It’s been four years since I began podcasting. I started with Mastering Midlife, which later became Mastering Overwhelm as my coaching practice evolved. You have all stayed with me for over 400 episodes, and after countless solo conversations and interviews with my brilliant guests, it is time to close the Mastering Overwhelm podcast. I have been going around the world, having a blast, and learning about living life. But all great things come to an end—so that other great things can begin. In this episode, I share what I hope you learned—what I hope I was able to impart—from the Mastering Midlife and Mastering Overwhelm podcasts. I also introduce The Rising Leader and describe how my Only 10s principle and career in coaching and sales are culminating in the next major project of my life. “I hope you noticed my humanity and how rich it is now that I’ve learned to accept my humanity, my spiritual self, and growth.” - Mark Silverman This week on Mastering Overwhelm: My fourth year as a podcaster Lessons I hope you’ve taken from Mastering Overwhelm Introducing The Rising Leader Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bryan Post is an entrepreneur, speaker, author, and founder of Post Institute, an organization dedicated to helping parents heal wounds created by trauma. Post Institute has published over 100 books, DVDs, CDs, audio recordings, webinars, and articles on parenting children who have experienced pre-birth and early life trauma. One of America’s leading child behavior and adoption experts, Bryan has taught and offered love-based, family-centered principles and concepts to over one million parents and professionals worldwide. He also currently serves as the Clinical Director for Parents in Training, a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that provides wraparound services to adoptive families throughout Northern California. Bryan joins me today to discuss trauma and stress and how we can manage our responses to them. He defines trauma and describes its dynamics in adopted children’s lives. He explains why the loss of someone close to us can cause a physiological disruption and why taking the time to grieve is important. He dissects how trauma causes us to become fearful and stress-sensitive. He also shares what we can learn as adults from soothing a child who’s having a tantrum at the supermarket and underscores how we can learn to work through fear-based anxiety and stress responses by practicing mindful breathing. “All emotional reactivity stems from unfinished business. The moment you find yourself being stressed out, it has far more to do with you than the other person in the situation.”  - Bryan Post This week on Mastering Overwhelm: Bryan’s background and his passion for helping adoptive families Adoption and why it can be a traumatic experience for a child Bryan’s definition of trauma and the basis of post-traumatic stress disorder Society’s aversion to grief and other negative emotions How practicing mindful breathing can help us manage fear-based anxiety and stress responses The allostatic load and window of tolerance Addiction as a trauma response The physiology of stress and trauma reactions How to help soothe a child having a tantrum in the supermarket Navigating emotional highs and lows Resources Mentioned: Book: The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life by Joseph Ledoux Book: Peaks and Valleys: Making Good and Bad Times Work for You - at Work and in Life by Spencer Johnson Book: Who Moved My Cheese?: An A-Mazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life by Spencer Johnson Connect with Bryan Post: Bryan Post Website Post Wraparound Post Institute Book: From Fear to Love: Parenting Difficult Adopted Children Using a Love-Based, Family-Centered Approach Post Institute on Facebook Post Institute on Twitter Bryan Post on LinkedIn Bryan Post on Instagram Bryan Post on Facebook Bryan Post on YouTube Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners, like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ken Bechtel is an author, speaker, and podcaster. He is the creator and host of Speaking of Partnership, a podcast with listeners in over 100 countries. In his recent book, Follow Your YES: A Simple Idea to Improve Anyone's Life, Ken shares ideas on building confidence and eliminating overwhelm across the full spectrum of life. He has invested over 20 years into researching and refining what it takes to make people thrive in this busy world and is dedicated to helping people expand into their fullest expression and live fulfilling lives. Ken joins me today to discuss “following your yes” and how doing so can impact your life. He distinguishes the “internal yes” from the “intellectual yes.” He discusses why a “no” uttered from the deepest convictions is better than a people-pleasing or conflict-avoidant “yes.” He explains how following “maybes” over an internal “yes” makes us overwhelmed and overburdened. Ken also reveals the key to transforming your life and underscores how staying true to your “yes” can become a gift to the people in your life. “The key to any transformation is not the first commitment that you’re going to transform, it’s re-committing when we fall off the track.” - Ken Bechtel This week on Mastering Overwhelm: Your “yes” as divine guidance The decision-making process and how to distinguish whether it’s an “internal yes” or an intellectual justification How feelings push us forward and guide us through life The discovery of Only 10s and how to declutter our minds of shiny objects The fear of missing out and how following your “yes” can become a gift to the people in your life “Maybeland” and the importance of letting yourself be a beginner Productivity, overwhelm and following your “yes” How Following Your YES encouraged me to write Rising Leader Resources Mentioned: Book: The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life's Perfection by Michael A. Singer Connect with Ken Bechtel: Follow Your YES Speaking of Partnership Speaking of Partnership on Facebook Speaking of Partnership on Twitter Ken Bechtel on LinkedIn Ken Bechtel on Instagram Email: [email protected] Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Simon Leslie is the founder and Chief Executive Officer of Ink, a global travel media company dedicated to connecting companies with travelers. Throughout the years, Simon and his team have worked to build the company to over $100 million—only for the COVID-19 pandemic to ravage its business and products. Nevertheless, Simon continues to rebuild Ink to be even larger and more profitable. In his book, Equanimity: The Diary of a CEO in Crisis, Simon shares all he’s learned from the pandemic. He is also the author of White Belt Thinking: The Hero’s Journey. A Story of Living with a Beginner’s Mind and There is no F in Sales: A Book About Selling in Every Market Condition. Simon joins me today to share his wisdom, equanimity, and poetry. He describes how the COVID-19 pandemic turned his life and business upside down and how he remained equanimous through it. He discusses the work he has done to become more centered, grounded, and open-hearted. He also underscores the importance of improving your imagination and dreams and highlights the power of gratitude. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” - Simon Leslie This week on Mastering Overwhelm: The many failures in Simon’s life Ink’s business in travel advertising and how COVID-19 impacted the company Why Simon started writing poetry How poetry became a creative escape for Simon during the pandemic How Simon found equanimity amid the COVID-19 crisis The relationship between problems and opportunities Why Simon thinks people who don’t want problems aren’t living to their fullest potential Living in the downside and the lifelong process of becoming grounded and centered Having a miserable life despite being successful and wealthy Radical candor and training the bravery muscle every day Why the pursuit of happiness is unhappiness Becoming more compassionate and open-hearted Connect with Simon Leslie: Simon Leslie Website Ink Global Book: Equanimity: The Diary of a CEO in Crisis Book: White Belt Thinking: The Hero’s Journey. A Story of Living with a Beginner’s Mind Book: There is no F in Sales: A Book About Selling in Every Market Condition Ink on LinkedIn Simon Leslie on LinkedIn The Motivational Poet on Instagram   Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners, like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sejal Thakkar is the founder and Chief Civility Officer of TrainXtra, a woman/minority-owned training consulting firm based in South San Francisco, California. A Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion expert and former employment attorney, Sejal is on a mission to educate and empower people to create a world where everyone is treated with respect and dignity. She is also the Chief Culture Officer of Nobody Studios, a venture capital firm that aims to create 100 compelling companies, guiding them from ideation to full-scale company validation. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Accounting from the University of Illinois at Chicago and received her Juris Doctor degree from Northern Illinois University. Sejal joins me today to share advice on leading people through difficult conversations. She explains why effective communication takes time and why we need more empathy in the world. She outlines the steps to facilitating difficult conversations. She describes the three conversations that simultaneously occur whenever you talk to someone about difficult topics. Sejal also highlights the importance of normalizing conversations around race relations, privilege, and unconscious bias and underscores the value of active listening. “It’s important for an effective communicator to get people into that ‘uncomfortable’ category—to bring them into a conversation that is not going to be well-received but is needed to move forward.” - Sejal Thakkar This week on Mastering Overwhelm: Resilience and getting out of the overwhelm of grief Creating connections in the world Why effective communication takes time How building connections and rapport makes it easier to navigate difficult conversations How the COVID-19 pandemic exacerbated the disconnection between people Key facilitation skills all middle managers must have The steps in leading difficult conversations Conversations about feelings, identity, and being right How to get people to listen to conversations about race relations and privileges Identifying different points of view before having a difficult conversation Assessing your own assumptions and biases before leading a difficult conversation Leading up, leading across, leading your team, and leading yourself How Sejal’s legal background helps her navigate difficult conversations with people How I teach people how to be present through mindful breathing How to proactively kick your brain into active listening mode Resources Mentioned: The Pain, Power, and Paradox of Bias | Sejal Thakkar | TEDxCWRU Connect with Sejal Thakkar: TrainXtra Nobody Studios TrainXtra on LinkedIn TrainXtra on YouTube Nobody Studios on LinkedIn Nobody Studios on Instagram Nobody Studios on Facebook Nobody Studios on Twitter Sejal Thakkar on LinkedIn Sejal Thakkar on YouTube Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners, like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Kim Scott is an author, speaker, and Co-founder of Radical Candor, an enterprise dedicated to creating productive organizations where respect and collaboration combine. Before co-founding Radical Candor, Kim served as a CEO coach at Dropbox, Qualtrics, Twitter, and other tech companies and as a faculty member at Apple University. She also led AdSense, YouTube, and DoubleClick teams at Google. She is the author of Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity and Just Work: How to Root Out Bias, Prejudice, and Bullying to Build a Kick-Ass Culture of Inclusivity. Kim holds a Bachelor’s degree in Slavic Literature from Princeton University. Kim joins us today to discuss the art of radical candor and giving, soliciting, and receiving feedback without losing your humanity. She reveals how she came up with the idea of Radical Candor and how she got out of the conundrum between being kind and giving people direct feedback. She explains why the phrase “Don’t take it personally” should be eliminated from your vocabulary. She describes the “Asshole Quadrant” and explains how radical candor differs from “obnoxious aggression.” Kim also elaborates on creating a healthy culture and environment of feedback and offers her best practices for giving and soliciting feedback with radical candor. “Ensure that your praise is specific and sincere and that your criticisms are kind and clear.” - Kim Scott This week on Mastering Overwhelm: Kim’s background and the struggles she faced when she first became a leader Teaching a dog to sit and Kim’s shift to learning about empathy, care, and radical candor The “Asshole Quadrant” and how radical candor is different from obnoxious aggression What ruinous empathy means The CEO’s challenge with giving and receiving feedback Making a safe space for feedback and incentivizing it The importance of timing when giving radical candor Praise as radical candor and how it can challenge people to be their best Kim’s recipe for staying grounded and centered How knowing yourself helps build radical candor Connect with Kim Scott: Kim Scott Website Radical Candor Book: Just Work: How to Root Out Bias, Prejudice, and Bullying to Build a Kick-Ass Culture of Inclusivity Book: Radical Candor: Fully Revised & Updated Edition: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity Radical Candor on LinkedIn Radical Candor on Instagram Radical Candor on Facebook Radical Candor on Twitter Radical Candor on Medium The Radical Candor Podcast Kim Scott on LinkedIn Kim Scott on Medium Kim Scott on Twitter Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is there something in your life you’re trying to force? Are you, for example, trying to write a book instead of writing the book every day? Or are you trying to lose weight and reach a weight goal instead of actively watching what you’re doing every single day? I was in a similar spot. Getting my weight down to 160 lbs has been my goal—a goal that had vexed me for a while. I am a coach, after all, so why couldn’t I achieve the goals I said I wanted to reach? Today, I am at 164.5 lbs. I still haven’t reached my goal, but it’s no longer a point of contention. In fact, the process has become an awesome experience.  In this episode, I discuss failure and committing to the process of achieving your goals. I share some of the goals I made for myself earlier this year. I describe how I’m learning to keep my word to myself and how I’m approaching my weight goals. I also discuss the value of being kind to yourself and highlight the importance of focusing on your process over your goals. “Process over goals. We don’t have control over the goal, but we have control over the process and who we are in it.” - Mark J. Silverman This week on Mastering Overwhelm: The goals I made for myself this year Learning to keep my word to myself and how I approached my weight goal Not letting stress and grief dictate how I treat myself The importance of being kind to yourself when working towards a goal Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hayden Lee is a master-certified executive life and leadership coach. He is the Co-founder of the Master Mind Institute, a partnership with neuroscientists aiming to merge cognitive science and professional coaching to serve coaches and clients more effectively. A highly regarded industry expert, Hayden has been recognized by Expertise.com as one of the Top 20 Best Life Coaches in Los Angeles. He has delivered speeches and training at various events and venues, including TEDx, UC Berkeley, the National Association of Asian American Professionals, and the International Enneagram Conference. As an executive coach, Hayden has worked with leaders, executives, entrepreneurs, and teams to help them find their edge and fly at their highest levels. Hayden joins me today to discuss the Enneagram personality types and how knowing yours can help you become a better person. He outlines the characteristics of the nine Enneagram personality types and their core motivations and fears. He explains how each Enneagram type has its own vice and virtue. Hayden also underscores how to use the “wings” of each type for personal development and describes what overwhelms each Enneagram personality type and how they can avoid it. “We are all complex beings, but we do have some recurring patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Understanding them can liberate us to live fuller lives.” - Hayden Lee This week on Mastering Overwhelm: Why the Enneagram assessment stands out from other personality tests The nine Enneagram types, their core motivations, and fears The Enneagram Type 1 and their strive for perfection The amazing generosity and kindness of the Enneagram Type 2 Success, ambition, and the Enneagram Type 3 Diving deep into beauty, authenticity, and envy with the Enneagram Type 4 The Enneagram Type 5 and their quest for knowledge How the Enneagram reveals intent versus impact The gift of discernment and how the Enneagram Type 6 can save you millions in your company Avoiding excess and living life fully with the Enneagram Type 7 The Enneagram Type 8 and the value of vulnerability Creating empathy and compassion, and the Enneagram Type 9 Using the Enneagram’s wings and lines for personal development The history and mystical roots of the Enneagram Resources Mentioned: Book: The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut Book: The Enneagram Made Easy: Discover the 9 Types of People by Elizabeth Wagele Truity Enneagram Personality Test The Enneagram Institute Integrative Enneagram Solutions Connect with Hayden Lee: Master Mind Institute Master Mind Institute on LinkedIn Master Mind Institute on Facebook Master Mind Institute on Twitter Hayden Lee on LinkedIn Hayden Lee on Twitter Hayden Lee on Instagram Hayden Lee on YouTube Email: [email protected] Mastering Overwhelm - Set Yourself Free to Enjoy Your Success Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Mastering Overwhelm Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music | iHeart | Deezer Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more listeners, like you. Join me on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn. For more exclusive content and information, visit our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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