On Purpose with Jay Shetty
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Perfect Strangers
Jay Shetty hosts some of culture’s most influential voices in wellness and personal growth, helping you feel healthier, happier and more healed.
EZRA FRECH: "I Was Put on This Earth to Change the Way We See Disability"
Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation. Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist" 02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born 06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3 11:15 The Kindergarten Letter 13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares 16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying 23:18 Falling In Love With Sports 27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028 31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol 33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic 36:53 How Do You Define Confidence? 40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream 44:35 Making Team USA At 14 48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work 52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena" 58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning 01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg 01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule 01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure 01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars 01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family 01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade 01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege 01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream 01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5 Episode Resources Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 19
1 hr 46 min
How to Stop Feeling Guilty And Let Go Of Past Mistakes
Jay explores how to stop replaying past mistakes, let go of guilt, and move forward when an apology isn't enough. Drawing on research, he shares four ways to work through regret: understanding the difference between guilt and shame, making a meaningful apology, accepting that forgiveness is out of your control, and learning to move forward even when regret hasn't completely faded. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 The Guilt Spiral 02:10 Accountability Vs. Beating Yourself Up 03:00 Guilt Vs. Shame 05:30 Facts Vs. Mental Stories 09:15 Creating Distance from Negative Self-Talk 10:42 The Power Of Self-Compassion 13:03 Anatomy Of An Effective Apology 15:35 Turning Regret Into Positive Change 18:54 Accepting Someone's Response 21:45 Learning to Move Forward With Regret 22:51 Bringing Your Focus Back to the Present 24:56 Suffering Doesn’t Equal Remorse Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 16
32 min
4 Ways to Make Dating Feel Exciting Again
Jay explores why first dates have started to feel more like performance reviews than opportunities for connection. He shares four ways to make dating feel fun and exciting again, from leading with curiosity and embracing new experiences to finding something valuable in every date and bringing a little romance back into your love life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 Dating Burnout And Fatigue 01:50 Wanting Connection But Dreading Dating 02:35 First Dates As Performance Reviews 04:19 Curiosity Over Optimization 06:00 Evaluating People Vs. Experiencing Them 11:03 Make The Date An Adventure 13:14 New Environments Create Natural Connection 14:47 Building Dates Around Your Life 16:20 Every Date As a Lesson 17:30 Self-Discovery Through Dating 19:25 Emotional Growth Through Lived Experience 23:00 Romanticize Your Love Life Again 28:00 Embracing The Beginning Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 14
32 min
COLLIN GOSSELIN: The Real Story Behind One of America’s Most-Watched Families
Collin Gosselin opens up about what it was really like growing up in the spotlight of Jon & Kate Plus 8, sharing his personal account of life behind the camera. He recounts his experiences with family isolation, allegations of physical abuse, time spent in a basement room, and his twenty-month stay in an institution he says he never needed to be in. Collin also details how a smuggled note led to a reunion with his father, how he is working to rebuild his life today, and why he is finally choosing to speak publicly about his past. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Welcome To On Purpose And Disclaimer 01:43 Inside the Gosselin Household 03:50 Faking Reality On Camera 05:15 The Normalization Of Constant Filming 06:35 The Turning Point 09:06 Modern Child Exploitation 12:35 Pushing Back And Early On-Camera Resistance 17:02 Earliest Memories Of In-Home Abuse 20:37 Targeted Isolation And Homeschooling 25:21 Child Protective System Flaws 35:11 Advocacy In The Face Of Public Backlash 36:55 The Attempted Runaway 44:03 Institutionalization At Age 11 48:16 Twenty Months In Inpatient Confinement 53:53 The Official Admission Records 59:12 The Harsh Reality of Living in Isolation 01:04:45 The Smuggled Letter And Custody Battle 01:08:37 Reconnecting And Healing 01:11:26 Repairing The Father-Son Relationship 01:14:00 Turning Pain into Purpose 01:17:14 False Diagnoses & His Dream of Joining The Marines 01:24:41 Legal Defamation Threats 01:26:16 Where Does He Stand With His Siblings? 01:30:20 Who is Collin Today? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 12
1 hr 36 min
5 Signs Someone Is Draining Your Energy (And What to Do About It)
Jay explores how draining relationships can quietly take a toll on our bodies, minds, and emotional well-being, leaving us depleted before a conversation even begins and carrying its weight long after it ends. He breaks down five signs of chronic relational stress, from managing other people’s emotions and falling into the fixer role to shrinking yourself and replaying interactions in your head. Jay also shares practical tools for setting healthier boundaries, letting go of emotional responsibility that isn’t yours, and protecting your energy without cutting people off or losing compassion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 Physical Signs Of A Draining Relationship 01:45 How Difficult Relationships May Affect Biological Aging 03:35 Energy Vampires Vs. Normal Relationships 05:20 The Mental Burden Of Walking On Eggshells 07:40 Understanding Ambivalent Relationships 09:42 The Burden of Managing Others’ Emotions 09:33 Feeling Valued Vs. Feeling Responsible For Others 13:09 When Every Interaction Drains You 14:10 The Trap Of Always Being The Fixer 17:07 Making Yourself Smaller Around Others 18:50 Adjusting Your Expectations In Relationships 20:38 Turning Envy Into Curiosity And Generosity 21:49 Replaying Conversations In Your Head 24:08 How to Reset After A Difficult Interaction 28:52 Navigating Imbalance In Relationships 29:26 What Healthy Boundaries Actually Look Like Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 9
34 min
Sabrina Zohar: How to Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Want You
Jay sits down with dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar to unpack why we chase the familiar over the safe, how childhood attachment shapes adult dating patterns, and the real difference between boundaries and walls. Together they dig into anxious-avoidant dynamics, chemistry versus compatibility, why we fall for people's potential instead of their reality, and practical tools for healing and showing up differently in love. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:45 Sabrina's Turning Point: "Why Am I Like This?" 03:13 Familiarity Vs. Safety 05:19 How Childhood Attachment Shapes Us 08:45 Nervous System Triggers & Protest Behavior 11:01 Building Confidence & Setting Incremental Boundaries 13:47 Boundaries Vs. Walls 15:42 Guilt, Control, And People-Pleasing 19:14 Is There Such A Thing As "The One?" 21:14 Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics 25:50 Short-Term Discomfort Vs. Long-Term Unhappiness 29:47 The Fallacy of "Right Person, Wrong Time" 34:16 The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic 39:02 Attachment Style Myths 41:56 Seeking Connection Vs. Testing For Validation 45:53 Peaceful Love Vs. "Trauma Tingles" 48:36 Green Flags & Early Dating Distractions 52:49 Stop Taking Things Personally 57:14 Pacing Emotional Intimacy 58:58 Why We Pursue Unavailable People 01:01:44 Overcoming Situationships 01:05:00 The Lonely Side of Healing 01:08:01 Finding Closure Within Yourself 01:10:45 Weaponizing "Therapy Speak" To Avoid Accountability 01:12:47 Overcoming Singlehood Scarcity 01:16:51 Falling For Potential Vs. Accepting Reality 01:18:41 Sabrina On Final Five Episode Resources: Read Sabrina’s book | https://sabrinazohar.com/book Website | https://sabrinazohar.com YouTube | https://youtube.com/@sabrina_zohar?si=92IqIf9b6jaIAoj5 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar?stkn=MXRwNmN4Z3djMWh5Yg== TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar?_r=1&_t=ZP-9AJwxjLdOV4 Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063642420347&mibextid=wwXIfr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 7
1 hr 26 min
MIKAYLA NOGUEIRA EXCLUSIVE: The Story She’s Finally Ready to Tell
Jay sits down with beauty creator Mikayla Nogueira to go beyond the online persona and share the real story behind her rise. Mikayla opens up about the struggles that shaped her before finding success, the viral moment that changed her life overnight, and the painful reality of a marriage impacted by addiction and divorce. She also shares how she found her way forward, reconnected with her high school first love, and launched her own beauty brand with Sephora. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:45 Why Share Your Story Now? 01:31 Beyond The Influencer Persona 02:46 Childhood Memories That Shaped Her 03:45 Bullying & Discovering Makeup At Age 10 05:24 The Insecurities Behind the Confidence 06:48 Expressing Her True Self Online 08:55 The Origin Of Her Passion For Makeup 11:18 Work Ethic And Thinking Big 12:37 Creating Her Very First YouTube Video 13:58 Presenting A 50-Page Business Plan 16:30 Returning To Her Hometown & Donating Makeup 18:00 Getting Hired At Ulta Beauty 23:52 Letting Go of the Future She Planned 28:10 Losing Her Job and Finding a New Path 31:34 The First Viral Video 37:08 Manifesting Success & Building A Content Engine 41:53 Experiencing Her First Cancellation 45:25 Reflecting on Past Controversies 48:56 The Mental Health Toll of Rapid Growth 52:54 The Boston Accent 56:48 Meeting Her Ex-Husband Cody 59:41 Navigating Addiction In A Relationship 01:04:08 Dating An Influencer & Dating An Addict 01:05:56 Marriage Through Addiction and Relapse 01:13:00 A Harrowing Late-Night Emergency 01:18:11 Making the Decision to Divorce 01:33:53 The Path To Divorce 01:40:46 Finally A Fresh Start 01:46:45 Reconnecting With High School First Love, Zach 01:52:21 Building Her Beauty Brand (POV) 01:57:30 Looking Back 01:59:34 Mikayla On Final Five Episode Resources: Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/share/1C43BCLCFi/?mibextid=wwXIfr TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@mikaylanogueira Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/mikaylajmakeup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 5
2 hr 7 min
4 Things Confident People Tell Themselves Every Day
Jay shares four mantras for the moments we need them most, whether you’re struggling to find hope, learning to trust yourself, opening yourself up to new opportunities, or simply trying to feel more present. Through personal stories, from a decades-old journal entry written by his grandmother to the surprising origin of Post-it Notes, Jay explores how a few simple words, repeated daily, can shift the way you see yourself and the life ahead of you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Built-in protections for teens. Try AG1 Now at https://drinkag1.com/JAYSHETTY JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 What Does The Voice Inside Your Head Sound Like? 01:49 Shaping Your Inner Voice 03:30 What Is A Mantra? 04:10 His Grandmother's Journal Entry 06:24 How Hopelessness Can Shrink Your Future 09:25 This Is A Chapter, Not the Whole Story 10:50 The Butterfly In Its Cocoon 15:25 Trust Yourself With What Comes Next 16:30 The Post-it Note Origin Story 18:25 Recognizing Opportunities Are Already Around You 19:47 Notice What Is Trying To Find You 22:10 Making Room for the Unexpected 23:01 Carrying A Cup Of Water Through A Marketplace 24:29 Returning An Anxious Mind To The Present 26:10 Release The Past And The Future 27:46 Choosing One Mantra For Your Week 28:01 Learning to Trust Your Inner Voice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 2
32 min
Ask Jay: How Do You Take Care of Yourself Through Life’s Hardest Seasons?
Jay answers listeners' stories about what happens when health struggles make life feel completely out of your control. Through conversations about postpartum trauma, an unexpected brain tumor diagnosis, the emotional toll of caring for a parent with dementia, and the desire to help others while still healing yourself, Jay explores how to live with uncertainty when you can’t simply fix what you’re going through. He shares grounded, research-backed ways to find moments of relief, redefine what’s enough, and keep moving forward without waiting for everything to be resolved. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 When Your Health Is Out of Your Control 00:47 Navigating Ongoing Postpartum Trauma 01:29 The Insider's Burden 03:24 The Importance of Leaning on Your Support Systems 05:43 Finding Connection Through Shared Experience 07:40 Stepping Away From the Grind 08:49 Facing Mortality & Steve Jobs' Speech 10:05 Practical Strategies For Taking a Break 11:50 Alignment And Presence Over "Balance" 14:45 Living In Seasons Of Life 15:42 The Emotional Toll Of Caregiving 16:49 When Caregiving Forces Impossible Choices 18:53 Caregivers As "The Invisible Second Patients" 21:50 Transforming Active Grief Into Healing 22:56 Finding Strength When You Can’t Fix the Situation 24:48 Helping Others While Still In The Healing Journey 25:54 Three Steps Ahead Vs. Three Decades Ahead Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 30
30 min
SYLVESTER STALLONE: “I Wasn’t Stupid. I Was Just Misunderstood.”
Jay sits down with Sylvester Stallone to trace the extraordinary journey from a painful, unwanted childhood to the creation of Rocky, and the $360,000 offer he turned down rather than compromise his self-respect. Stallone reflects on the decades of rejection, health struggles, and career setbacks that shaped the man behind the legend. He opens up about his mother’s emotional distance, his father’s advice on his deathbed, and the life philosophy he discovered only after letting go of the need to constantly fight. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:09 The Steps 01:48 The Fortune Teller Who Predicted His Future 03:39 The Power of Writing Your Thoughts Down 05:10 The Regret of Not Meeting Elvis Presley 05:55 Overcoming His Fear of Public Speaking 08:30 Birth Complications & Childhood Hardships 10:00 Queens Boarding House 11:40 Cinema As Sanctuary 13:23 The Words That Left Internal Scars 14:54 Making Peace With Rejection & "Mirror Therapy" 19:15 Writing About Edgar Allan Poe & Creating Rocky 20:27 Using Cruel Labels As Motivation 24:25 The Hells Angels Story 27:59 Turning Down $360,000 To Sell Rocky 31:35 Imposter Syndrome & Stepping Into Rocky's Shoes 33:29 Channeling Real-Life Pain In Acting 38:00 Rocky As A Love Story 41:26 The Painful Relationship With His Mother 49:45 Parents' Final Days 53:47 Learning To Let Go of Anger 56:12 An 8-Year Career Slump & The Return Of Rocky 59:06 Health Battles, Borrowed Time & Aging Gracefully 01:02:20 What Makes A Good Friend? 01:03:25 The Key To 29 Years of Marriage 01:07:30 Life Before Vs. After 40 01:13:20 The Power Of Dreams & Concrete Vision 01:16:38 Finally Getting His Father's Apology 01:19:35 Sylvester Stallone On Final 5 Episode Resources: The Steps | https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-steps-sylvester-stallone Website | https://sylvesterstallone.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/officialslystallone Facebook  | https://www.facebook.com/share/1FMjtjkWJA/?mibextid=wwXIfr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 28
1 hr 28 min
Load more