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Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want.Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples.Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! You, Your Husband, and His MotherRESOURCES:Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here! Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it hereReady to deepen your connection? Download my 100 QuestionsBuild better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us ChallengeLINKS:Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/TracyKiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.ComBetter Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACYQuince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACYBranch Basics: Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter KitVionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.comLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices