Creation Phase is where you arrive with the ability to determine what kind of experiences you want to have, and then using your personal power, intuition, and skills, go out and receive those experiences.This all depends on knowing what you *actually* want, not what you think you want (which is often a product of trauma controling things rather than a genuine alignment within ourselves).This phase is all about understanding, creating, and following the alignments that lead you to outcomes are...

The Healing Phase is the deep work of unbecoming your codependency and discovering who you are beyond your pain, trauma, and survival self. This is where we develop the necessary skills, experience and expertise we didn't get growing up, along with amplifying our safety, our belonging, and deeply embodying our self-worth.Learn how I work with this phase and how you can start to in your life in today's episode.The Tool: https://sir.freetheself.com*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE C...

Survival is the phase we all start in. It is the phase where we realize our codependency and begin the big work of healing that codependency and become who we actually are.This phase is noted by the presents of:- Anxiety- Shame- Freeze and fawn impulses in the body- Feeling depressed, collapsed, powerless - People-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict to keep the peace, and moreLearn what I do with this phase and how to exit it in today's episode!The Tool: https://drp.fr...

Quitting - It is necessary in the healing journey.Quitting relationships.Quitting fixing.Quitting chasing fantasy outcomes.Quitting.It makes space for new, healthy outcomes to come into your life.It makes it possible for you to face the pain that needs the loving care of your attention and loving care of community so it can heal.Quitting.That is what we explore in this week's episode.*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE COMMUNITYAre you seeking guidance in navigating your journey through the th...

Episode: Why you only love yourself when things are going wellWhen we live from a love equation that says "I'm only lovable when...", we are being controlled and manipulated. This leads us to invest precious time, energy, and attention on satisfying these conditions and then *maintaining* them.No wonder we burn out!Learn what do about this in today's episode:*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: h...

Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-LoveReally, actually loving yourself is a profound challenge when we come from codependency and love-is-earned relationship and family systems. We are striving to earn the love, earn the permission, become worthy, and demostrate that we deserve it.To break out of this prison, you need to understand the two hidden factors that keep you chasing love.We explore these factors in today's episode!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, su...

Episode: The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourselfTransaction, earned love teaches us that we must - MUST - seek, chase, and perform for love.This means we have to be "just right" in the eyes of the other or we won't get love.This means that when there are challenges, problems, hiccups, mistakes, love is in jeopardy.This means we start LIVING like we're always just on the edge of losing love.And that results in:- Anxiety about what others feel and think about us- a...

Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love YourselfWhen you're rewarded with praise, attention, or affection for doing something, your body will see performance and love as the same thing.When you're presence is met with warmth, praise, attention, or affection on a consistent basis, your body will see your existence and love as the same thing. You deserve to know the second form of love.Learn what is really going on and your first step in really, actually loving yourself in today's episod...

Codependency And Shame - What's Really HappeningYou cannot become free of your codependency until you break free of what I call "Your Root Identity".Codependency depends on a root identity.What is a root identity? It is an identity that you FEEL and experience as utterly true about yourself.You filter the world through this identity and it controls how you live your life.Learn what this root identity is and what do to about it so you are free from it.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more ...

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're CodependentDo you often feel: - Empty, frustrated, or used? - Wonder why your life is not fulfilling or satisfied? - Feel lost as to what you want, value, or even need in your life?Codependency has us prioritizing others emotionally, physically, mentally, and even financially or intimately. This happens through acts of people-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict, and even trying to fix their problems for them.We are confusing ...