With That Being Said
With That Being Said
Esther Boykin
Join Esther Boykin and Erica Turner, two licensed marriage & family therapists who run Therapy is Not a Dirty Word- a collection of workshops, retreats, happy hours, and other awesome ways to bring people and therapists together in real life. We bring professional expertise into beautiful, fun, and inspiring settings to make the wisdom of therapy more accessible to everyone. With that being said… let’s start the podcast! |Psst... podcasts aren't therapy. Please consult a health professional in person for real life help as needed|
It's Always You... Even When It's Them
In this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica share about the importance of setting AND communicating your boundaries with others. No relationship is without boundaries, so Esther and Erica discuss how you can communicate your boundaries even when it's difficult, and why they believe boundaries are actually necessary to form meaningful connections.  If you enjoy "With That Being Said" and want more of Esther and Erica, check out their Instagram Live Show "Live with E+E" on Tuesday's at 12 PM EST. You can find E+E on both Esther and Erica's Instagrams (linked below). Esther's Instagram: @estherbmft Erica's Instagram: @rosewatertherapy Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word's Instagram: @therapyisnotadirtyword If you have ideas for future episodes, or comments on the show, feel free to reach out to Esther and/or Erica on Instagram or at podcast@therapyisnotadirtyword.com. Thanks for listening!
Jan 28, 2020
46 min
Episode with James Bland
In this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica talk with special guest James Bland! James is a content creator, film maker, actor, writer, producer, and director. He is the creator, show runner and star of the award winning digital drama, Giants. Esther, Erica and James discuss the stigma around mental health, especially in communities of color, and how James is using his platform in Hollywood to help end it. They also discuss the truth about what mental illness looks like, the importance of being real, and (of course!) Esther and Erica ask James about his experience at the Emmy's! You can find James on Instagram and Twitter: @jrbland You can watch Giants on Issa Rae's Youtube Channel here, or on Cleo TV. You can find Giants on Instagram and Twitter: @giantstheseries Or visit Giant's website here.  If you enjoy "With That Being Said" and want more of Esther and Erica, check out their Instagram Live Show "Live with E+E" on Tuesday's at 12 PM EST. You can find E+E on both Esther and Erica's Instagrams (linked below). Esther's Instagram: @estherbmft Erica's Instagram: @rosewatertherapy Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word's Instagram: @therapyisnotadirtyword Links mentioned in the episode: Therapy is Not a Dirty Word Happy Hour Events
Jan 14, 2020
36 min
How Long is this Gonna Take?!
In this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica discuss how to set realistic expectations for therapy and answer the frequently asked question from clients - "How long is this going to take?" (spoiler: you probably won't like the answer). Esther and Erica also share how things like doing the work between sessions, consistency, and being honest with your therapist can really help move the process along! If you enjoy "With That Being Said" and want more of Esther and Erica, check out their Instagram Live Show "Live with E+E" on Tuesday's at 12 PM EST. You can find E+E on both Esther and Erica's Instagrams (linked below). Esther's Instagram: @estherbmft Erica's Instagram: @rosewatertherapy Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word's Instagram: @therapyisnotadirtyword Links mentioned in the episode: Esther's Book: How's Your Heart  
Dec 17, 2019
1 hr 5 min
Technology Won't Save You
On this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica discuss the times when technology is actually getting in the way of our relationships with others. Don't worry, this isn't like a lecture from your mom about how your cellphone is going to kill you. Esther and Erica take the stance that in general technology can assist relationships, but the problem is when technology is used to avoid all awkward and uncomfortable conversations. With more and more people struggling with feeling lonely, the answer (shockingly) may actually be more human interaction - even when the conversations are uncomfortable. Listen and laugh as Esther and Erica share their thoughts on some of the new technology that is impeding social skills.  If you enjoy "With That Being Said" and want more of Esther and Erica, check out their Instagram Live Show "Live with E+E" on Tuesday's at 12 PM EST. You can find E+E on both Esther and Erica's Instagrams (linked below). Esther's Instagram: @estherbmft Erica's Instagram: @rosewatertherapy Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word's Instagram: @therapyisnotadirtyword Links mentioned in the episode:  Sidewalk Talk LoveSync (the sex button) Kickstarter Uber Quiet Mode The Atlantic - Why Are Young People Are Having So Little Sex?
Dec 3, 2019
57 min
Unpopular Opinion About Forgiveness
On this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica share their "unpopular" opinion about forgiveness. They dive into the complexities of forgiveness, from the strict dictionary definition definition, to why there seems to be so much value placed on forgiveness. Esther and Erica make the case that forgiveness is a process, and not a destination and sometimes it's choosing between what takes more energy: to hate or to forgive. If you enjoy "With That Being Said" and want more of Esther and Erica, check out their Instagram Live Show "Live with E+E" on Tuesday's at 12 PM EST. You can find E+E on both Esther and Erica's Instagrams (linked below). Esther's Instagram: @estherbmft Erica's Instagram: @rosewatertherapy Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word's Instagram: @therapyisnotadirtyword
Nov 5, 2019
56 min
Don't Be Listening To Your Lil Instagram Friend
On this episode of "With That Being Said", Esther and Erica discuss all the internet advice you're reading and need to stop. They'll share examples of: - bad advice they've seen online, and what makes it bad - advice that isn't bad, but isn't good for you And will share tips on how you can evaluate what advice is helpful to you and what advice is not.  Upcoming Events Mentioned: - Viva Vienna (May 25-27th, 2019): more information about the event available at http://vivavienna.org/default.aspx  - Therapy Is Not a Dirty Word Q&A Happy Hour (May 31, 2019): more information and tickets available at  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/therapy-is-not-a-dirty-word-q-a-happy-hour-washington-dc-tickets-51824773292 
Apr 30, 2019
53 min
Let's Talk About Sex with Pam Costa
On this episode of "With That Being Said" we chat with sex and relationship coach Pam Costa.  We'll discuss a range of topics related to sex, including the importance of having a community you can talk candidly with about sex (especially for women!), what you can expect in sex therapy, and about open and poly-amorous relationships.   Pam's Website:  www.downtothere.com  Circles: www.downtothere.com/circles   Pam's  TEDx Talk: "Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire"
Apr 16, 2019
54 min
Self Care with Jerico Mandybur
On this episode of "With That Being Said" we chat with writer and self-care advocate Jerico Mandybur about how to manage your self-care and reclaim what brings you joy. We also discuss the role of social media in our lives, self-exploration and Tarot.  Jerico's Tarot Book and Deck available NOW -  Neo Tarot: A Fresh Approach to Self-Care, Healing & Empowerment Jerico's Website:  jericomandybur.com  Jerico's Instagram: @jerico.mandybur
Apr 2, 2019
40 min
Bad Parents
On this episode of "With That Being Said" Esther and Erica discuss two tragic cases of 'what were the parents thinking?' and discuss why it's not helpful -- and even dangerous -- to view people as wholly bad or good.  *Warning: this episode contains an audio clip about sexual assault that some listeners may find triggering.  Twitter Video:  pic.twitter.com/tQcA4Ogk91  Abducted in Plain Sight: https://www.netflix.com/title/81000864 
Mar 19, 2019
1 hr 4 min
Our Fave TV Couples
 In this episode Esther and Erica share their 3 favorite TV couples - who they think have the ingredients for a successful marriage (with some debate of course). *Spoiler Alert: the shows are linked below so don't click the link if you don't want to know the picks yet!* --The 'Good Enough' Couple --The 'Has The Potential To Go The Distance' Couple --The 'All Time Favorite' Couple
Mar 5, 2019
1 hr 12 min
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