When you are afraid, you are not responding and acting with your higher thinking brain, you are reacting from your lower instincts to prioritize safety and security. The problem with this is that prioritizing safety and security is often going against the relationship, not for it. Listen to this episode to see if this is happening to you and what you can do about it. Take away #1You will never react rationally when you are afraid. Calm yourself down to be able to access your rational brain.Take away #2The anxiety you are experiencing right now will not change the future. The only thing you have is what you do right now at this moment. Mindfulness is important, and mindfulness can be described as having awareness without judgment – for yourself and for your child.Your Weekly ChallengeOnce each day, practice slowing your breath down. Use your nose and inhale for 4 seconds, then exhale for 4 seconds. Do this 10 times. This helps you to calm your body and bring your awareness into the present. It might feel strange or difficult at first, because this is much slower than you usually breathe. The more you practice, the better you will get. If you consistently practice this type of breathing over time, you will feel much more in control of your own responses to the circumstances of your life. Download Brene Brown’s Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto: CLICK HERE Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#108 The Wholehearted Parenting Manifest by Brene BrownAre you as big of a Brene Brown fan as I am? When I found this manifesto on her website, I knew I needed to share it with my audience. As I begin this series into helping parents who have a child that has left the LDS church, please keep this manifesto in mind. As we work on differentiating ourselves from our children, spouse, and others, we need to keep in mind that living a wholehearted life is equal parts head work and heart work. When you don’t know what to do or what to focus on, look at this manifesto to remind you this is just as much about you showing up and living in a wholehearted way as it is anything else. Download the free Wholehearted parenting Manifesto written by Brene Brown. Great to print off so you can have a visual reminder of what living a wholehearted life looks like from the parenting perspective. Download the Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene BrownLink to Ted TalkLink to The Gifts of Imperfection Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#107 - Differentiating Yourself from Your Adult Child When They Leave the LDS Church, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-FifeThis is the first in a series of episodes for parents who have adult children leaving The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#106 Why It's Important to Work on Your Relationship with Yourself FirstYou want your relationships to be different. If that other person would just be different, everything would be so much easier. You don’t have any control over that other person, so this leaves you stuck. When you work on yourself – how you are seeing and reacting to the world around you, that is where you can affect some change, but also start to feel better. Take aways:1.       When you work on you first, everything begins to shift because you start seeing yourself, others, and the world differently. You don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as you are. 2.       When you work on you first, that is where your power and agency lie. This is moral agency in action. You don’t need anyone else to change for you to be an agent in your own life. Challenge:Join the Hopeless 2 Hope-full program, beginning September 17. We will begin the work on you – integrating your thinking mind, your emotional heart, and your reactive nervous system. When you focus on all three of these important pieces of you, you will begin seeing huge shifts in how you think, feel, and do. CLICK HERE FOR MORE DETAILS Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#105 - A Good Question Leads to a Quality AnswerMost of the questions you ask yourself are probably judgements of yourself or others. At the least, they are low-quality questions. We should have a required class in high school that teaches us to ask ourselves better questions, because the better your questions are, the more quality answers you will get. If you are wanting better results in your family relationships, listen to this episode for the key ingredients to a quality question. Take away #1: The quality of your questions determines the quality of your lifeTake away #2: The better-quality question, the better-quality answer. Better answers = better resultsChallenge: Come to the masterclass on September 6 “How to Positively Influence the People You Love” and bring a quality question to that class. See what answers your brain comes up with during the masterclass. If you don’t find answers, there will be live coaching or live Q&A and you can get some help finding answers to your question. Here’s the link to sign up: CLICK HEREWant to apply to be a part of the Hopeless 2 Hope-full program beginning in September? This group program is for you if you are feeling hopeless in one of your family relationships and you don’t know what to do next. I’ll help you find healing, hope, and confidence in that relationship. CLICK HERE to submit an application to join.   Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 104 - How to Help Your Single Young Adult Child, an Interview with Julie BalkmanYoung adults are staying single longer than they did just a decade or two ago. Most people I coach have at least one child who they thought would be married by now. I’ve noticed most parents don’t know what to do to help their child move on into full-fledge adulthood and progress in their life. Julie Balkman is a certified life coach who specializes in helping young adults (single and married) with self discovery, life-planning & decision making, relationships with self, others, and God. She is known for helping people get out of the dating game and into a real relationship that lasts.  She talks in this episode about what parents can do, and can stop doing, that will help their single young adult child. To contact Julie:IG: lifecoach.julieWebsite: juliebalkmancoaching.com Sign up for the next masterclass: How to Positively Influence the People You LoveWednesday, August 30, 2:00 Mountain TimeYou’ll learn:1.       How to get someone to really listen to you.2.       Why you can’t think of what you want to say when you’re in the moment, but you can think of everything you want to say 2 hours later.3.       How to begin creating a relationship with psychological safety4.       The one place you can begin that will have the greatest impact on your ability to influence others.CLICK HERE to register Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#103 Stinkin Thinkin and MetacognitionYou have the ability to think about your own thinking. And you should! Because the way you are thinking affects your relationships with others, with yourself, and with the world around you. This summer I became a certified positivity practitioner with Dr. Paul Jenkins, and one of the things he talks about is stinkin thinkin and how those stinkin thoughts are creating problems for us in our lives and relationships. You do have the ability to affect your own thinking, and in this episode, I’ll give you one very effective tool to help you with your own stinkin thinkin. Take Aways:1.       Change your focus and tell yourself a different story.  2.       Be very careful about what you allow your brain to focus on. Choose to focus on thoughts that create good fruits and results in your life. Challenge:Choose one thought in your brain and challenge it for a day. Look on purpose for evidence that something else could be true and see how your brain begins to see things you didn’t see before. Join me for a special Masterclass: How to Positively Influence the People You LoveI’ll teach you the 5 things you need to know if you feel like you’ve lost all ability to influence family members to make positive changes in their lives. Find out where your power is in the relationship. CLICK HERE to register for the masterclass.If you know you’re ready (or at least want to find out more information) about how to change your stinkin thinkin and create more hope in your life and bring more hope to those around you, I invite you to join me for the Hopeless 2 Hope-full group program beginning the week of September 17, 2023. If you’re feeling afraid, hopeless, and telling yourself you’ve failed, this program is for you. I’ll teach you what you need to know to start feeling hope-full again. I’ll show you where you can affect change and you can have a positive impact on your family, no matter what is happening. CLICK HERE to apply for the Hopeless 2 Hope-full program.  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

#102 – Take Radical Responsibility for Your RelationshipsIf you’re like most people, when you’re struggling in a relationship, you fall into either blaming another person for how they are making you feel, or you’re trying to get them to be different so you can feel better. Maybe you’re doing both!What if you didn’t have to do either, and instead of focusing on the other person, you’re focusing on yourself and your own responsibility for the thoughts you’re having and the emotions you’re experiencing. This is a radical idea! But this is also where you get your freedom. You are here to be an agent in your own life, not a victim of your circumstances. You have the ability to choose to be reactive by default, or to respond intentionally. Once you take radical responsibility for yourself, you’ll see your relationships begin to change without doing anything else. I’m Tina Gosney and I’m your podcast host. I’m also a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and I’m coach that focuses on building stronger and healthier relationships within our families no matter what is happening. Those strong, healthy relationships begin with you – so let’s start there. Apply to be considered for the Beta Test: Positively ImpactfulClick Here to ApplyTo learn more about my work, visit my website tinagosney.com Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and helps with families who are experiencing relationship challenges because of LGBTQ, faith challenges, and other issues facing LDS families today. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information