Middle Fingers Up
Middle Fingers Up
Kiran McKay
Welcome to Middle Fingers Up, the show where we keep our heads high and our middle fingers higher. We explore relationships, mental health and everything in between. Join me, Kiran McKay on the journey to learn, grow and find our voice.
EP.71 - Angela Hick - "The Blind Spots Are Blind Until You Shed Light On Them"
In this episode, we explore blind spots that often go unnoticed in both life and work, uncovering the nuances of cultural understanding in therapy. Our guest, an experienced therapist, shares insights on the importance of recognizing these blind spots and the utility of having an outside perspective.But the conversation doesn't stop there. We explore the critical aspect of choosing the right therapist, especially for communities of color. Are white therapists equipped with the cultural understanding necessary to effectively support BIPOC individuals? Our guest flips the script, interviewing the host, and delving into the nuances of this crucial topic.With thought-provoking quotes like "What could I have done differently?" and "Therapy is all about asking great questions," we navigate the complexities of cultural competence in therapy and how blind spots can impact the therapeutic relationship. As one quote aptly puts it, "The blind spots are blind until you shed light on them."Join us as we uncover the importance of cultural understanding in therapy and how acknowledging blind spots can lead to more meaningful and impactful therapeutic experiences for all.Website:Walnutgrovecounselling.caPsychologytoday.comIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Apr 2, 2024
1 hr 17 min
EP.70 - Chris Strikes - "Find Interesting Ways To Tell Interesting Stories"
Step into the vibrant world of Chris Strikes, a BIPOC filmmaker whose journey from music videos to directing feature-length documentaries is as captivating as his hair transformations. In this episode, we dive into Strikes' upbringing, his music video background, and his personal hair journey, all of which have shaped his unique directorial style.From his early days on set with artists like Kardinal Official to his documentary "Becoming a Queen," Strikes shares insights into his creative process and his passion for telling Caribbean stories.  With candid quotes like "And I'm pretty good in the kitchen" and "For me, it was all about how the style looked," Strikes invites listeners into his world where every detail, from hairstyles to storytelling, holds significance.We explore Strikes' involvement with Crosscurrent funding programs and Netflix's Banff Diverse Voices initiative, showcasing his commitment to amplifying marginalized voices in the film industry. Through anecdotes and advice like "Just get out there and shoot" and "Don't be afraid to offer yourself to volunteer," Strikes inspires aspiring filmmakers to find their own unique paths and create meaningful stories.Join us as we celebrate Chris Strikes' creative journey and the powerful impact of representation in filmmaking. Listen now to discover how Strikes is changing the narrative, one captivating story at a time.Don't miss the accompanying article for more insights into Chris Strikes' groundbreaking work and his influence on the film industry. Plus, explore some of his video collaborations and recommended films at Callowgroveent.com/films. Socials and Links:www.cbc.ca/author/chris-strikes-1.7129924Instagram: chrisstrikesFilms:  @becomingaqueenthedoc @callowgroveentlinktr.ee/chrisstrikesIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Mar 26, 2024
57 min
EP.69 - Jia Rizvi - "Whatever Your Strengths Are, Use Those"
We're thrilled to introduce you to Jia Rizvi, a multifaceted force! Jia, a South Asian award-winning filmmaker, Forbes writer, and advocate for the wrongly incarcerated, has embarked on an inspiring journey from the world of fashion to advocacy through film.Known for her acclaimed work, including the award-winning documentary 'Conviction,' Jia has found her voice as an advocate, shining a light on the injustices of the American Criminal Justice system.In this episode, Jia shares insights and experiences, getting into the complexities of navigating life's uncertainties, particularly in the face of wrongful convictions and systemic injustices. Her passion for advocacy is evident as she discusses her investigation of the American Criminal Justice system, weaving together the stories of exonerees like Jeffrey Deskovic.But Jia's impact extends beyond the courtroom. As a featured writer for Forbes and co-host of the Speaking of Crime podcast, she amplifies important narratives and sparks conversations on justice reform. Additionally, her creative flair as the founder and fashion designer of Studio 15 showcases her versatility and determination to make a difference.Join us as we explore Jia's journey, from channeling frustration into action to uncovering the meaning of peace of mind amidst adversity. Tune in to uncover her insights on wrongful convictions, the empowerment of South Asians in the arts, and the importance of leveraging strengths to effect change.jiadocswww.jiarizvi.com🎙Podcast @SpeakingofCrimeIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Mar 19, 2024
42 min
EP.68 - "J" - "We All Have Different Finger Prints"
I want to take a moment to acknowledge something important. In today's episode, we had a guest who chose to remain anonymous when sharing their story. This decision highlights the very real stigma that still surrounds conversations about mental health. It's a reminder of the barriers many face when opening up about their struggles, and the courage it takes to speak out, even anonymously. We're grateful for their willingness to share their experiences and hope that their story resonates with those who may be listening in silence. Let's continue to challenge the stigma together, one conversation at a time.Today, we’re joined by "J", whose experiences of identity, isolation and resilience are both unique and universally relatable.“I went three months without a hug from a human being,” J shares, a reminder of our deep-seated need for connection in our lives. Her journey is a testament to the power of self-compassion and the courage it takes to honor one’s feelings in the face of adversity.J’s story is a mosaic of moments that reflect a larger narrative shared by many. From the Northern Alberta life isolation to the pressures of work stress and the complexities of being a child of immigrants, her experiences resonate with a raw honesty. “The loss of self-identity is what really started my mental health issues,” she reveals, highlighting a struggle that is often silent but ever-present In a world that often reduces us to bullet points on a resume, J reminds us that we are so much more. “It’s almost like we are a resume and that’s all we are, but we’re not; we are so much more than that,” she asserts.J’s reflections are interspersed with moments of levity and wisdom. “Check yourself before you wreck yourself,” she quips, bringing a smile to our faces. But it’s her insight into family dynamics and societal expectations that offer a beacon of hope. “People tend to forget that moms actually know everything,” she says with a laugh, acknowledging the strength and support found in maternal bondsAs we wrap up our conversation we’re left with a sense of realistic positive encouragement. Her parting words, “Learn to love yourself, because nobody is going to be with you 24/7,” serve as a powerful reminder of the importance of self-care and inner strengthIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Mar 12, 2024
1 hr 13 min
EP.67 - Dr Shafeena Premji - "We Just Need Somebody To Write Out A Midlife Care Plan"
Joining us in this empowering episode about women's health in midlife is Dr. Shafeena Premji, a passionate advocate for women's health and a leading voice in the field. Together, we explore perimenopause and menopause, shedding light on the often-overlooked but crucial phase of women's health in midlife. Dr. Premji highlights the pressing need for a makeover in how we perceive and prioritize women's health needs during this dynamic stage of life.From challenging societal norms to reclaiming self-care as a priority, Dr. Premji shares insights and strategies for women to embrace this significant stage of life with confidence and vitality. We uncover the importance of validation for women who often feel forgotten in their 40s and beyond.Drawing from her extensive experience and affiliations, including the Board of the Canadian Menopause Society and the Medical Advisory Board for the Menopause Foundation of Canada, Dr. Premji emphasizes the significance of ensuring your healthcare provider is North American Menopause Certified, pointing listeners to reputable resources such as Menopause.org.Tune in to discover how partners can support women on this journey, especially during midlife when relationships may face unique challenges. Dr. Premji shares valuable insights into the significant impact attending appointments can have on relationships, highlighting the importance of partners being involved in women's healthcare. Don't miss out on this insightful conversation that celebrates women's health and advocates for the validation and care they deserve.SocialsInstagram: drshafeenapremjilinktr.ee/drshafeenapremjiResources:Menopause.orgMq6.caIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Mar 5, 2024
35 min
EP.66 - Meena Natt - "Birth Is Not A Medical Event"
In this episode we welcome back our loved guest Meena Natt. Today we explore the multifaceted journey of birth choices and postpartum support with a focus on empowering expectant parents. Join us as we uncover the complexities of decision-making during pregnancy.We get into the concept of "failure to progress" and its implications, shedding light on the  power of continuous support throughout the birthing process. As Meena shares, "I have seen what the power of support can do", highlighting the impact of a nurturing environment on birthing experiences.Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of a continuous support system, recognizing it as the key to fostering a positive birthing environment. From practical advice like organizing a meal train to insightful discussions on partner support, we aim to equip listeners with the tools they need for a smooth transition into parenthood.We address common misconceptions surrounding pregnancy, such as the pressure to adhere to strict due dates, and advocate for a more open dialogue about asking for and offering help. "Don't tell anyone your due date," Meena advises, highlighting the importance of relinquishing control and embracing the unpredictability of birth.Join us as we navigate the intricacies of pregnancy, birth choices, and postpartum support, with a commitment to normalizing the act of seeking assistance and fostering a culture of empowerment for expectant and new parents alike.Socials:Instagram: meenasdoulaservicesmeenasdoulaservices.comResources:The Fourth Trimester: https://a.co/d/8CiuvdDwww.cochranelibrary.com/If you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Feb 27, 2024
1 hr 41 min
EP.65 - Kajal  - "This Isn’t Something You Can Go And Tell Your Grandma"
Today's episode contains a stark reality: many BIPOC individuals like our guest, grapple with the fear of speaking out against racism. Join us as we get into the challenging choice between silence and the potential consequences of raising their voice We engage in a difficult yet essential conversation about racism with Kajal, a female Punjabi pilot. Through Kajal's raw and candid accounts, we explore the nuances of racism in professional and personal settings and explore practical tools on how to be an effective ally. Through story Kajal shares her experiences of facing discrimination and bullying in day to day life and the workplace, highlighting the importance of validation and listening. As she aptly illistrates, "We can say pterodactyl, but we can’t say Kajal?" Her words shed light on the subtle yet pervasive forms of racism that individuals like her encounter daily. Throughout the episode, Kajal offers insights on how to respond to racism, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and acknowledgment of emotions. She challenges listeners to consider their role in fostering inclusivity and standing up against discrimination. Reflecting on her journey, Kajal shares, "It wasn’t just the racism; it was the bullying when nobody was listening." Her words resonate with anyone who has felt marginalized or silenced in their lives. As the conversation unfolds, we confront the complexities of being an ally and the importance of learning how to support marginalized colleagues. Kajal reminds us that being an ally is an ongoing process—one that requires commitment and self-awareness. Kajal leaves us with a powerful message: "This isn’t something you can go and tell your grandma." Her words challenge us to confront uncomfortable truths and rethink our approaches to inclusivity. Join us for a thought-provoking dialogue on navigating racism, and discover practical tools for creating a more inclusive and equitable environment for all. Tune in to learn from Kajal's experiences and be inspired to be a catalyst for change in your community and in the workplace.If you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Feb 20, 2024
2 hr 4 min
EP.64 - Ishita Singla - "I'd Rather Be A Pioneer, Than Following What Everyone Else Is Doing"
Today we are privileged to have a conversation with Ishita Singla, the founder behind Calgary's renowned arts collective, Madhuban Performing Arts, and also the senior communications officer at CBC. Ishita champions the creation of safe environments where individuals can freely express their authentic selves.Join us as Ishita shares her journey of nurturing inclusivity and honoring diversity, both within the dance and music communities and in the realm of communication. We discuss the delicate balance of fostering individuality within group dynamics and the impact of movement on self-expression and personal discovery.This episode invites listeners to embrace the richness of diversity and discover strength in embracing one's true identity amidst life's rhythms. Whether you're an enthusiast of dance and music or curious about the intersection of art and communication, Ishita's wisdom and passion are sure to inspire and uplift. Tune in for an exploration of celebrating diversity and inclusivity in all its facets.Socials and Sites:@ishitasingla@madhubanperformingartsmadhubanperformingarts.comFeatured in Kufiya on NetflixIf you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Feb 13, 2024
1 hr 21 min
EP.63 - David Brunning - "Be Present, Be Yourself, Be Honest  "
In this episode, we explore the world of growth and graffiti abstraction with our guest David Brunning.  David is a Canadian contemporary artist whose journey began in the rebellious days of running from authority wielding spray cans.  From racking paint to cultivating imagination, we peel back the layers of David’s artistic evolution, learning not only about him as an artist but, more importantly, as a human.David shares his three pillars of relearning and living: being present, being yourself, and being honest. In an exploration of ‘showing up,’ David explores the courage required for constant evolution and growth, the delicate balance between creativity and academic norms, and the impact of fear on personal and artistic progression.With David’s vulnerability, we address the notion of the light dimming within ourselves to reveal real issues and discuss the importance of dialing down the noise to rediscover one's true self. Our conversation touches on the challenges and growth inherent in being both an artist and a person.Throughout the episode, David’s insights, such as the courage and vulnerability needed to show up authentically, the value of owning one's story, and the power of active connection versus mere connection, reveal a role model of vulnerability and the liberating feeling of letting go.Here's a thought to ponder: How would you answer if asked, "Have you truly gotten to know yourself?" It's a challenge to reflect on the depth of our self-awareness. Join us in this exploration, where we encourage you to peel back the surface and discover the realms of genuine, authentic connections. Join us as we navigate the abstract landscapes of graffiti, relearn the art of being, and embrace the courage to be present, be yourself, and be honest. As David so eloquently puts it, "Don't lose your imagination," for it is in imagination that we find the key to staying young and unlocking the depths of our creativity.Socials and Site:@[email protected] you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Feb 6, 2024
1 hr 40 min
EP.62 - Mike Seibel - "I'm Standing On The Shoulders Of A Lot Of My Community Who Came Before Me."
In this episode, we learn about  the captivating world of drag through the personal journey of our guest, exploring the intricacies of self-discovery, family bonds, and the significance of allyship. Join us as we uncover the story of how our guest found his way into the vibrant realm of drag and share their thoughts on this unique form of self-expression.Our guest takes us back to the roots of their drag journey, recounting the moments that led to their introduction to the world of glitter, wigs, and high heels. From the early days of experimentation to the realization of the transformative power of drag, we learn about the evolution of their drag persona and the birth of the name Gerta Hell.Exploring the theme of family within the drag community, our guest opens up about their drag aunts and the profound sense of kinship that arises within this chosen family. We discuss the importance of understanding and acknowledging each other's journeys, creating a supportive environment for self-discovery and expression.Shifting the focus to allyship, we explore the distinctions between passive allies and active allies within the drag community. Our guest reflects on the role of allies in fostering an inclusive and accepting space for everyone, regardless of their gender identity or expression.As we wrap up this episode, we've gained a deeper understanding of the multifaceted world of drag. Our guest's journey reflects not only the personal growth and empowerment found in drag but also the importance of building supportive communities and being active allies in the pursuit of inclusivity.If you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to [email protected]. Thank you for listening!In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Jan 30, 2024
1 hr 23 min
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