I'm Not for Everyone Podcast

I'm Not for Everyone

Lee Cordell
Dr. Lee is a DNP-prepared adult nurse practitioner and an expert mindset coach. She uses her 15+ years of experience in healthcare, psychology, and education to help her clients release shame and prioritize pleasure as a path to trusting themselves to call in what they desire, using a Trauma-Informed, Psychologically-Safe (TRIPS) approach.This podcast has a dual purpose: giving a platform to individuals to release shame and create resilience, and to educate listeners about how trauma shows up in our every day lives.
S2E14: Loving Your Scars with Kayleigh Hanlin
Moving beyond the shame of our scars (physical or not!) can be a lifelong journey - and the resiliency & grit it takes to get there is no joke! In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites Kayleigh Hanlin - personal development junkie, CHD thriver, and author - to discuss her journey with congenital heart disease, the amazing work she’s doing in the world for young women, and learning to live out loud and love yourself - scars and all!They’re exploring:Thriving with CHD & the amazing work she is doing in the world!Kayleigh’s scars & body stigma - the effects on her youth, dating in college & moreHow she learned to speak up for herself and her body (and how to do this for yourself or your child)Some anti-shame advice when you (or your child) is curious about someone who is differently-abled How Kayleigh brings her past experiences into her work with young womenSome practical advice if you or your child is going through a similar medical struggleAnd more!Connect with Kayleigh:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knhanlin/Empowered Minds Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justownyou/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justownyouGet your J.O.Y. Journal! https://www.mindsempowered.com/store/BA7UmW8FDisclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Jan 18, 2022
46 min
S2E13: Trauma Responses: Flight
This week, Dr. Lee is diving deep into the third of the trauma response series: flight response. If you are somebody who makes to-do lists and then avoids them, or knows an important conversation needs to be had, but ghosts instead - then this one might be for you (and don’t worry, you are not alone in these responses)! In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into the major ways you might be participating in flight response, the mindset shifts that can help you get into action instead, and why self-regulation is the game-changer!She’s exploring:The 3 BIGGEST ways we participate in a flight responseSome of the ways social media can send us into flight (and how to become more aware of your patterns here!)Barriers vs. boundaries - and how to self-regulate to make sure you are using them responsiblyThe GAME-CHANGER that allowed me to retain clients & have deeper conversations around hard topicsWhy it is so important to use the body in the clearing of traumaTHREE different ways you can respond to big feelings to avoid causing harmAnd more!Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Jan 11, 2022
54 min
S2E12: Healing Shame: Mind, Body & Spirit with Keri Bodensteiner
It’s common to try and outrun our shame, but this can be very harmful to us - and impossible! When we process our shame, that is when we can heal and release it. In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites professor & coach, Keri Bodensteiner, to discuss her shame story and journey to healing. They dive into spiritual healing, the role of shame in shaping who we become, and how to truly process past painful learning to experience balance and peace in our lives. They’re exploring:Keri’s journey - her shame story and her (ongoing) healingBig T & Little T traumas and how they relate to each otherThe long-lasting effects trauma can have on your life - and some of the ways you can process and release itKeri’s practices for coping and processing her traumaAnd more!Connect with Keri:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/magicmorphoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/magicmorpho/Website: https://magicmorpho.com/Check out the book Dr. Lee talked about in the episode! https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=asc_df_0143127748/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=61851652213&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Dec 28, 2021
55 min
S2E11: Trauma Responses: Fawn
This week, Dr. Lee is diving deep into the second of the trauma response series: fawn response. She discusses how the response works in the body, the 2 distinct behaviors that we see in the fawn response (and one that is mistakenly viewed as fawn!), and the ways you can identify, respond, and assist with this trauma response. Ready to learn more about what happens when we fawn? Let’s dive in!She’s exploring:Fawn response and the recent research that has changed how we look at itThe 2 IMPORTANT behaviors that we see in the fawn responseWhat looks like a fawn response, but ISN’T!Polyvagal Theory and the nervous systemHow we fawn - and why it depends on these TWO thingsPrimary attachment to a caregiver and the 3 things that need to be met - and the 5 different categories they need to be met in!A version of people-pleasing that isn’t talked about as often (and why you need to know this)Emotionally regulating yourself when coaching a client that is in fawn responseAnd so much more! Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Dec 21, 2021
57 min
S2E10: You Are Not Too Broken: Reclaim Your Sexuality with Sheila Ramsay
It is undeniable - trauma is a painful thing. But you don’t have to process it alone. And sometimes, wisdom & meaning can be found in the wake. In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites the lovely Sheila Ramsay, women’s empowerment and sexuality coach, to share her trauma & healing journey. They discuss PTSD, having wealth, power & agency over your own sexuality, and how to reclaim and remember the pieces of yourself that may feel lost. They’re exploring:Sheila’s trauma story and the ways she tried to avoid her feelingsHer PTSD diagnosis and healing journeySome of the most common ways we can numb and dissociate after a traumatic eventThe patterns of shame that can come up in relationships & sexuality after traumaSome advice if it feels difficult to ask for what you need in your family or relationshipsAnd more! Connect with Sheila: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sheila.ramsay.9/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luxuriousfemininepower/Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Dec 14, 2021
59 min
S2E9: Trauma Responses: Fight
If you have ever experienced rage, or significant anger & frustration - your fight response may have been activated. But hear this - being in fight mode is okay! This week, Dr. Lee is diving into the first of a trauma response series: fight response. She discusses how you can identify when you are in a fight response, understanding the “why” behind it, and why participating in radical self-acceptance around this is key! She’s exploring:What the fight response is and how it can manifest in your behaviors, relationships & lifeAdrenaline addiction - this one is so interesting ya’ll!The activation of the sympathetic nervous systemActual threats vs. perceived threats - and how to distinguish between themHow trauma responses and patterns can repeat themselves (and how this can apply to parenting)Passive-aggressive behaviors as a form of the fight responseAnd more! Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Dec 7, 2021
41 min
S2E8: Releasing ADHD Stigma & Shame with Lara Wellman
I should be able to do this! I just have to keep going. If I just worked harder…If you find yourself having similar thoughts - you are NOT alone. But you do not need to be carrying ANY of that shame. This week Dr. Lee is joined by business coach Lara Wellman to discuss what it can look like to live by your own standards (instead of societal “shoulds”), healing from shame around an ADHD diagnosis, and why being “lazy” doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Ready to get rid of the damn boxes they put you in and start defining your own worth? Let’s go to the show! They’re exploring:Lara’s ADHD journey - her perception of herself before diagnosis, and the healing that came afterwardWhy conforming children to societal norms can be harmful (and some advice to help them live more shame free)Toxic productivity syndrome - what Dr. Lee means by this and how to ditch it!One of the BIGGEST effects of the communal family breakdownHow to STOP doing the things you don’t want to do in your life and businessThe current school system and if it is serving the ADHD brainAnd more!Connect with Lara:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebizstudio Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebizstudio Website: https://www.thebiz.studio Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Nov 23, 2021
56 min
S2E7: Intersectionality, Marginalized Identities, and Trauma
What if we stopped trying to treat everybody the same and started treating everyone as they are? In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into intersectionality, marginalized identities, and trauma. She defines the terms and discusses the goal of a truly trauma-informed business and the perspective we can take to create a society that is more just, trauma-informed, and psychologically safe for people who hold all identities.She’s exploring:The definitions of intersectionality and marginalized identityHow fundamental distrust can manifest in the nervous systemThe difference between individual identity and group identityHow collective, ancestral, and personal trauma can interact with each otherWhy equity doesn’t always create safetyHow fear and shame play a role in the conversation around intersectionality and marginalized identitiesA break down of safety and the nervous system - and how society plays a roleCultural competence vs. cultural humility (and what we should be striving for!)And more! Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Nov 16, 2021
49 min
S2E6: Finding Freedom in Love with Kari Lu Cowell
There are so many harmful narratives and stories around love, romance & sex. What it “should” be and what it “should” look like and feel like. Dr. Lee’s guest today, Kari Lu Cowell - kinky, ethical love coach - joins us as she shares her shame story and discusses ethical non-monogamy, kink, and how to get free from the harmful narratives around love - and explore your sexuality and love life, without the shame!They’re exploring:Kari’s shame story and her experience with a toxic motherHer insight on the relationship between adoption & trauma“Loving yourself before you can be loved” - why Kari doesn’t subscribe to this idea!Ethical non-monogamy & kink, and what led her to this workThe power exchange in relationships (and the freedom that can be found in BDSM!)Kari’s advice for moving forward from shameAnd more!Connect with Kari:www.instagram.com/karilucoachingwww.facebook.com/groups/datingfordorkshttps://bookme.name/DatingforDorks/domme-ebook
Nov 9, 2021
50 min
S2E5: Trauma Responses & Expressions
Dr. Lee is talking about one of her very favorite topics today - trauma responses and trauma expressions! She is diving into the differences between the two, how these might be showing up in your life, and learning to retrain your nervous system so you can stop responding in hurtful or harmful ways - or clean it up when you do (because we are all human)! Ready to gain some tools to deal with some of the trauma in your body? Let’s go to the show! She’s exploring:Trauma responses & expressions - the difference between the two and understanding their role in your life The 3 parts of the brain that come into play when we undergo something traumaticWhy a deregulated nervous system seeks relief - and how that can show up in your lifeUnderstanding the 5 F’s process when we encounter a perceived threatThe 2 IMPORTANT things that can happen when we get triggeredOne of my favorite techniques to use when I notice tension in my body - and how it can help you!And more!Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.----------Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformedAnd don't miss a single notification, and receive weekly updates directly to your inbox by joining the email list here: https://leeccordell.kartra.com/page/ITPSsignup. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Nov 2, 2021
52 min
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