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Alison Wood Brooks: The Science Behind Great Conversations

1 hour 42 minutes Posted Aug 24, 2026 at 7:00 am.

Introduction

Shifting Focus from Yourself In Conversation

Lowering Your Anxiety with Topic Prep

Is It Better to Be Interesting or Interested?

The Butterfly Net Metaphor

Low-Stakes Practice To Build High-Stakes Confidence

Debunking Traditional Rules of Persuasion

Building Conversational Safety Through Validation

Agenda-Free Relationships vs. Manipulative Networking

The Power of Follow-Up Questions

Embracing the Natural Messiness of Dialogue

Unrealistic Standards Set by Media and Podcasts

Alison's Top Three Small Talk Techniques

Balancing Leading vs. Following in Conversation

Does Your Mind Wander During Conversation?

The Power of Callbacks

The Attention Crisis and Screen Disruption

Strategies for Staying Present

Reciprocity and the Good-to-Great Question Shift

Intimate Openers and Stealth Topic-Switching

How to Respond to One Word Answers

Game 1: Spontaneous Depth and Sincerity

Game 2: Breaking Through Reserve

Talk Time Game: Battle of the Nice Guys

The Compliment Landmines to Avoid

This Is Damaging Your Potential Connections

The Best Way to Receive a Compliment

Talk Time Game: Admitting Uncertainty

Feel More Confident During Conversations

Dating Conversations and the First-Date Pause

Reviving a Dying Date Conversation

Deconstructing the "36 Questions to Fall in Love"

Defusing Heated Disagreements

Preparing for Difficult Conversations

When Distance Is Better Than Talking

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Jay sits down with Harvard Business School professor Alison Wood Brooks, author of Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves, to explore what makes great conversations actually work and where most of us get it wrong. Together, they unpack how to choose better topics, embrace the messiness of real dialogue, master the three stages of listening, and give compliments that genuinely connect. Alison also reveals why admitting uncertainty builds more trust than having all the answers, and shares practical conversation games you can start using right away.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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Website | https://www.talkstudios.com/

LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/alison-wood-brooks-7b98b826

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/profalisonbrooks/?hl=en

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