Why do the patterns we most want to change keep showing up in our lives? In this episode, Sarah unpacks how behaviors like self-sabotage, perfectionism, or avoidance are actually rooted in younger parts that developed to keep us safe. Many of us come to parts work or IFS with an agenda to just “stop the pattern” — but that is actually not very effective. Real healing begins when we shift our focus from obtaining an outcome to understanding the deeper needs of the parts carrying our pain.