Survivors - We Need to:Give ourselves permission to struggle at times with intimacy and intimate relationships. This is a topic not often discussed as once again shame can be a factor. Because of the sexual abuse we endured; we can often feel triggered, sometimes even anxious and unsure.This is all perfectly normal. As soon as we can accept those feelings, and begin to work through them, they can feel less challenging. Have a listen here, and see if this speaks to you.Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Meet Kane Brisco.Survivor. Dad. Husband. FarmerKane was abused between 8-9 years old by a teenager known to his Uncle. He didn't tell anyone for years and wishes he had done so earlier. He believes if you can open the box you can start to heal, and the weight that is lifted is phenomenal. You can reach out to Kane through [email protected] or follow him on IG or FB at https://www.instagram.com/farmfit_nz/ HELPNZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Survivors - We Need to:Consider how we deal with Medical appointments specifically smear tests for women and prostate exam for men. Even going to the dentist can be challenging for us as survivors, at times.These appointments, by their very nature, can trigger us, so we need to be aware of how we want them conducted, for example; whether we want every aspect discussed with us, or if we prefer just to have a generalised conversation. There is no one size fits all, but we need to honour ourselves and how we would like this to be conducted.Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Meet Jodie Herlihy. Survivor. Jodie survived 28 years of relentless targeted sexual abuse from her stepfather. Her son is the product and the most amazing gift, as a result of this horrendous, ongoing and targeted abuse. She feels that what helped her was forgiving herself, stopping judgement of herself and connecting with herself. Her advice to survivors is to unapologetically Just Be You!                                                          You can reach her on TikTok tiktok.com/@jodieherlihy and on FB @Jodie HerlihyOTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Survivors - We Need to:Start using our MindsIt is the most powerful thing we have. There will never be a device or computer that can begin to measure up to what our minds can provide us. Start to use it in a simple way: Test it out.Simply visualise a butterfly appearing, then go about your day. Dont be surprised if over the next few days, butterflies start appearing everywhere, you go.Thats just one small example of how powerful your mind isDo it, it works!Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Meet Shawn Wildermuth from Atlanta Georgia. Survivor. Author.Filmmaker. He was abused at 6, then again at 13 by his older brother. He believes that if you can break that seal of silence, by talking about what happened, it will make a difference to your whole life. He also encourages survivors to trust their instinct. He makes films that reflect his own experiences and tackle issues that need to be brought out of the shadows. His film “Don't Worry, I'm Fine” brings the brave stories of recovery to this film, including his own story. Most of his life he's been a teacher and author, and over the last eight years have transitioned to film. This is his second feature-length documentary, the first being Hello World Film: https://helloworldfilm.com. You can reach Shawn onTwitter: https://twitter.com/shawnwildermuthBlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/wildermuth.comMastodon: https://fosstodon.org/@shawnwildermuthThe film: https://manenoughfilm.comMy film company: https://twainfilms.com OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Having your own back is sometimes hard for us as survivors.It can be difficult if we have been used to not speaking up for ourselves, and when we are more comfortable to keep the peace, and people around us comfortable or happy.Maybe its time for that to change,  by gently understanding where it comes from....Have a listen, it may just surprise you.Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Survivors we need to: Start using the words: I AMAnything added after those words can become your reality.Without thinking we so often put ourselves down and its not true, or helping!Lets change that up to I AM something, I AM powerful, I AM worthy. Lets begin from the inside out. We so deserve this, and more.Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books,  by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#handingtheshameback#survivors#believesurvivorsSocial Media Handleshttps://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback   https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack/https://handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com/https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloriamasters16handingtheshameback16nonprofit/https://twitter.com/HandinShameBackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok

Survivors - We Need to:RESTSometimes we keep ourselves as busy as possible so we are distracted from the reality of our trauma and the impact the abuse had on us. This means we are not living in our minds and not dealing with the feelings emerging within us. That wont help us deal with it, but equally it means we are not resting, and we need to: We can do this by relaxing, eg reading a book. But, we also need to give the mind a rest as well and the best way to do that, hands down is meditation. Try it and see!Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshamebackTo learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media PlatformsTwitterFBLinkedInYouTubeInstaGramTikTok