Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son, I’m Disappointed: How Fathers Can Communicate Disappointment Without Damaging Trust In this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts D Johns and Jey Blac discuss how fathers can communicate disappointment in ways that teach growth without harming a child’s identity. They open with life updates, then frame the topic around being disappointed in one’s parenting approach—especially not exposing children to enough early on and later trying to overcorrect. Using seven research-based prompts, they explore separating identity from behavior, how tone and nonverbal cues can wound, turning disappointment into a conversation instead of a verdict, aiming for growth over guilt, regulating emotions before addressing issues, offering reassurance after accountability, and focusing on what lesson a child will remember long-term. They share personal examples about sarcasm, facial expressions, escalation, consequences, and the importance of revisiting conversations to repair trust. 00:00 Exposure Both Sides 00:57 Show Intro And Hosts 01:18 Conclave Week Talk 02:42 Back To School Reset 04:18 Family Health Updates 05:11 Dear Son Im Disappointed 07:41 Separate Identity Behavior 12:43 Consequences And Accountability 00:12 Tone Speaks Loudest 22:17 Car Wash Teachable Moment 27:20 Conversation Not Verdict 32:31 Breaking Trauma Reactions 33:27 Dad Brain Fence Moment 35:56 Guilt Versus Growth 38:44 Stuck in Guilt Debate 40:47 Calm Teachable Moments 46:56 Reassurance After Accountability 51:17 Lessons Kids Remember 58:35 Closing Intentional Parenting #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Leon Brown on Fatherhood, Marriage Storms, and Breaking Generational Cycles | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with special guest Leon Brown (itsrevleon) about growing up in East Oakland raised by his praying grandmother and supported by his older brother, while navigating life without an active father. Leon shares how faith in Jesus Christ grounded him, how he now views his father with grace while still acknowledging the lack of effort, and why he’s intentional about giving his own children what he didn’t have—presence, guidance, and affection. The conversation explores learning manhood and marriage without a model, the impact of pornography and lust, marrying at 19 after sensing God’s direction, and practical marriage preparation like self-awareness, communication, and weathering storms. Leon also shares metaphors about God’s timing, and invites men to “Breaking Bread With Brothers” on August 29 in DeSoto, Texas. 00:00 Provider Pressure 01:02 Show Intro Guest 01:49 Faith Foundation 02:16 Raised By Grandma 03:50 Oakland Roots 04:48 Called From Childhood 06:31 Grandma Kept It Real 07:52 Big Brother Mentor 09:47 Absent Father Impact 12:32 Grace And Cycles 16:03 Present Dad Mission 21:12 Marriage Lessons 23:37 Porn Exposure Begins 25:05 Lust Without Guidance 27:01 Why Lust Feels Normal 28:15 Married at Nineteen 29:53 Waiting and Temptation 33:11 Preparing for Marriage 35:23 Friction and Change 37:13 Family Models and Aging Parents 40:03 Ego and Real Feedback 41:41 Provider Pressure Seasons 45:31 Enjoy the Ride 48:38 Gods Protective Delays 51:36 Where to Find Leon 53:44 Closing Blessing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnFQslW8ouuQVwdu0I1lKBQ/join Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Obligation Over Expected Entitlement | Dear Son Show In this episode of the Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss “obligation over expected entitlement,” exploring the difference between what parents are truly responsible to provide versus what children or spouses may come to expect as normal. Using a hypothetical about an 18-year-old son who leaves his dad’s house for the summer but still expects promised benefits (car, TV, clothes, college support), they examine the message parents send when accountability is rejected but rewards are still demanded. They emphasize setting clear boundaries, communicating expectations and consequences, and confirming understanding to remove excuses. The conversation also covers how projection and optics can blur needs versus wants, how expectations can damage relationships, balancing emotion with logic in parenting and business, valuing humility and input, and being mindful of leading families toward goals that may not be shared. 00:00 Parent Duty Vs Choice 01:06 Welcome And Catch Up 02:51 Life Shifts And Family 05:01 Topic Expected Entitlement 08:01 Defining Real Obligations 12:21 Gratitude And Money Optics 14:52 18 Year Old Pushback Scenario 21:58 Boundaries Accountability Contracts 25:50 When Help Includes Advice 28:37 PAP PAD PAM 30:09 Expectations Ruin Bonds 33:32 Let Kids Be Themselves 37:55 Dreams At What Cost 38:59 Logic Emotion Balance 47:20 Humility And Feedback 52:14 No Dictators At Home 54:15 Show Growth And Future #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Obedience, Isolation & Rediscovering Yourself | Corey Hughes on Faith, Fatherhood, and Healing Cory Hughes returns to The Dear Son Show to discuss rebuilding happiness and identity after divorce, loss, and seasons of uncertainty. He explains how God’s instruction to move from Dallas to Phoenix in 2023 forced isolation, self-examination, and learning not to outsource happiness, while also creating a pathway that led to his daughter receiving a scholarship to Arizona State. Corey and the host talk about waiting on God, resisting vices during crisis, and how control and distrust can shape faith and relationships. Corey shares lessons from business about accepting help, shifting from chasing money to pursuing peace and presence with family, and becoming authentic instead of performing. He outlines a vision for encouraging men to be emotionally honest and building community through future content, books, and a podcast. 00:00 Disobedience Costs 00:41 Daughter’s Door Opens 01:49 Welcome to Dear Son 02:32 Life in Arizona Heat 04:08 Why Talk About Happy 05:14 Journey to Self 07:12 Hearing God Move 09:06 Obedience Blesses Kids 12:50 Waiting Well Struggles 15:04 Cracks and Kintsugi 19:16 Don’t Waste Crisis 22:13 Ice Tray Theory 24:53 Trust and Control 27:09 Business and Delegation 29:12 Chasing the Bag 29:53 Presence Over Perfection 30:22 Trading Money for Peace 31:45 Enough Without Stuff 32:55 Buying Relationships 34:14 Titles and Identity 36:07 Deleting Instagram Reset 37:46 Authentic Not Performing 39:07 Kind Not Nice 40:13 Family Sees the Change 41:14 Surrendering to Gods Will 43:21 What Glory Looks Like 45:33 Podcast as Personal Growth 48:49 Vulnerability Goes Viral 50:39 Defining Success Impact 53:47 Accountability Podcast Promise 54:49 Where to Find Corey 55:21 Laughter and Closing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Let Them Learn… But Don’t Miss the Conversation | Episode 199 In Episode 199 of The Dear Son Show, hosts D Johns and Jey Blac reflect on how hard it is for fathers to watch their sons make decisions, especially when they ignore advice, and how parenting often means balancing guidance with letting them learn through experience. They share personal stories of being thrust into adulthood early—college detours, military-to-school transitions, dropping out, early parenthood, and reckless moments that once felt “memorable” but carried real danger—highlighting how bad choices can become normalized in groups. They discuss reading warning signs, avoiding “go along to get along” behavior, choosing friends wisely, and timing hard conversations early rather than waiting until it’s too late, while also previewing plans to celebrate Episode 200 with the audience. 00:00 Negotiating Temptation 01:01 Show Intro and Heat Talk 02:04 Son Nearing Graduation 04:14 Watching Him Choose 08:37 Rewinding to 19 09:03 D Johns College Detour 12:57 Jey Blac Army to College 16:34 Fatherhood Changed Everything 18:05 Let Them Crash or Save Them 22:26 Sharing Stories Without Glorifying 24:48 Timing and Wider Bumpers 26:55 Earn the Secret Sauce 27:49 Stay on the Bus 29:05 When Bad Choices Work 30:42 Normalized Foolery 36:58 Signs and Warnings 00:22 Choose Your Circle 44:13 Talk to Them Now 45:48 Planning Episode 200 51:48 Wrap and Goodbye #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: See It Through — The Other Shoe & The Rest of the Lesson On this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss “See It Through: The Other Shoe/The Rest of the Lesson,” focusing on the adult responsibility to teach complete, contextual life lessons. They reflect on parenting moments with their kids—like supporting a young goalie through getting scored on and repairing a negative start to family walks through accountability and apology. They explore how lessons like selflessness, hard work, and “providing” can become harmful when parents omit the other side: prioritizing health, sustaining success after achievement, planning beyond arrival, and developing character alongside expertise. The conversation also emphasizes guidance and structure in parenting, warning against letting underdeveloped children make major life decisions without qualified adult input, and encourages revisiting the “why” behind goals. They close with updates on reaching 200 episodes, plans to go live, an “Unhinged” episode in July, and merch availability at thedearsonspodcast.com. 00:00 Provider Mentality Trap 00:57 Welcome to Dear Son 01:33 Summer Updates and Kids Sports 04:31 Anniversary and Episode Setup 06:10 See It Through as a Parent 09:25 The Other Shoe Explained 10:54 Learn What You Disagree With 15:50 Selflessness vs Self Care 21:35 Post Achievement Stewardship 25:21 Beyond Me Mentors and Character 28:41 Big Picture Pace and Purpose 32:30 Passion Versus Status 33:25 First In The Family Pressure 35:10 Parenting Needs Guardrails 43:17 Teaching Context And Consequences 47:43 Tools Over Answers 49:21 Right Turns Lesson 51:42 Chasing Episode 200 55:17 Unhinged And Q3 Push 58:04 Merch And Wrap Up #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Coach Bell on Faith, Shame, and Winning Your Family Back | Dear Son Show In this episode of The Dear Son Show, D Johns welcomes Coach Bear for a candid conversation about fatherhood, faith, and the hidden cost of wearing a “mask” of stoicism that works at work but fails at home. Coach Bell shares how he went from calling himself a marriage recovery coach to a truth teller who helps people confront hard realities, including infidelity and betrayal. He describes running from God after growing up as a pastor’s kid, wrestling with pride and disobedience, and eventually quitting his job to follow what he felt God was calling him to do. They discuss the pressure of reconciliation, the difference between shame and conviction, why you can’t earn grace, and how healing still carries consequences—especially when children ask painful questions. Coach Bell also reflects on his wife’s character, his father’s impact, and why he continues publicly sharing his story as an act of obedience. 00:00 Stoic Mask at Home 01:07 Welcome to Dear Son 02:44 Grateful Yet Heavy 06:00 No Highs No Lows 08:05 Where Im From 08:51 Dads Impact Legacy 12:53 Coaching and Calling 19:06 Running From God 22:46 Work Success as Vice 24:23 Winning Family Back 26:05 Rebuilding Through Faith 27:14 Do It For You 29:19 Reentry Pressure After Betrayal 30:52 Grace Over Shame 33:31 Noticing Real Change 35:18 Her Strength And Character 38:32 Rock Bottom In Separation 40:54 Fears For The Kids 43:38 Parenting With Transparency 45:42 Public Story And Backlash 49:23 Why It Is Worth It 53:32 Presenting A Loving God 54:39 Where To Find Him 55:16 Final Blessing And Sendoff #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Coach Bear: https://instagram.com/officialcoachbear Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Men’s Mental Health, Fatherhood & Capacity: Dr. Jason Phillips on Therapy, Burnout, and Being Present On The Dear Son Show, D Johns talks with Dr. Jason Phillips, a licensed therapist and confidence coach, about men’s mental health, fatherhood, and learning to assess personal capacity. Phillips shares how corporate talks during Mental Health Month lead men to seek support, why therapists also need therapy, and how grief and major losses forced him to slow down and care for himself. They discuss the provider mindset, saying no to “raggedy yeses,” balancing career and family, and how parenting choices may not be understood until children reach their 20s. Phillips reflects on his own parents’ roles, emphasizes prioritizing family in real life and calendars, and encourages men to acknowledge struggles, take accountability, and take action while asking for help when needed. 00:00 Parenting For The Future 01:03 Show Intro And Apology 03:06 Meet Dr Jason Phillips 04:04 Mens Mental Health Month 06:32 Fatherhood And Self Care 08:45 Grief On Holidays 10:26 Why He Became A Therapist 14:37 Capacity And Saying No 22:55 Work Ethic Versus Family 27:07 Discipline And Dad Style 31:45 Therapists Need Therapy 39:03 Success Scripts And Identity 43:45 Raising Kids Without Pressure 45:32 Encouragement And Where To Find Him 46:58 Projects And Closing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Jason: https://instagram.com/drjasonphillips Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Love + Kindness: The Two Ingredients That Saved My Marriage | Dear Son Show (Patrick Murphy) On this Father’s Day episode of The Dear Son Show, D Johns welcomes Patrick Murphy from Florida to discuss fatherhood, peace, and relationships. Patrick shares growing up in the Bay Area with nine siblings, learning entrepreneurship from his father, and being shaped by his parents’ divorce and contrasting parenting styles. He describes how his first 27-year marriage ended in divorce, leaving him bitter and searching for answers, which led him to study relationships and help teach a divorce and separation care ministry at One Community Church. In his second marriage, frequent divorce talks shifted after a spiritual warning and a series of “ice cream dates” focused on sharing childhood stories instead of issues, helping them heal. Patrick argues that relationships need both love and kindness, warns against weaponizing vulnerability, and says this approach brought peace at home and years without arguments. 00:00 Guarded Love Mindset 00:26 Kindness Keeps Love Alive 01:27 Welcome to Dear Son 02:55 Building a Peace System 04:36 Corporate vs Family Costs 07:02 Life Escalator and Overwhelm 09:52 Hiding Burdens in Marriage 11:03 Roots in the Bay 13:09 Nine Siblings and Dad Hustle 15:02 Parenting Styles and Lessons 18:35 Parents Divorce Impact 21:52 Breaking the Divorce Cycle 23:33 Divorce Ministry Insights 26:05 Nail in Tire Relationship Radar 28:27 Anti Divorce and Second Marriage 30:38 Ice Cream Date Reset 31:35 Healing The Inner Kids 33:01 Love And Kindness Formula 35:11 Why Counseling Can Backfire 36:54 No Arguments By Design 40:35 Kindness Beats Attitude 44:48 Peace At Home Changes Men 49:46 Hats And Lost Identity 52:48 Helpmeet And Safe Space 56:48 Stop Fixing Start Loving 58:59 Daily Practices To Stay Close 01:01:16 Customer Service Marriage Mindset 01:02:21 Book Plug And Farewell #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk #marriagecounseling Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Patrick: https://instagram.com/theconflictsoflife Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Read the Room: Awareness, Tact, and Raising Kids Into Adulthood Hosts D Johns and Jey Blac of the Dear Son Show discuss “reading the room” as a key life skill for kids and adults—balancing individuality with tact, context, and awareness of consequences. They talk about observing who children become around friends, resisting “go along to get along” behavior, and understanding how intent doesn’t erase harm when words land offensively. The conversation also covers parenting older teens and young adults: checking in often, being approachable, not dismissing “kid-like” gaps at 19–20, and helping kids pivot through phases without forcing a parent’s timeline. In dating, they stress consent: a yes can turn to no, and “no” (including hesitation) means stop. Follow the channel and leave a review to support more conversations like this. 00:00 No Means No 00:55 Welcome to Dear Son 01:28 Merch and Community Fuel 03:35 Read the Room Theme 04:35 Be Yourself With Limits 06:04 Parenting Individuality 07:11 Bishop the Brain Example 10:29 Corporate Code Switching 13:34 Peer Pressure and Yes Men 16:06 Context Tact and Access 22:14 Friends Choices and Consequences 26:36 Observe the Friend Group 27:40 Know Your Childs Role 28:42 Confidence Versus Ego 29:38 Spotting Behavior Extremes 30:35 Check In With Your Kids 32:52 Approachable Parent Energy 34:53 Dating And Consent 38:24 Why Are You Dating 40:14 Theyre Not Kids 44:38 Adult Child Still Yours 47:08 Scariest Parenting Fears 51:19 Closing Gratitude And Episode 200 54:07 DFW Pull Up Invite 56:40 Final Sign Off #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy