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Some couples don’t get stuck because they don’t love each other, they get stuck because their nervous systems keep pulling them into the same protective dance. Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack their own cycle in real time: avoidance and “giving space” on one side, protest and pursuit on the other, and how quickly it can turn into defensiveness, shutdown, and disconnection. The shift isn’t about “better communication” as much as recognizing what’s happening underneath the words, the body cues, the old stories, and the threat response that takes over when the person in front of you matters most.They also name the part that changes everything: it’s not you vs. your partner, it’s both of you vs. the cycle. When you can externalize the pattern, pause it (“we’re doing the thing”), and come back to repair instead of disappearing, the intensity starts to drop. Small moves matter: naming what’s happening, making eye contact, asking directly for what you need (even something as simple as a hug), and returning after a timeout so the conversation doesn’t become another abandonment wound.📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEBe Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you.🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER?One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you.Read the book: You, Your Husband, and His MotherNot sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here.Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 QuestionsWant your questions answered on the show? Submit them here! Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACYSubscribe to You Tube Follow on Instagram Follow on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
