Show notes
In this episode we are joined by Brother Mizan, a Marriage Coach. Mizan has his own TikTok page – @advice.with.mizan and Instagram page – @advicewithmizan. You can also contact Mizan directly via email: [email protected] Mizan discusses the complexities of marriage counselling, the causes of divorce, and the challenges faced by individuals in the marriage search. He emphasises the importance of communication, compatibility, and the need for healing from past traumas. Mizan also addresses the role of faith in counselling, the impact of societal views on divorce, and offers practical advice for those preparing for marriage. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding oneself and setting realistic expectations in the search for a spouse.00:00 Introduction01:58 Marriage Counselling04:12 When do people need marriage coaching?05:02 What are the main causes of divorce today?06:49 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?09:23 Key Elements of a Healthy Marriage11:18 Conflict Resolution in a marriage13:10 Incorporating faith into Counselling without judgment17:10 Red Flags in a Marriage18:23 Overcoming Trauma from a Divorce/previous marriage21:31 Unhealed Trauma from unlawful relationships23:22 Can Abusers Change?28:04 How to prepare for marriage29:13 Standards vs. Unrealistic Expectations32:07 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search33:41 Family Involvement: Advice or Control?35:43 Delaying telling a potential that they are divorced37:46 Fear-Based Marriages39:44 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman40:41 Is Marriage seen as Growth or Social Validation?42:16 Green Flags vs. Red Flags42:26 Are British Muslims Emotionally unavailable but Spiritually articulate?44:30 Solutions to Finding a Spouse45:35 Game: Red Light / Green Light47:15 Rapid Fire Round48:48 How to contact Mizan49:18 Farewell