In this episode, we are joined by Brother Sigma who discusses the impact of marriage apps on the British Muslim community. He explores whether these apps have improved or damaged the marriage search, the cultural stigmas surrounding divorce, and the influence of social media on perceptions of relationships. The conversation also delves into the motivations for marriage, the role of fear in decision-making, and the importance of making oneself available for marriage. 00:00 Introduction01:29 Apps: Improved or Damaged the Marriage Search09:59 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?12:53 Marriage: Optional or a Priority?14:24 Fear-Based Marriages and Their Implications17:52 Online Toxicity and the Marriage Search21:47 Delaying Disclosure of the fact that one is divorced25:12 Financial Responsibilities in Marriage29:38 Red Flags vs. Green Flags33:16 Solutions to Finding a Spouse36:27 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman42:20 Rapid Fire Round44:32 Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Layla who is Single, Never Married. Layla is a paediatric doctor, who shares her journey from nursing to medicine, influenced by her brother's serious injury and the care he received. She discusses the challenges of balancing her demanding career with societal expectations regarding marriage, emphasising the importance of finding a partner who supports her professional aspirations. Layla also reflects on her marriage search experiences. At the end, Laya completes a talking marriage profile, given that she is searching for a spouse.00:00 Introduction01:21 Why did Layla become a doctor?02:25 Journey to becoming a doctor03:41 Being a doctor and not being married: Is there a connection?05:00 Has being a doctor stopped you from getting married?07:14 Experiences in the Marriage Search18:52 How important is financial stability in a man?23:43 Mahr Requirement25:57 Would Layla consider a Divorcee?26:07 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?28:28 Apps34:17 Delaying Disclosure of the fact that one is divorced35:24 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman36:05 Green Flags v Red Flags37:21 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a spouse?39:26 Game: Red Light / Green Light40:19 Rapid Fire Round42:54 Marriage Profile45:44 Farewell

In this compelling episode, we are joined by Zara, a social media influencer. Zara has an Instagram and TikTok page with the handle: @zarascookierjar. Both these social media pages aim to raise awareness in relation to Domestic Abuse.In this episode Zara shares her personal experience with a manipulative marriage, the journey through abuse from a narcissist, and her path to recovery. Her story highlights the importance of faith, community, and self-awareness in overcoming life's challenges. Zara also provides her views on general subjects relating to the marriage search.00:00 Introduction01:26 Zara's Divorce Story16:11 How did Zara Bounce back from Divorce?19:19 Zara's Marriage Search as a Divorcee26:43 Impact of Divorce on Zara's Marriage Search27:51 Why are British Muslims finding the marriage search difficult?30:51 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations33:06 Marriage Apps34:25 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?37:30 Is the Marriage Crisis Self-Inflcited?40:08 Family Involvement: Advice v Control41:33 Delaying telling a potential that one is Divorced43:27 Fear Based Marriages45:35 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman46:59 Green Flags v Red Flags47:36 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a Spouse49:06 Game: Red Light / Green Light50:36 Rapid Fire Round52:57 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Brother Mizan, a Marriage Coach. Mizan has his own TikTok page – @advice.with.mizan and Instagram page – @advicewithmizan. You can also contact Mizan directly via email: [email protected] Mizan discusses the complexities of marriage counselling, the causes of divorce, and the challenges faced by individuals in the marriage search. He emphasises the importance of communication, compatibility, and the need for healing from past traumas. Mizan also addresses the role of faith in counselling, the impact of societal views on divorce, and offers practical advice for those preparing for marriage. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding oneself and setting realistic expectations in the search for a spouse.00:00 Introduction01:58 Marriage Counselling04:12 When do people need marriage coaching?05:02 What are the main causes of divorce today?06:49 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?09:23 Key Elements of a Healthy Marriage11:18 Conflict Resolution in a marriage13:10 Incorporating faith into Counselling without judgment17:10 Red Flags in a Marriage18:23 Overcoming Trauma from a Divorce/previous marriage21:31 Unhealed Trauma from unlawful relationships23:22 Can Abusers Change?28:04 How to prepare for marriage29:13 Standards vs. Unrealistic Expectations32:07 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search33:41 Family Involvement: Advice or Control?35:43 Delaying telling a potential that they are divorced37:46 Fear-Based Marriages39:44 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman40:41 Is Marriage seen as Growth or Social Validation?42:16 Green Flags vs. Red Flags42:26 Are British Muslims Emotionally unavailable but Spiritually articulate?44:30 Solutions to Finding a Spouse45:35 Game: Red Light / Green Light47:15 Rapid Fire Round48:48 How to contact Mizan49:18 Farewell

In this episode, we are joined by Brother Farook. Farook runs his own social media pages: Instagram, TikTok and YouTube - @disqualified_dads. These pages raise awareness of the plight of non-resident parents.Brother Farook shares his personal journey through divorce, the challenges of being a non-resident parent, and the struggles within the family court system. He discusses the emotional impact of divorce, the importance of self-improvement, and the realities of navigating the modern Muslim marriage market. Farook emphasises the need for open communication and understanding in relationships, while also addressing societal expectations and the stigma surrounding divorce. Farook also discusses the subject of polygamy. He concludes with insights on personal growth and the qualities he seeks in a future partner. Farook also completes a marriage profile at the end. So if you fit his criteria and he fits yours, then do get in touch!00:00 Introduction01:47 Farook's Divorce Story06:47 Impact of Divorce09:59 Relationship with children15:07 Bouncing Back from Divorce19:24 Farook's Social Media Pages, Coaching and Martial Arts24:56 Marriage Search Post Divorce26:02 Farook's challenges in his marriage search33:01 Is a man's worth defined by his wealth?36:18 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations38:14 Polygamy40:16 Delaying disclosure of the fact that one is divorced44:56 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman46:12 Green Flags v Red Flags46:51 Solutions to the difficulty of the marriage search48:44 Game: Red Light / Green Light50:01 Rapid Fire Round52:02 Marriage Profile53:23 Farewell

In this episode, we are joined by Alina – a 26-year-old sister who is Single Never Married.Alina shares her experiences and challenges in her search for marriage as a British Muslim. She discusses the difficulties of finding a suitable partner, the connection between mental health and the marriage search, and the role of family in the marriage search. Alina also addresses the stigma surrounding divorce, the unrealistic expectations set by social media, and the influence of apps on the marriage search landscape. Throughout the discussion, she emphasises the importance of self-awareness, communication, and positivity in the journey towards finding a life partner.Alina also attended our Marriage Event in July 2025. She discusses her experience of this event. Alina was one of the most popular sisters at this event! Alina also completes a marriage profile at the end of this episode – so if you fit her criteria and she fits yours then follow the instructions and who knows you may just end up getting married!00:00 Introduction to Sister Alina02:22 Alina's Marriage Search Experiences07:08 Alina's Marriage Event Experience10:08 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married11:47 The Connection Between Mental Health and the Marriage Search13:29 How important is Fincancial Stability in a man?14:21 Alina's Mahr Requirement15:23 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations17:04 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search18:56 Marriage: An Option or a Priority?19:33 Polygamy22:03 The Marriage Search Crisis: Self inflicted?25:23 Family Involvement in the Marriage Search27:15 Delaying telling potentials that you are divorced28:45 Is fear a valid reason to marry?30:00 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman30:53 Green Flags v Red Flags31:31 Potential Solutions to the Marriage Search32:38 Game: Red Light / Green Light33:53 Rapid Fire Round35:24 Alina's Marriage Profile

In this episode, we are joined by Sister Tareena. Tareena runs a social media page on Tiktok with the handle: @thatgirl.tamtam. Tareena’s page is about healing people giving them hope. Tareena offers one to one advice for sisters who want to discuss their problems. If any sister wants to contact her you can email her: [email protected] shares her personal journey through divorce, the challenges she faced, and her insights on the marriage search as a divorcee. She discusses the emotional impact of her divorce, the importance of self-discovery, and the societal expectations surrounding marriage. Tareena emphasises the need for realistic expectations in relationships, the role of parental involvement, and the stigma attached to being divorced. She also offers advice on overcoming heartbreak and the significance of trusting in Allah's plan.00:00 Introduction01:25 Tareena's divorce story04:28 The Impact of Divorce06:38 Mistakes and Regrets in Marriage10:01 Bouncing Back from Divorce11:16 Marriage Search as a Divorcee17:24 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?19:14 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations20:09 The Role of Marriage Apps21:55 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?23:31 Self-Inflicted Marriage Search Crisis24:34 Family Involvement: Advice v Control27:30 Emotional Intimacy without Commitment29:22 How does one get over heart break?33:20 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced38:25 Fear based Marriages40:20 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman42:30 Green Flags v Red Flags42:41 Solutions43:52 Once an Abuser always an Abuser?44:52 What Tareena does and how to contact her45:52 Game: Red Light / Green Light47:25 Rapid Fire Round48:40 Marriage Profile49:47 Final Thoughts

In this episode, Sister Asiya shares her personal journey through marriage and divorce, discussing the challenges she faced, the decision to leave her marriage, and the impact of her experiences on her personal growth. She reflects on the expectations and standards in relationships, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the complexities of seeking a new partner as a single mother. The conversation also touches on the role of family in marriage decisions, the influence of marriage apps, and the broader marriage crisis within the Muslim community.00:00 Introduction01:10 Asiya's Divorce Story06:19 Taking the Khula route07:52 Experience of the Khula Process09:45 Impact of Divorce11:14 Mistakes made in the marriage13:04 Bouncing back from divorce15:38 Being a Single Mother and looking for marriage18:37 General Questions25:41 Family Involvement in Marriage Decisions29:27 Stigma of Divorce in the Muslim Community31:51 The Role of Fear in Marriage Decisions33:01 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman34:31 Red flags v Green Flags35:03 Solutions35:55 Game: Red Light / Green Light35:59 Fun and Games: Red Light, Green Light37:21 Rapid Fire Round39:01 Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Radiya – a social media influencer. Radiya’s TikTok handle is @p.s.wegotthisRadiya shares her personal journey through divorce, discussing the emotional impact it had on her mental health and the lessons learned. Radiya describes divorce as a shattering experience and for six months, she struggled to cope, questioning the path she had followed and the societal expectations that had shaped her decisions. This introspection opened her eyes to the importance of self-awareness and understanding one’s motivations, leading her to encourage others to reflect on their own lives.The conversation explores the challenges faced by British Muslims in the marriage market, including cultural pressures, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the role of marriage apps. Radiya emphasises the importance of emotional maturity, understanding one's own needs, and the significance of green flags in relationships. The discussion also touches on the influence of family in marriage decisions and the need to redefine success beyond marital status.00:00 Introduction02:05 Radiya's Divorce Story04:21 Impact of Divorce05:53 Mistakes in the marriage06:42 Bouncing back from divorce07:25 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married09:41 Older generation v new generation11:50 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations13:38 Paradox of Choice15:35 Green Flags v Red Flags17:55 Has marriage become an option rather than a priority?21:54 Apps: Improved or damaged the marriage search?25:03 Family involvement: Advice or Control?28:05 Fear based marriages31:22 "I was good enough to talk to but not good enough to marry"33:17 The Stigma of divorce36:06 Society Perception: Divorced Men v Divorced Women37:56 When to reveal to a potential you are divorced40:12 Solutions to the marriage search46:22 Game: Red Light / Green Light47:45 Rapid Fire Round48:54 Farewell

In this episode, Imran shares his personal journey through divorce, discussing the prevalent issues within the Muslim community regarding marriage and divorce. He reflects on the causes of his divorce, the challenges of co-parenting, and the impact of divorce on personal identity. Imran emphasises the importance of community support, compassion, and empathy in navigating relationships post-divorce. He also addresses the stigma surrounding divorced individuals and the marriage crisis faced by British Muslims, advocating for the creation of safe spaces for singles to meet and connect.Also Imran launched his own podcast to share experiences and support others going through divorce. Imran’s podcast is called ‘The Divorced Muslim Dad Podcast’.00:00 Introduction02:00 Imran's Divorce Story15:12 Impact of Divorce21:26 Bouncing Back from Divorce28:56 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?41:04 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced43:33 Society Perception: Divorced Men v Divorced Women46:37 Game: Red Light / Green Light47:22 Rapid Fire Round49:53 Marriage Profile52:01 Final Thoughts