It's that time of year where we indulge a little more into our fears but generally we only look to spook ourselves with surface level shivers. We want to talk to you about the fears that keep you up at night, the ones that have you dreading your future or forever replaying your past. Join us as we unravel a little bit more about what fear looks like, how you can defeat it, why you need to defeat it, and what we're hiding from ourselves.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes References: The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron Courage is Calling by Ryan Holiday Killing Weakness by Ryan Perez Meditations by Marcus Aurelius The Rape of the Mind by Joost A.M. Meerloo If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

We all deal with a variety of relationships throughout out lives. The relationship we have with ourselves, our relationship with our own mortality, and all the relationships we have with other people around us. It's those relationships, the ones that circle us, that we discuss on this podcast episode.  We cover why debugging your relationships matters, why complaining may be doing harm, and what it looks like to take ownership of your own feelings and responses. Near the end Nathaniel and Chris talk about how they can show love to each other and why you should consider asking those in your life the same question. Our hope is that you take some of this dialogue and approach  your relationships with a curiosity to help nurture and grow them.   For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes: Triggers by Marshall Goldsmith The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life by Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

Talking about race is one of the most silenced topics in the USA. Growing up, when we're told what topics not to discuss with others we often hear about politics, money, and religion but race is so far removed as a topic of conversation that it isn't even mentioned as something to avoid.  It's because of the sensitivity and silence around this topic that it needs more attention, it requires more discussion, and it requires all of us to do our part to help facilitate and create safe spaces to learn more about other people.  So, in Episode 5 we've brought on a special guest (Christian) who is a Black man living in a white-dominated country. We'll go through our backgrounds, experiences, and ultimately what we can do better to build a better bridge for unity.  We had users from our community ask some questions and we covered a few but sadly we could not get to them in all the time frame. If you want to see the questions as well as some more detailed notes on this episode then check out our Obsidian Publish page below.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes: Racial Microaggressions Race Talk and The Conspiracy of Silence by Derald Wing Sue I'm Still Here by Austin Channing Brown So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

How much can you trust your memories? Are your memories more reliable than those around you? Imagine seeing a horrific event and moments later you and your loved ones cannot agree on what you just saw, your memories have already failed you and began to distort. That's what we'll be discussing in this episode of Mental Debugging. We'll chat briefly about how memories are formed, stored, and recalled and why that process leaves your memories open to distortions from others and yourself.  We also cover how you can work on improving your memory or hold onto the information you want to learn.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes: Invisible Gorilla by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons Make It Stick by Peter C. Brown If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

Imagine that you're driving to work and you get a flat tire. Normally you would be thrown into a loop of frustration but this time, instead of getting upset about the incident. you're thrilled to be in the sunshine, getting your hands dirty and feeling the motion of your body while you fix the tire.  Or imagine you get up one Saturday morning at the internet is down, you call the provider and it's a major outage that will take all day to fix. Usually, this would ruin your Saturday of relaxing but this time, you love it because you get to dive into that book you've been neglecting, spend more significant one-on-one time with your spouse, or journal more intimately than you otherwise would have been able to. That's what this week's episode is about, learning to love the things that happen to you regardless of whether we consider them good or bad. This is a more abstract philosophical conversation than our previous but we hope you find something useful in it that you can put into your life to add more value and meaning.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday The Tao of Seneca by Tim Ferriss Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

What is self-care to you? How important is your own self-care? Do you make it a priority and if not, should you?  That's what we discuss this episode as we walk through our own self-care routines, where we lack in our own prioritization, and how we can use our relationships with others to improve our own self-care habits. Self-care is a buzzword these days and it means something different to everyone but we hope to give you some topics to think about when it comes to caring for yourself and those you love.  We can all do better at caring for ourselves, so let's encourage others to improve and show up in the world as the best version of themselves.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Show Short Notes: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman  You can also take the Five Love Language quiz online - here. Atomic Habits by James Clear  Cotard Delusion, aka Walking Corpse Syndrome: This is a rare mental disorder in which the affected person holds the delusional belief that they are dead.  Quote for Consideration: "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to someone else today." - Jordan Peterson Other Books: Together by Vivek Murthy  The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman  The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron  If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS

Death is potentially one of the most fearsome topics that we encounter in our lifetimes but does it have to be? That's what we're going to discuss today, reviewing our thoughts on death and the fear of it. We work to uncover some insights on regrets, the apathy of living, and the carelessness we have given to the passing minutes of our daily lives.  Our goal isn't to make you tackle death head-on with the vigor of a samurai warrior but to give more thought and consideration to your own finite existence. When do you suppose you'll die? What remains undone? What variables are in your control? There is much to consider and we hope this episode gives you the courage to start that journey.  For more detailed notes on this and all other episodes, you can check out our Obsidian Publish page where we add our show outline, topics, sources, and more details around the discussions we had. Check it out here: https://bit.ly/3ApGgfr Short Show Notes: Designing The Mind by Ryan Bush Roughly referenced The Anthropocene Reviewed by John Green  "To do harm is to do yourself harm. To do an injustice is to do yourself an injustice - it degrades you." - Marcus Aurelius When referring to much of death already being behind us, and with each passing moment we give up that time to death - this came from Seneca, specifically the Tao of Seneca - Letter #1: On Saving Time. Keep Your Identity Small: A fantastic article by Paul Graham on managing your own identity. If you enjoy our show and want to join our tribe, then check out our Discord Community: https://discord.gg/AvFeTH7ZsS