Is your partner a narcissist? If you feel like they are, it may be true, so we decided to present 10 warning signs to watch out for so you can know for sure. In this episode you will learn: 1. Learning about narcissism in order to emancipate yourself from self-blame and self-doubt. 2. Understanding that narcissism exists along a spectrum, and that not everyone with narcissistic traits has a personality disorder. 3. Recognizing the role of the inner critic in fueling jealousy and insecurity, and learning how to stand up to it. Here's a breakdown of what is covered:[00:00:05] - Introduction to Wendy.[00:00:47] - Introduction and training.[00:01:21] - Jealousy and impostor syndrome.[00:06:34] - Jealousy from a childhood.[00:12:10] - When grief feels big.[00:16:26] - Tips for dealing with narcissists.[00:24:49] - Partners of narcissists.[00:33:06] - Five tips to help break your jealous habits. Disarming the Narcissist Book by Wendy Behary Join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupConnect with host Shanenn:Website Instagram

All of us tend to lead with our thinking mind, which only makes up about 10% of who we actually are. There are other parts of our brain that have a larger capacity to accurately intake the information around us. However these parts of our mind are difficult to tap into, which is why there are tools such as hypnotherapy that can be used to enter these wiser faculties of our mind and help aid us in dealing with unpleasant feelings and emotions like jealousy. On today’s episode, medical doctor and hypnotherapist Dr. Ann Marie Balkanski shares one way of tapping into the subconscious mind and explains why it’s so important to get to know our subconscious mind as well as our working mind. By communicating directly with the feeling body, Dr. Balkanski helps her patients to engage with their subconscious in order to facilitate the start of the healing process.Dr. Balkanski’s work centers on the idea that memories are actually held within the body and that by familiarizing oneself with what those experiences make us feel, we can work through these traumas and let go. Hypnosis is about waking up and finding clarity on a situation, and feelings and experiences of jealousy are no different. So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we’re inviting you to try a bit of self-hypnosis and tap into the bigger, wiser part of your mind. Listen and let us know if it helped you!Topics discussed in this episode:Tapping into the subconscious mindThere’s so much more to who you areBefriending all parts of your mindBehaviors: the movie-based experiences of lifeDr. Balkanski’s journey to hypnotherapyHow hypnotherapy can help overcome jealousy Waking up with hypnosis Working within the hypnagogic stateThe power of meditationCheck out two of  Dr. Balkanski’s meditations below. Building Confidence MeditationReaching Your Goals MeditationJoin the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group

In this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions.  She breaks these action habits into two categoriesUndercover Action HabitsDirect Action HabitsDownload the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions.Connect with Shanenn: WebsiteInstagram

“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia SirotaBeing kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well. There seems to be a common theme among society, which is that we experience a lot of negative self-talk which causes us to not be compassionate with ourselves, or others. This can become an issue, especially in intimate relationships, because a lot of the mistrust and jealousy comes from innate negative self-talk where we filter the world through that perception.  What would happen if you became aware of those filters, and decided to change your perspective to have ruthless compassion for yourself and others? What would your life and relationships look like?  Forgiving yourself for the past is the first step, and resetting to do better in each moment is the key. You will never be ‘perfect’. This is an impossible standard that we need to do away with. What we can do is improve in every moment with kindness as our anchor. On today’s episode, we have invited Dr. Marcia Sirota who is a board certified psychiatrist and host of the ‘Ruthless Compassion’ podcast. Who better to help us uncover what it means to be ruthlessly compassionate and cultivate kindness within yourself and others! Marcia is on a mission to create an army of kindness warriors, because the world is in desperate need of this. Also, having this compassion for yourself could be the turning point for your jealousy in relationships.  So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we have a challenge for you. Listen in to hear what it is and let us know if it helped you!  Topics discussed in this episode: ●      What does it mean to be a kindness warrior●      Two ways we can have jealousy●      Importance of a reality check when differentiating jealousy●      When you need to use ruthless compassion ●      Importance of slowing down and relaxing to conjure a reality check●      Difference between being self indulgent, lenient, and kind●      Importance of having reasonable expectations of yourself●      Perception through the filter of our past vs. the truth●      Importance of mindfulness as a tool to cut through our filters●      The ruthless piece of ruthless compassion●      The importance of mental flexibility●      Take every opportunity to be kind●      A challenge for all the jealousy junkies out there!  To learn how to be ruthlessly compassionate, head to Apple Podcasts to listen to Dr. Marcia Sirota’s podcast ‘Ruthless Compassion’! Connect with host Shanenn:  https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoach 

Jealousy can be insidious. It can cause us to unravel and mistrust ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Also, what feels like a deep knowing can oftentimes come across as a possible fear because of how activated our nervous system is at the thought of a partner cheating. Intuition is real and it can be trusted. As long as you know how to differentiate your intuition from anxiety and fear, it can be used as a powerful tool to help guide you in all areas of your life, especially when experiencing jealousy with your partner. If you are unsure whether you can differentiate the two, there are ways you can fine tune your intuition to use it to your advantage.To learn how to differentiate the two, we have invited mentor and mindset coach who also has a PhD in psychology, Ashley Greer, to give us practical exercises to anchor our intuition. She also teaches us how to know when you are feeling fear and anxiety, and how that manifests in the body and mind. These are practical tools that can be used in all areas of life, but are so important for the highly emotional parts, such as intimate relationships.Tune in to hear how you can start to fine tune your intuition and understand fear and anxiety from a different lens.Topics discussed in this episode:Differentiation between intuition and fearThe bodily sensations of fear vs. intuitionWhen do we get intuitive thoughts?An exercise on how to anchor in to your intuitionHow the quality of the questions are important to understanding intuitionDoes the strength of feeling determine intuition accuracy?Importance of leaving expectations at the doorThe importance of self trustTo connect with Ashlee, head to her website here!Schedule your free Clarity Call with Shanenn

The truth is, we are hardwired as humans to not want to apologize. It is one of the most difficult things to do on a cultural and neurological level. Feeling as though we did something wrong and that we hurt someone is not the way we want to feel about ourselves, so in an instant our brain chooses to protect itself. However, what if apologizing was looked at through a different lens? What if we used apologies as a way to create better connections with a partner and make big changes that could help elevate relationships.There are so many misconceptions about apologizing, such as,  apologizing is a sign of weakness, when it is actually the total opposite and we want to tackle this issue on today’s podcast. Joining us today is Harvard trained clinical psychologist and author of ‘A Good Apology: Four Steps to Make Things Right’, Molly Howes. Molly walks us through why people don’t like to apologize and how we can overcome that by using her four steps to apologizing. She is here to educate us on the psychology behind apologizing, and how we can become better apologizers for us and our partners.Apologizing isn’t about who is right and who is wrong, it’s about building better connections and working as a team. With some introspection and the right tools, apologizing in a way that will help your relationship is possible. Tune in to hear how!Topics discussed in this episode:Why is it so hard to apologize?How to better understand your partner’s point of viewWhy is it easier to see other people’s mistakes rather than our own?What is forgiveness inflation?Why guilt is actually a good thingWhat is confirmation bias?Does being open help your partner open up?The need for responsibility and empathy in an apologyCreating a system to ensure to not hurt the otherBecoming a team with your partner for a mutually beneficial outcomeMyths about apologiesQuestions to ask to help your partner open upPurchase Molly's Book:  https://www.grandcentralpublishing.com/titles/molly-howes-phd/a-good-apology/9781538701317/Join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group:  http://www.facebook.com/groups/jealousyjunkie/Schedule your FREE Clarity Call with Shanenn:  https://calendly.com/jealousyjunkie/free-clarity-call

Have you ever considered what your jealousy trying to accomplish?  If you flip jealousy on it's head and think of it in the best possible way, could it be the solution?Dr. Susan Heilter wrote about this in Psychology Today and it really changed the way I viewed my jealousy.  This lead to a super cool exercise that I am sharing with you on today's episode.   as well as what I discovered from it.  Connect with Shanenn:https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoach

The aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating.  So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship.  Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship?In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal.Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a new detail.She warns being too eager to ask for all the details of the affair but instead focusing on the details of what the affair meant to the offender and what it means to you.This episode is not intended as therapy and could contain potentially distressing material.  Free Compassion Focused Meditation from Dr. Harpur:  https://ruth-ann-harpur.mykajabi.com/pl/2147603458Connect with Dr. Harpur on IG and TikTok @drruthannharpur  Connect with Shanenn:  https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/On Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoachJoin the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group today!

If you've ever researched..."why am I jealous" you may have been left with more questions than answers.  In this episode, Dr. Genesis Games walks you through what may be at the root of your jealousy and insecurities.You'll get a deep dive into each of the attachment styles and why it's important to know yours. Secure AttachmentAnxious AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentCombo of Anxious-Avoidant (relationship fireworks x 10)Wondering how to feel more secure in relationships?  Dr. Games also shares 5 ways to move to a secure attachment style to improve relationships. What's your attachment style?  Take the Free Quiz https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/624e1a8010570600189fc627Website:  https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/

My name is Shanenn Bryant, and I'm am a certified life coach and one of the few to focus on overcoming jealousy in relationships.For many years, I was extremely insecure and jealous in my relationships and thought it was just the way I am and the way I would always be.  I also thought I was the only one who struggled with this.Until one day I was handed a piece of paper from a therapist as she invited me to "not come back" (more about that story later).  The paper was what the ACA (Adult children of an alcoholics) calls the Laundry List.  And there it was, a whole list of my behavior characteristics all typed out in black and white.Not that all women who are jealousy had parents or a parent who was an alcoholic, but seeing my behaviors on a list let me know that I must not be alone in my struggles AND if there's a list, there's a solution.So, I committed to tackling this once and for all and I want the same thing for you too.  I hope my long troubled journey becomes your short, clear path to overcoming your insecurities and jealousy.Schedule a FREE clarity session with me:  https://calendly.com/jealousyjunkie/free-clarity-call