🔸 Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

• The figuring out part, the others. see notes.
• Uncomfortable with meditation
• Set up to fail
• Blanking
• Fear of hurting others
• Rejection 

⬥ Rosie shared her parts list:  

Exile: 

• Alone cuz me part 
• Sad/lonely/shame/terrified because 
• bad/difficult/burden/problem/wrong/misunderstood  

Managers/Parts trying to get it right: 

• Figure it out, the manager 
• Articulate one  
• Caretaker  
• Smiley/Laughing Girl 
• Don’t know what I’m doing so freeze part 
• Rational teenager 
• Blank one 
• Push through part  

Firefighters/Parts coping with having gotten it wrong: 

• Shut down/sullen one 
• trying not to need anything
• emotional withdrawer 
• Growler “back off I can’t do/be better!” 
• Figure it out, the firefighter 
• The empathizer 
• Talks me out of my feelings  
• The fixer - emotional pursuer

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
 Direct access, not something I feel very confident with, although I think I do it implicitly with more ease.  
 Loving these calls with Rosie; I feel I'm at my growth edge, she's patient with me, and has enough experience around this work to have already tried whatever approach comes to me first.
 We chat a lot outside of these sessions, trying to understand what each of us can change to make our work more effective.
 I was full of assumptions in this call, my own figuring out parts. Maybe I identify with her too much? I make (too many) comments, in my own attempt to identify with figuring out. Is that building trust, making parts feel comfortable? Or is that blending?

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