How To Stop People-pleasing: Taking Back Your Worth One of the key entanglements that drives the people-pleasing impulse has to do with your worth. We are taught a transactional model of worth, meaning we earn it by doing xyz. In people-pleasing, what our worth is dependent on is approval and the avoidance of rejection. This creates massive anxiety, hypervigilance, and insecurity in our sense of self. Shifting this orientation and taking back your worth is CENTRAL to ending pe...