Call Me When You Get This
Call Me When You Get This
Alexis Rockley
Trying to figure out how to really, regularly, actually LIKE being alive? Welcome to the club. I’m Alexis Rockley: a positive psychology coach, author + human pep talk. I leave "voicemails" designed to remind you why you why you don’t suck (& why the world is not a raging dumpster fire, 100% of the time), interviewing experts on the important stuff no one taught us in school—finances, mental health, purpose in career—translating the hard science of happiness for anyone who speaks emoji. I leave voicemails to help you figure out how to like being alive, so...call me when u get this?
23. Gut Health & Mental Health w/ Integrative Nutritionist, MS, CS, RD, Miriam Jacobson
Ooooo, very-special-episode-alert!  Today’s guest expert human is Miriam Jacobson (She/Her), an integrative nutritionist who uses functional medicine to help people resolve underlying reasons for their 'mystery symptoms' like indigestion, bloating, bowel abnormalities, fatigue, low energy levels and irritability.  [Don’t know what “integrative nutritionist” or “functional medicine” mean? Don’t worry, neither did I…we cover it in this episode!] She's smart, dedicated (aka 2 degrees! 3 certifications!) and easy to talk to (has a v. California millennial sound) and SO helpful.  Across a mildly-decent-internet connection, we cover: why gut health affects our mental health, alien invaders in our digestive system, probiotics vs prebiotics, accidentally suggestive 90’s kids toys called “water snakes,” the dirty dozen and clean 15, science’s verdict on food trends like cutting calories, juicing, and gluten-free everything; the best diets for people prone to depression or anxiety, are carbs bad??, WTF is keto?, and every rapid fire question y’all could think of. Here's that special link for Miriam's Food Foundations online course! ____________________ So, call me when you get this?  No really—leave me a voicemail with your feedback and questions, and I'll call you back: 510) 394-2104. 
Mar 28, 2020
1 hr 13 min
22. Your fav psychology nerd FOUND SOMETHING 4 U!
Are you mildly stressed? On Quarantine Lite™️? Tired of people giving you advice on social media? ME TOO! I did some nerd-digging and found 30+ scientific studies with ONE, EASY mental health strategy that, drumroll plz...  Improved study subject's:  happiness. life satisfaction. mood. ability to sleep. interest in exercise. well-being.  AND reduced symptoms of anxiety + depression?!  Oh and it’s FREE, and anyone of any ability can do it. Also—I do a very weird thing in a car. Listen to find out what both (the science thing and the weird thing) are. 👋 ____________________________________ EPISODE 22 SHOW NOTES ***Join our FREE, social-off-social-media  "How to Like Being Alive" club / slack group HERE.***  A few studies I directly reference in this episode:  Efficacy of an internet and app-based gratitude intervention in reducing repetitive negative thinking and mechanisms of change in the intervention's effect on anxiety and depression: Results from a randomized controlled trial The effect of positive psychology interventions on well-being and distress in clinical samples with psychiatric or somatic disorders: a systematic review and meta-analysis Effects of gratitude meditation on neural network functional connectivity and brain-heart coupling Positive Psychology and Gratitude Interventions: A Randomized Clinical Trial Gratitude & Well Being: the benefits of appreciation ____________________________________ So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com _____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ PS - Did you know I'm a psychology-certified Career Coach + Biz Mentor for people who don't believe in careers—or coaching? Surprise! Check out what I do HERE. 
Mar 21, 2020
17 min
21. Having a lowkey existential crisis? Here's why & what to do about it.
Is mercury in gatorade? Why did I seriously consider learning that viral (omg pun inception) coronavirus dance on TikTok? Why am I so irritable? Why am I reevaluating every single one of my life choices right now? It’s not you, it’s your brain on stress—and a very special kind of socially-triggered stress. In this 15 min voicemail, I breakdown the science behind: >> Why you’re suddenly itching for change, irritated, and questioning all your life / career choices >> What’s happening in your brain and how it’s tied to the 24/7 negative news cycle >> What to do if you’re melting down inside or overwhelmed (but trying to play it cool) >> Examples of healthy + unhealthy ways of handling this stress (hey thx psychology research!) While I wait for you to have a long enough work break to listen to this thing, tell me flavor of life meltdown you’re having this week’s—either leave me a voicemail at 510) 394-2104—or drop me a DM/comment on Instagram @alexisrockley. [P.S. My meltdown included hating my closet, fantasizing about relocating, beating myself up over productivity, and falling asleep at 7:30pm two nights this week. Nobody's perfect, but we're in this together!] So…Call me when you get this? _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you're listening to this – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold—hardcover, audiobook (I'm the narrator!) and e-book, too.  But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there. You don't need more generic, good vibe-y (but totally un-researched) advice from self-proclaimed "experts" telling you to "pursue your passion," "learn to prioritize," or "practice self-care." You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading. In other words: Me. I can help. Did you know I'm a Career Coach + Biz Mentor for people who don't believe in careers—or coaching? Surprise!  “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Mar 11, 2020
19 min
20. Don't make the mistake of setting goals in THIS mental state (PLUS: 3 steps to bouncing back from a creative block + sh*tty mood)
Woooah boy, did I have a Britney-circa-2007 kind of meltdown this week! When my mild creative block became a dark + twisty mood and then spiraled into intense self-loathing, I did a few things right to get out of that mess—and a few things wrong, too.  And now? I'm going to save you from making those mistakes...and the depths of the self-loathing pit.  In this episode, I walk you through 3 easy steps to bouncing back from creative block, PLUS breakdown why we should NEVER try to set goals in one particular set of circumstances and mindset—no matter what time of year it is. [Honestly, can everyone stop reminding us that we're about to kick off a new decade? I'm sweating under the pressure.]  Oh, also—coffee, Brian McKnight lays down the rules, and almost shattering my phone almost shatters your eardrum. My bad.  So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there. You don't need more generic, good vibe-y (but totally un-researched) advice from self-proclaimed "experts" telling you to "pursue your passion," "learn to prioritize," or "practice self-care." You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading. In other words: Me. I can help. Did you know I'm a Career Coach for people who don't believe in careers—or coaching? Surprise!  “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Dec 5, 2019
26 min
19. Nothing to sell—just an "I love you"
Not sure when you'll get this, but...it's a holiday week in the U.S. and we're about to be bombarded with marketing emails, gimmicky commercials, and pitch-heavy people telling us time is running out to buy, buy, buy.  I have none of that to say.  No Black Friday deals, no ticking clock promos, no special discounts, no sales pitch: just a love note.  If you have 2:42 seconds to spare and could use some sunshine in your earholes, this voicemail is for you.  TL;DR: I F***ING LOVE YOU AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT  So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com
Nov 27, 2019
2 min
18. Feeling Stuck? Change the subject for your brain.
Hi! Two things:  1) You know what Tuesday needs? A pep talk. Mondays are rough, sure—but we've psyched ourselves up for it. Tuesdays, however, sneak right up and smack you in the face with their Tuesday-ness. Everyone could use a Tuesday pick-me-up, and since I can't come to your place of work and bring you an actual coffee, I figured I could leave you a quick voicemail instead. So if you aren't subscribed, jump on it—cuz I know you could use the sunshine in your ear-holes, and especially on Tuesdays.  2) You know what your brain needs? A change of subject. Especially if you're feeling stuck. Listen in (it's only 7 min) to find out why changing your scenery and focus can mean the difference between getting shit done and smacking your head against your computer keyboard.  So…Call me when you get this?  No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold.  But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there.  You don't need more generic, good vibe-y (but totally un-researched) advice from self-proclaimed "experts" telling you to "pursue your passion," "learn to prioritize," or "practice self-care." You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading.  In other words: Me. I can help.  Did you know I'm a Career Coach for people who don't believe in careers—or coaching? Surprise!  “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Nov 19, 2019
7 min
17. Hi, So. . .You're a Plant (Vitamin D)
I'm back with more on that whole "your brain is a body" thing—and this time I'm calling you from a folding chair perched in the sliver of sunlight behind my building. Today's important takeaway? Your physical health affects your mental health—and you need Vitamin D to be healthy.  In this quick (15 min) episode, we cover why Vitamin D is NOT a late night infomercial sketchy supplement, why you're probably deficient in it and why every cell in your body needs it, how to "get that D" (I've been waiting years to say use that as a pun), WHY you're a plant, and a lot more.  Oh, also: The racist research done on sunscreen; how do you know a supplement is legitimate?; me clearing my throat; Bootylicious.  So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com _____________________________________ SHOW NOTES Academic Sources + Articles from this Episode:  "A Statistical Error in the Estimation of the Recommended Dietary Allowance for Vitamin D" "An estimate of the global reduction in mortality rates through doubling vitamin D levels." "Sunlight and Vitamin D: Necessary for Public Health" "Psychological Consequences of Vitamin D Deficiency: Vitamin D supplementation may help alleviate depression." "Vitamin D and your health: Breaking old rules, raising new hopes" "What is the difference between UVA and UVB rays?" "Short exposure to light treatment improves depression scores in patients with seasonal affective disorder: A brief report" Sunscreen + Dermatology recommendations for Folx of Color:  http://skinofcolorsociety.org/ Bolden Sunscreen  Black Girl Sunscreen  "The Best Sunscreens for Dark Skin Tones That Won't Leave White Streaks"
Oct 29, 2019
16 min
16. Drink Some Water, You Beautiful + Capable but Dehydrated B*tch
Sure, we're getting better at talking about our mental health with each other, especially on social media—but this new, constant focus on "how do I feel?" makes it easy to forget that the Brain we rely on to make our choices, plan our days and create our moods *is* a Body.  On today's twice-recorded voicemail (long story) we discuss why your weird mood likely isn't about poor life choices (honestly, stop being so hard on yourself!) but it *might* mean you're dehydrated.  YEP—did you know that even mild dehydration can mess with your mental health? Today we cover: The physical AND mental signs of dehydration; Does drinking water make your skin as dewey as a glossier ad, or...?; Do I need to stop drinking caffeine? Because if so, NOT HAPPENING; and, finally, the surprising difference between tiredness, fatigue, and exhaustion. Cuz' they're different. Also: Me, hungover, whispering in your ear from the safety of my warm bed—and a demand that you choose your side for the La Croix pronunciation battle.  So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. _____________________________________ If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there. You don't need more generic, good vibe-y (but totally un-researched) advice from self-proclaimed "experts" telling you to "pursue your passion," "learn to prioritize," or "practice self-care." You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading. In other words: Me. I can help. Did you know I'm a Career Coach for people who don't believe in careers—or coaching? Surprise!  “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Oct 14, 2019
15 min
15. We're Back! (Also, you have more than one brain and they rarely agree.)
Oh haaaaaayyyyyyyyyy, we're back! ("Wait, you went somewhere?") Yep. Apple Podcasts accidentally banned CMWYGT for 2+ months because their system thought we didn't warn anyone that I occasionally curse like a sailor, even though we did. Thanks to some dedicated customer service reps at Apple and Anchor and a lot of expletive tags, we're back!  During the past few months where I metaphorically I lost your number: My hardcover and audiobook (Find Your F*ckyeah) officially launched! Thanks Chronicle Prism, ILY. You can learn bout it + order it HERE.  I went on a CA book tour! Laguna Beach! Alameda! The SF mother-heckin' Ferry Bldg! STANFORD UNIVERSITY!  I got to meet many of you, make crying faces and hash out our deepest life questions...  And this episode answers a question that you've asked at all four of my book tour stops so far: "What's the number-one craziest science-thing you learned about happiness/purpose while researching for your book?"  Great question, my loves. The answer: You and I have more than one brain, and they rarely agree. (@ 5 min 50 sec) In this episode I breakdown what that means 👆 and do my best Levar-Burton-Reading-Rainbow impression by narrating a quick excerpt from Chapter 1 in Find Your F*ckyeah about our dueling brains, because...I love you.  Also: scalding hot coffee, mouse-fart Birkenstock sandals and exciting news about upcoming episodes.  So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, rate (with all the stars), or leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there. You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading. “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Oct 2, 2019
22 min
14. How to Deal with Overwhelm [listener question!]
Oh hey there. Pre-coffee Alexis here, inserting herself into your life and voice-mailbox to talk in a gravely voice about overwhelm—thanks to a brilliant listener question from @toandfrofam.  When we're making moves in our lives and work, learning new stuff, taking risks—how do we keep from getting overwhelmed or paralyzed from all the new information? I had a hunch science would be able to help us answer this, and boy did science come through for us! In this episode I break down the three kinds of overwhelm that love to punch us in the guts during times of change (brain glitch, "I suck at life," and choice paralysis ) and the three best ways to handle it, prevent it, and cancel it—according to science.  Also: the Spider Bro story; the shame of morning bootcamp exercisers; keep those balls in the air.   So…Call me when you get this? No really, call me! 510) 394-2104. Leave a voicemail with your love notes, feedback, and questions for me to research, and I’ll be sure to call you back. P.S. You can FINALLY preorder my book, Find Your F yeah, RIGHT HERE! And you should know, ONLY that link has the epic bonus bundle (bonuses so good my publisher wasn’t even sure I should give all them away)—one of which is a personalized video DM pep talk from yours truly. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, or rate (with all the stars), or leave a mushy review wherever you listen to podcasts – so I can “call” more humans with my trademarked brand of aggressive kindness. And if you’ve already done one of those things, THANK YOU! Song Credit: “Semicircle Song” by The Go! Team Let’s be friends. DM me on Instagram: @alexisrockley  Looking for a transcript of this podcast episode? Shoot me an email: alexis@alexisrockley.com ____________________________________ Need self-help career advice actually based in science? Check out my book-baby, Find Your F*ckyeah: Stop Censoring Who You Are and Discover What You Really Want, anywhere books are sold. But also, here: www.findyourfyeah.com ____________________________________ Got an epic idea, but feeling stuck? Maybe you want to pivot careers, launch a business, start a non-profit, quit life and travel the world...but have NO idea how you'll find the money, time, support, or resources to make this thing happen? I get it—and I've been there. You're not lazy, distracted, or lost. You just need help getting out of your own way. You need goal-setting strategies rooted in psychology, accountability, and aggressive cheerleading. “Get Out of Your Own Way” is a 6-month, 1:1 mentorship program for motivated creatives who are ready to stop hesitating and start making their big, crazy, impossible goals into reality. NOTE: Bi-annual spots are limited, so apply now! 
Aug 26, 2019
20 min
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