What do you think people skills are?
I used to think that having people skills meant being a golden retriever: having a pleasant personality, being liked, and being friendly, lovely, and tolerant. And if someone throws a ball? You go get it. But as I wrote my book, Only 10s, I learned that people skills, while they are relational skills, aren’t about twisting yourself into a pretzel.
In this episode, I discuss how you can improve your people skills without becoming a people-pleaser. I describe peoples’ reactions when I set up boundaries for the first time. I explain why people-pleasing personalities find it difficult to say no to others. I also underscore the relationship between self-worth and the ability to set boundaries and enumerate the top three skills you need to become an effective leader of your organization and your own life.
“These people skills and the difficult conversations are what you need to have so you can pay attention to your own life.” - Mark Silverman
This week on Mastering Overwhelm:
- The difference between being a golden retriever and an organizational leader
- How to be a leader for your organization and yourself
- Setting boundaries and why it’s tough to say no
- Why it’s sometimes difficult to create accountability and strong agreements with people
- Creating other leaders in the organization
- Being honest about what you want and what you’re willing to do
- Why setting boundaries requires some self-worth and self-esteem
- The first time I set boundaries
Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success
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