We're going to talk all about connection and the state of your relationship. There are a lot of times that people will come in with what I call roommates syndrome and I see people who are either good roommates or bad roommates. What I mean by this is couples who pretty much only talk about logistics that may be getting their kids to their practices or appointments or for their pets or for their family outings or whatever it is. It's it's very logistical oriented and there's hardly any real emotional connection and talk. Obviously we have to talk about the practicalities of life but if that's all people are connecting on, that's a problem.

Good Roommates vs Bad Roommates

Good roommates are like good friends. They talk easily about all kinds of stuff and they have a positive feeling, but there really isn't any or very little intimacy in the relationship.

Bad roommates only connect or talk about logistical stuff, but everything feels very adversarial. There is a spectrum of course, there are bad roommates who are just occasionally really bad and there are some where it's really toxic. There may be periods where they feel okay in the relationship, but when they have a conflict it deteriorates quickly. They can't talk about anything without fighting about it. There's weekly, if not daily conflict and they are definitely don't feel like they have each other's back, that's for sure.

We talk about how to rekindle that connection.