Joe called in from Spain. She's 48, dating younger men, and she's noticed a pattern."I thought it was me. I thought it was a desirability thing, and I took it personally."She isn't the problem.We get into whether erectile dysfunction is an age thing, what's actually going on mechanically, why an erection can be an early warning sign for your heart, condoms, SSRIs, sleep, booze, nicotine, exercise, and the stuff that actually helps versus the stuff the internet sells you.I also talk about my own libido, or lack thereof!What should women understand about men and their bodies? And what's the kindest possible way to bring it up without it landing as shame?Here's the short version: If you're a man and this is happening, it's your job to raise it. Stop making her do it.It was never about the erection. It's about what happens when someone tries to talk to you about it. Do you shut down, get defensive, retaliate? Or can you say, "Thank you for telling me. I don't know how to talk about this, and I want to try"?Only about 15% of my audience is men, so the guy who needs this probably isn't going to find it on his own. Send it to him. Your partner, your brother, your friend.Mentioned in this episodeWant to go deeper? My full conversation with sex and relationship coach Laura Ramadei on performance anxiety, porn, and erectile dysfunction is on my Substack.Listen to the full conversation here:https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/replay-porn-addiction-and-ed-withGot a question?Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559, and I might play it on the show!Or submit your question here:https://thelovedrive.com/ask/Follow & subscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.Connect with meRead my blog:https://shaungalanos.substack.com/The Love Drive Podcast:https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: @thelovedrivehttps://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More about me:https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

I don't think heartbreak is something we get over. It's something we move through. This episode is built around your questions: "I've cried in public more than once; should I just stay home?" (Fuck no.) "How do I stop ruminating when all my coping skills are gone?" And the comment that hit closest to home: "I really want to be chosen."I discuss inviting your feelings in for tea and then putting a limit on them, why the person who hurt you can't be the person who heals you, playing the tape forward, why we keep wanting to be chosen by the exact people who can't choose us, and the friendship test for exes."God breaks the heart again and again and again until it stays open." – Hazrat Inayat KhanLinks:Living with a broken hearthttps://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/living-with-a-broken-heart?utm_source=publication-searchCan you really be friends with your ex?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j7bGPBULarECoaching with mehttps://thelovedrive.com/coachingConnect with me:Read my bloghttps://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcasthttps://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaunhttps://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffeehttps://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

I’m back with new episodes, and I’m really happy to be here. The house isn’t ready yet, but I’m feeling better and I have a lot to share with you.Today, I’m letting you in on a little of that life and answering your questions about ghosting, dental dams, trying new things in bed, and being curious about dating women. And if you’ve ever wondered how I decide what to share with you, there’s a lot you don’t hear and a reason I wait.Leave a Listener Question📞 415-494-9559 📧 ⁠[email protected]⁠Follow & SubscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.Connect with me⁠Read the blog⁠⁠The Love Drive Podcast⁠⁠Instagram: @thelovedrive⁠⁠More about Shaun⁠⁠Buy me a coffee⁠

In this 2019 replay, I tell the story of my first real sex party and then the woman I met that night joins me to share her side.It’s explicit, funny, tender, and ultimately a story about attraction, assumptions, communication, and finding the courage to say what you want.New episodes return in October.Have a question for the podcast?Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559Submit your question at thelovedrive.com/askFollow & SubscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.Connect with me⁠Read the blog⁠⁠The Love Drive Podcast⁠⁠Instagram: @thelovedrive⁠⁠More about Shaun⁠⁠Buy me a coffee⁠

(Replay from 2020)What happens when one person wants sex more often than the other?In this conversation with sex educator Kai Werder, we talk about mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, how to talk about sex without pressure, and why intimacy doesn’t always have to lead to sex.We also get into scheduling play, creating the conditions for desire, and the three-part invite—one of my favorite ways to ask for what you want while making room for a no.New episodes of The Love Drive return in October.Got a question for the October Q&As?https://thelovedrive.com/ask/Further readingCome Together - Emily NagoskiCome As You Are - Emily NagoskiMating in Captivity - Esther PerelAlso mentionedAuthentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison Ash — this is where I learned the three-part invite.Listen to Authentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison AshFollow & SubscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.Connect with meRead the blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More about me: https://shaungalanos.com/about/

I'm sharing some of my favorite episodes throughout September, and this replay is a peek into a part of my life I don't talk about very often: my time giving erotic massage to women in San Francisco. A friend asks me how it started, what actually happened in those sessions, and what it eventually cost me. About a third of my clients cried on the table. Most of them weren't starved for sex. They were touch-starved, and I don't think that's changed much. We talk about touch, trust, and what can happen when you let yourself receive without giving anything back. There's a turn about halfway through. I'm not going to spoil it. This is a replay from 2019. New episodes return in October. Got something you want me to answer in a future Q&A? Leave it at https://thelovedrive.com/ask/ Mentions: Aphrodite's Daughters Book Follow & SubscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.Connect with me⁠Read the blog⁠⁠The Love Drive Podcast⁠⁠Instagram: @thelovedrive⁠⁠More about Shaun⁠⁠Buy me a coffee⁠

I’ve missed being here. The last month has taken me somewhere I wasn’t quite expecting, and I wanted to check in and tell you a little about where I’ve been.This week is a little life update on what I’ve been building, why I’m giving myself a little more time before coming back with new episodes, and what this season of my life is starting to look like.I’m also sharing what’s next for The Love Drive - and why I’m more excited than ever about where this podcast is headed.For now, consider this a little update from me before we get into three of my favorite episodes from the Love Drive archives.Connect with Shaun: Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

On July 13th, I lost one of my dear friends. Josh Kalven was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer in March and died four months later. He was a husband, a dad to a five-year-old, and a sweet friend.This episode is a eulogy. I read Josh the letter I wrote him in June, back when we still thought he'd beat it. It's full of stuck ropes, bad slab, his famous hummus sandwich, and everything he taught me about climbing and friendship. And I talk about grief. What losing my dad, my dog, and now Josh has taught me. How devastating it is, and, if you can find it, how beautiful.Grief is unexpressed love. Maybe. It's also expressed love.If there's someone you love who doesn't know it, and an email you've been meaning to send, let this be your invitation to send it.I'm taking August off to move into the new place and rest, so this is the last episode until September. If it touches you, share it with someone who needs it. And I'd love to hear from you. Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559 or an email at [email protected]. Take good care of yourself and the people you love.Connect with Shaun:Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

The manosphere thinks going down on a woman is gay, submissive, or a low-return waste of time. It's wrong on all three — so I brought in an expert to help me prove it.In this crossover episode — Shameless Love — I sit down with sex educator Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex podcast for an honest, explicit, and useful guide to going down on women. We take apart the manosphere nonsense, then get practical: how to get out of your head as a receiver, real anatomy (yes, Amy brought a vulva puppet), hygiene without the shame, communication that actually works, and my field-tested tips for being great at this — plus a rapid-fire hot-or-not round to finish.Ten years ago I wrote a blog called What Women Wish You Knew About Eating Pussy. Consider this the 2.0.Explicit. Headphones recommended.Mentioned in this episodeShe Comes First — Ian KernerEmily Nagoski ("same parts, organized differently")Dan SavageMidori — the "pussy hug"Feeld (dating app) · Uberlube Amy's book, Shameless Sex What women wished you knew about eating pussy blog postLinksShameless Sex: podcast + shamelesssex.com (couples retreats, Oct 2026)Connect with ShaunRead the blogThe Love Drive PodcastInstagram: @thelovedriveMore about ShaunBuy me a coffee

A listener asks whether to move back to somewhere familiar or take a leap somewhere new. Shaun uses the question to explore something bigger: how do you make peace with a life you can't predict?In this episode: finding community after a move, the "third space" concept, why it took two years to find his people in Montreal, what Flagstaff taught him, and why every choice — city, relationship, kids, career — requires you to grieve the road not taken.Books mentioned:The Untethered Soul — Michael SingerMeditations for Mortals — Oliver BurkemamWork with MeI have room for 3 new coaching clients. If this episode resonated — this is exactly the work we can do together.shaungalanos.com/coaching or https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/love-and-relationship-mentorshipLeave a Listener Question📞 415-494-9559 📧 [email protected] with meRead the blogThe Love Drive PodcastInstagram: @thelovedriveMore about ShaunBuy me a coffeeFollow & SubscribeIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast.