What is one simple way to reduce irritation and conflict in your relationship that ACTUALLY works!

I talk to my biz bestie and psychologist Dr. Maelisa Hall about how ADHD impacts running a business and relationship.  https://www.mybizbestie.com/

I'm sure you have heard the saying, relationships take hard work and that is true, but what can be difficult is being intentional in your relationship consistently. When we're really stressed out or going through things or even when we're in a good place and we just kind of become complacent, I think that's where the hard work comes in. Three ways to be intentional in how you connect to and show up for your partner Checking In Really listening Love languages Free Love Languages Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/   For more information about Amber Hawley or how to work with her visit: http://amberhawley.com/

We're going to talk all about connection and the state of your relationship. There are a lot of times that people will come in with what I call roommates syndrome and I see people who are either good roommates or bad roommates. What I mean by this is couples who pretty much only talk about logistics that may be getting their kids to their practices or appointments or for their pets or for their family outings or whatever it is. It's it's very logistical oriented and there's hardly any real emotional connection and talk. Obviously we have to talk about the practicalities of life but if that's all people are connecting on, that's a problem. Good Roommates vs Bad Roommates Good roommates are like good friends. They talk easily about all kinds of stuff and they have a positive feeling, but there really isn't any or very little intimacy in the relationship. Bad roommates only connect or talk about logistical stuff, but everything feels very adversarial. There is a spectrum of course, there are bad roommates who are just occasionally really bad and there are some where it's really toxic. There may be periods where they feel okay in the relationship, but when they have a conflict it deteriorates quickly. They can't talk about anything without fighting about it. There's weekly, if not daily conflict and they are definitely don't feel like they have each other's back, that's for sure. We talk about how to rekindle that connection.

I am so excited that you're joining me today as we get into this first episode! I'm Amber Hawley, your host and licensed marriage and family therapist. I have been working with therapy clients for the last 12 years and I own a group practice in silicon valley where I specialize in couples.  So a little bit more about me. I have been with my husband for 21 years  and I have three beautiful children under the age of eight. So basically I completely understand what it means to be stretched thin and, and why sometimes we need to get creative in how we make our relationship a priority. In the podcast we will talk about communication, connection, having more fulfilling sex lives, infidelity, disconnection after having children, trauma, infertility, and how to make the choices to support the life and relationships you want. So you might be asking yourself what is a high achieving couple? What I'm seeing in my practice is that one or both of the people own their own business or they are a startup or corporate executive or they are people who have really high demand jobs. What I want people to take away from the podcast is how can we make each other feel like a priority in our relationship without sacrificing the dreams we have for ourself, our business or our careers.