Accept them for what they are. Or leave them alone. 

Remember how much I was struggling with my Mother, who I have basically been a carer for since I was 17 years old? Well here's an audio message I received from an Aunty. Sometimes the first to attack you, are your own family. If you are insulted and slandered for doing your best to create good mental health and a better life for yourself, then take the abuse as a sign that you are on track, You are a cycle breaker. Go you Good thing. Live your own life.  An audio message sent from XXXX XXXX to me on Whatsapp. Wednesday, June 24th, 2021. Translated from Spanish.  Good morning XXXXXXXX, you for your gossip and for being such a bad person, look at all that you have caused. Your Mother has not been able to fly. When you had your Son small, young, covered in shit, snotty and fucked, you didn't let her go out anywhere. You had her seized, that she be tending to your son. You didn't teach her how to use the internet. You left her incapacitated.  Now you throw her out on the street. That woman us useless. She's lost around the world and you do nothing. Please stop being inhuman. Be more humane. Stop being shameless/scoundrel. Attend your Mother! You have the obligation to attend your Mother until the day that your Mother dies.  Please attend to your Mother. You are nothing but a gossip. And now of what I have said to you, you will form tales, gossip and tangles. In hours, you will [have] formed an airplane (Spanish phrase, referring to gossip as wind and the forming of an airplane to have created enough wind to fly one amongst it). Please resolve this problem. Get on the internet and solve her problem so that she can travel. I've sent all the documents fot what she has paid for the travel and everything is there.  Solve this problem, because you can solve it, you scoundrel!

We get so caught up and fretting about "failing," when at the core of failure, is simply an unmet expectation. What does this mean? Essentially, we spend our lives being afraid of not meeting our own expectations. In reality, if we simply adapt our expectations, we will never "fail."  Therefore, go forth and conquer.

I never thought I'd grow up to the realisation that I was raised by two mentally ill parents. In my younger years, I would have viewed my situation with judgement, scorn and embarrassment. At this point in time, I'm convinced that a combination of unresolved trauma, social and cultural environments, inadequate self care, fear and insecurity, genetic disposition and of course - free will and choice, all play a major role in causing mental illnesses. Through my own healing journey, I'm discovering layers of generational trauma that I have to deal with. It's not only what I have experienced in my life time either. I'm finding myself in a position where I also have to deal with my Father's traumas and Mother's traumas that I seem to have inherited, too. Irrespective of where I find myself at this stage of my life, I have made a significant choice. And that choice is; I choose to take accountability.  I will fight.  I will be victorious.  I am. I can. I Will. I am the author of my fate.  I have decided.

My very first podcast, recorded at 3.49pm, on Monday the 1st of March, 2021. This podcast is about:  + Why I decided to create a podcast + The moment during my podcast that I decided to change the name of my podcast  + Discovering what the three most important things to me, are + Aligning what is important to me, with the "how to" go about it  + My decision to be true to myself. Never fake. No snakes. Welcome to the podcast. The boldness begins.